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YOur Community Guidelines..   Group Code of Conduct (GCC) 2020: Members’ Model Code of Collective_Conduct (MCC) has Vision & Values for better collective & collaborative experience & excelling by practice of ethics & etiquette.

One Grouplace, One Focus Area/Purpose.

Dissonating_Conflictive Vs Resonanting_Collaborative Group Messaging Protocols.

Dear Groupers, (Group Members), This is an Orientation Message, Let’s collectively Form Formidable Forums For Excellence which are Fortress of Focus & Foritudes.

5 Do’s & 5 Donts for Happy Group Experiences & Collective Evolutions. Lessons & Solutions from 50+ Community Groups.

Generic Groups Policy 2021 for groupers welfare & excellence:

Secret Spice in Creating Groups for Excellence. Insights from 30+ Community welfare groups, with 200-300+ Sharing Members.

Groups_Motto: Places More for the Needed Sharings & Cargos, Less for the Unnecessary Sparring personally of members.

The 5(R&Ds) guide-points below can be practiced for pursuing “collective-excellence” as allied Resource_groups or Contributional-groups by group-managing the “Signal to Noise ratio”(Signals:Noises) through Community_Communications’-Protocols.

The 3 points for Contributive-Groups: (3C Model of Communication)

Crux of Creation:

[1. Content + 2. Context + 3. Connection= Contributions with more Clarity & less Confusion.]

Useful_Content + Group_Context + Progressive_Connection = Constructive_Contribution.

Group-Ideology/Vision: is Groups-Excellence to Achieve Focused-Interests, Purpose & Collective-Growth.

Group-Methodology/Mission: Practice the 5R&Ds of Grp-policy. Better Share Links(URLs instead of data consuming and mind confusing Videos, Audios or Images) that makes all groupers think better.

Group-Futureology/Transmission: Create a Collective Movement-Uprising for Better Societies by Bettering Communities.

#GRouP-Philosophy/Policy4Excellence. #BetterGroup-Conduct & Better Group_Outcomes. For Groupizens. Form follows Function which follows Formers. What are #DAO-Groups? Like Charwak Philosophy of Rationality this is the #Panchwak (5Voices) Groupsophy.

The outside Digital-Nonsense (Selfish-working) enables worst practices increases Digital-clutters & Digital-threats (Unnecessary, Low value, spam or Noise)

While Digital-Smartness (Groupish-helping) empowers group best-practices increases digital-treasures. #Selfish_Vs_Groupish. The un-contributors take undue-advantage of the Groupplace (Without Contributing) while the Groupish give advantage to the group by clearly contributing.

“Tamasoma Jyothir-gamaya” (Sanskrit maxim). From limiting Group-meaninglessness to Transcendence with Meaningfulness.

The Group-Rules(Home_Rules) Gives the Rights(Protecting_Walls) and Duties(Developing_Doors) of the Admins & Groupizens(Members). The R&D Points are in alignment with The Indian Constitutionalisms and The Indian Penal Codes.

Group_Privileges(5Rs) & Group Responsibilities(5Ds). Every Privilege comes with a responsibility if done well sustains it, if neglected leads to loss of privileges.

Keywords /KeyIdeas: #DigitalSafety in Groups. Group-Ethics, Group-Culture, Group-Rules, Group-Excellence, Community-Rules & Ideas4Excellence, Collectivity+Connectivity and being witty. #Group-Maxims. Contributive-Community-Culture. Grouplace-language.

This page aims to Empower Positive-Group-Culture & Achieve Collective-Excellence. By Promoting Ethical Principles in members & action items for admins during violations.

Practicing these group_protocols helps in going from Environments of Enmity/Extremity(higher Negativity/Dissonance levels) to Environments of Excellence(Higher Positivity/Progress levels).

Critical Question #1: How do ‘mWe‘(Me+We) create GRPs: Groups Resolving Problems & Group Resourcing Purposes through Shared-Value Systems for Yous(You+Us).

Short Ans#1: By Group Sharing Knowledge and Actions as aligned and nearing optimized Ideal as much as possible.

Reiterating the Humane values in Model-Group Messaging is to carry ‘forward’ these…

“6 Core Values  for Excellence in Groups.”

1. Satyam (Truth of Facts),
2. Hitam (Benefits with Values),
3. Priyam (DueCare of Respect),

4. Mityam (MinimaL# & Short)

5. Lakshyam (Purposeful for Group Goals).

6. Netrutvam (Leads in Group to be Visionary, Missionary & Revolutionary).

These are the foundational principles of 40+ Groups in 4+ Communities unifying 3000+ groupers Members Globally.

More about Mindful & Useful GrouP Messaging here below.

Access to EoE-grps Here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1y69T6nB3DZ0T14Z6–ZHgCUW-sNmQcHpH07OMrTGUuM/edit?usp=drivesdk

There are 3 kinds of Cultured-societies Phliosophies_Ideologies & systemic Interactions:

1. Aligned_Contributive(+),

2. UnAligned_Neutral(0) &

3. ANTI-Aligned_Destructive(-)

The 5-R&D points on page here provide ways for the first kind by ‘3C a Contributive_Community_Culture’.

Listed Here is the ‘10-Guidelines for EoE-grps’ as Resource sharing-spaces of Values & Value, high Quality & collaborative Community of Purpose & Practices (CoPPs).

Dear Groupers, (Group-members/creators) this is the Manifesto of EoE-groups manifesting 3G(Generic Good Group)-Principles. Excellent groups have excellent people, and excellent people practice good generic group(3G) principles engaging in high standards of Interactions(SOPs) with Integrity, Purpose & Partnerships.

Imagine spectrum of groups on the right are focused & orderly effective groups (EoE groups by choice) on the other extreme are unfocused and ineffective disorderly groups (the EoC environment of chance). EoEs are group where members create, know & practice group-rules so that the groups rule themSELF effectively. Each msg is purposeful + addressed to all in the group.

Presenting like Astanga(8prt) Yoga(Union)Sutra(Manual), Here are The “Dus-Aanga Grupa-Sutra“(10prt Grps Manual) With Yama(Dont’s) Restrictive-Regulations & Niyama(Do’s) The Recommended-Rules.

We have been fortunate colLABorators, and Initiator-Investigators of multiple high-value & good quality groups/community forums in various formations (A2Z-Grps). The exposure & experimentative experience gained in them maybe encoded in the below R&D points. These are recommendations (to Members, Admins, grpRebels & grp’s-infiltraitors too) towards making our group experiences positive, of higher value/quality density, and for reaching ‘collective excellence’- This drive for excellence is the prerequisite for EoE-grps (Environment of Excellence) also termed as Interest-focus groups, Purpose-grps & ‘Resource-groups‘.

In a line, imagine the grp-spaces as creative arenas, where we can play our part that we choose & also help others play theirs well by setting up good group-rules as players, captains & referees/umpires as (TEAMS: Together Everyone Achieves More/Magic). When we, our instruments & our groupmates/team sync together, we create Music to ears & Magic for years. We Groupers Invite you to critically review these points which may help GRP’ify (GalvanizeResources2ProsperTogether) in our groups, communities & worlds.

Initial_Assertions: a Group is formed around an ‘Idea’, a Purpose and a shared vision(One Group, One Main Purpose). It may be reflected in its group name(e.g HumaRa-grp (HumanRightsAwareness group) or asserted in the grp-description (Health group, Education group, 4AwareIndia, 4ScientificIndia.. etc)

Group’s summarized simple Rule: {Facilitate Sharing more ‘Tonic-SIGNALs’ of Value(Gold), Reduce the ‘Toxic-NOISE’ of Wastage(Garbage)’ in the group-spaces}. This will make the Help/Hurt ratio of group, giving us positive-accrued actions. Goodly_Action(Su-karma) is one done by altruistic_Hands(Karna) with compassion(Karuna) as a duty (Kartavya) towards the Causes (Karta).

10 GuRuP Rules 4Group_Excellence {+++++ The Do’s +++++}

A. The 5-Required(R’s) ‘RIGHTS‘ : (Relevant, Reliable, Recent, Responsible & Resonant). (Increase Tonic-SIGNALs): CONTRIBUTIVE_Messaging.

(Integrative Helpful Actions)(+ve or ×ve)(Constructive-Cohesive Behaviour) (‘Us vs This’ or ‘#Us4This’ approach) (Niyama) +ADDValues. Positive Group-Ethics & Moral-Culture.

1. A.1. Relevant : We Together Strive to Share highly Relevant information/support in-line with the core focus & purpose(s) of the group(refer group-context in Description or project page). If unaware of the group purpose, read about the group & rules in description or ask the Inviter/admins/peers in the group. When in Rome, be like a roman. CoRelate & Share-Content (can be Text, File, Image/meme or Video) with Context Statement & Connect with the grp purpose-context & focused-Interests. Share should be relevant to most people in group. If not(Solutn:1) to protect grp-Intent the admins may Request & Remove/suspend msg/msgenger until satisfactory explanation given with request to be added.   Maxim1: Information with Intent/Context-line leads to Inflo-Integration. Formula1: Group_Contributions= 1.Content (What_msg(Past))+ 2.Context(Why_Relevance2group(Present)) + 3.Connect (Where_Link to Source/Future_Action). Consistent Good Contributions = Good Conduct.
2. A.2. Reliable : Make sure information shared in the group is true+authentic from Credible, Verifiable & Reliable-sources. Do a google/background check before you share in the group. ‘Share what you think with url links’ like for eg (ref: https//mysource.com). With references and citations we increase trustability of group-value. Prioritize info based on Hierarchy of Sources.
3. A.3. Recent/Reachable: Prioritize latest and new information in sharing, as old and expired messages without timestamps may be of no use & may repeat information, useless to anyone in the group. Check for Valid Date Stamp, time-venue, contact-info & other criteria before sharing. Make sure message is reachable to all in group I.e Vernacular Language + English Translations = Universal Egalitarian Access.
4. A.4. Responsible : When ‘I & me-thinking replaces ‘We’-thinking, then U become Us & more U’sful. When a critical mass in Group ‘take up Responsiblity’ for the group’s prime-purpose, process & success; then the information shared & Quality of Interactions will be more valuable and helpful to serve the group purpose & groupmates. At least do a preliminary self-review if it’s new information that you find. If false, fake, or misleading information is shared in the group address the issue responsibly & promptly. Settle Individually with msg-sharer first, if not we may address issue along with admins & groupmates. We AIM to prioritize Quality first, quantity of msg/msgners is next. If Some member is mis-matched with group purpose they can be Responsibly guided/moved to other Relevant Groups.
5. A.5. Resonant: Share being Aware/Listening to the Like Minds & Like Hearts in group, invite similar people to join, and like music, groups are ongoing symphonies(Give-Take,Listen&Say) make sure your messaging and participation resonates with collective ethos. Observe group actions, sync and add value to the group purpose. Group-Resonance creates the beauty of flocks of birds in sky or fish schools in the ocean. “Do’sage Does good. (We all-together coherently create the grp-culture of informative & supportive Environments of Excellence(EoE).

{×-×-× The Dont’s ×-×-×}

B. The 5-Dragging DoN’ts (5-Ds) ‘Duties not to’ :(Disturbance, Deviance, Delusion, Disrespect & Dissonance). DESTRUCTIVE Messaging.

(Groupers Aim to Reduce the Toxic- NOISE): (Disintegrative Hurtful/Harmful Actions)(-ve or ÷ve)(Destructive-Divisive Behaviour) (‘Us vs Them’ or ‘Me vs You’ Approach)(Yama) -REDUCELoss. Low level of Ethics & amoral-Culture.

1. B.1 DisturbaNce: Sharing Spam, memes visual or Textual Forward-msgs without context, irrelevant to group purpose, Targeting-Abusing unsolicited Slandering a member or group-identity or any-section of public, Graphic images (gory, offensive), Controversial-Provoking Instigatory/Inflammatory Msgs(Violence, Biased, Racist, Gendered, Political, Subjudice(in Court.. etc), click bait url-links, Latenight Group Msging(23-06:00 hours)Local Sleeptime of majority in IST) msging-duels(Primarily duo msgsing each other in group) & mobbing an idea or entity. This is offensive. (Solution1: Reason with the members to delete msgs from the group & not repeat behaviour, we may suspend from the group until justified2group or temporarily change group settings) (Maxim2: Content – grpContext =Confusion)
2. B.2 DeviaNce: Major Deviations from group purpose and focus, Abusive language or emojis. Objectionable, sexual, political, cultic or scam messages, Controversial hurtful content, Trolling, Trojan Horse & Oppressive or deviant undemocratic behaviours. Excessive msgs of Wishing Personal Birthdays, group can celeberate secular national non-religious fests common to ALL-CITIZENS like Independence Day, Republic Day, UN Human Rights day..etc Avoid Sectarian Religious Festivals Wishes or forwards in group, One may wish personally if wanting to wish. For difference between religious and secular festivals.(Solve1)
3. B.3. DelusioNs: People are fallible human beings, at stressful times can have altered states of mind(Groups-too) make sure we identify actions out of our emotional & mental states of mind/personalities (altered by, Hyper-Anger, Agression, Prejudice-Biases, Lies, Logical-fallacies, Emotional-Manipulation, Propaganda, Anger-Hate, Sleep deprived, mood swings, verbal violence-abuse, depression, medical conditions.. etc) dont engage and dont let others indulge in such modes/moods in group. Sol1 (Sol3: Know the spirit of a message & keep messaging within limits of sanity for group. Show Compassion before passion, We together create Ecosystems of Empathy(EoE).
4. B.4. DisrespectiNg: Let’s prefer not to shoot the messenger or get personal (You, YourX, @someone instead of @Something Individual-Pointing/ accusative language) in the group, (cyberbullying-mobbing) directly abuse, or offend a group member or related authorities/entities (character assasination) Name-calling’ eg: You or they are a Nazi, Racist, sexist, gender-ist, etc, instead focus on the message not messengers (use Impersonal+Descriptive language, ‘This Msg & statement aids Nazism, Genderism, Clanism.. etc, This Shared Content is…toxic, malicious etc). (Sol2: Show Respect to all as self. Encourage Diversity & inclusion of (Ideas, Religions, Regions, Languages, genders.. etc) by having prime neutrality (non-partiality) in group. Golden Rule of Treat others as Equals to own-self (Ethical). Address the irresponsible toxic pattern/behaviour in group with decency) Encourage ‘Devil’s-advocates’ but don’t encourage devils in form of trolling, personal attacks or ad-hominems. In group-communications Avoid Personalization & adopt principilization. Use Impersonal-Formal Communication instead of You/yours replace We or ones. https://www.thoughtco.com/name-calling-fallacy-1691413
5. B.5 DissoNant: A symphony is based on synchronicity, the group-decorum can be violated just like an untuned instrument, lets not create disharmony & get Noisy in the group causing group dissonance. People request silence or exit group is a signal. (Sol4: when the msg and senders are given feedback to self-correct & attune to group frequency/focus. Like in the beauty of moving flocks of birds or fish schools also keep an eye out for Predatory Birds & Sharks. Observe and expose any abuse of group space to help bring back to grp-coherence and rhythmic-resonance)

I believe these 5(R&D) points can be used in the right group-spirit of understanding 1.Roles, 2.Rules, 3.Rights 4.Responsibilities & 5.Resources we have as group-creators & practice building relationships & +ve group-spaces, to address individual actions/behaviour for excelling as a group/community/Idea-Entity.

10 R&D points in 1 sentence “In Groups Create/Share New-Sense (Be SELFS-ish) and Avoid any Nuisance (being self-ish)” (where ‘SELFS’=Larger Selves/CollectiveGroup & ‘self’ is individual ego or factional-thinking)

Unity is strength, and A ‘compassionate commUNITY’ is empowerment of ethics(EoE).

Vote Choice & Note Voices.

Healthy Collaborations bring wealthy Co-generations.

Regards,

GRP (Giving-Reasons, Pursuing-excellence)

I acknowledge the interactions in I2D & Saints group, also the initial suggestions from Kiran Kulkarni to think in these directions. And G&B group(Rajesh&Jenny) to help initiate & motivate in the writing process.

If there are any errors/scope for improvement in above points do bring it to notice of author in the below comments section. We may add, keep or suspend members from group based on their practice & compliance with above 3G group guidelines. Also any additional guidelines can be used as per customization.

The Feedbacks are always welcome.

References: https://m.timesofindia.com/india/whatsapp-group-admin-will-be-held-responsible-if-members-forward-any-hate-or-fake-message-on-covid-19/articleshow/75072283.cms

Goem on ‘GrpSpaces’.

A group can be a healing soup,

A warm broth(er) for a weakened soul,

Uniting purpose & people in a single loop,

Where Unity takes Stand and vanity cries foul,

A group is a creative space for people,

To connect, learn, share and excel,

A group is an expressive space for principles,

To manifest, reincarnate and be novel,

Sharing of members keeps the group’s quality/value high,

Caring community of friends that no money can buy,

-G.R Group Prasadh

Be the change you want to see in this world- MKG

Become the Group you want to see in this world- GRP

Powerful people come from powerful places- KGF

Purposeful people create purposeful places- GRP

I am in pursuit of (Group-Happiness) co-creating impactful group spaces(Ideantities- GRP Coined word) you(G-reader)can join us in this mission at these arenas listed:

Recently in December we created a *Group making record* by creating 7 Resource Groups in 24hours (BACE-Bengaluru Architects & Civil Engineers, MHT-MensHeartsTalk, BARI-grp, Bengaluru Kannadabhimani Group, DART🎯-grp Hyderabad & Bangalore TamFriends, )

Update 9/1/2021: To choose the best app for groups a quick poll/survey.

https://www.strawpoll.me/42415141/

With my experience with grps; We may observe types of people in context of grouping behaviour- groupers are 5 overall we can see listed below. Our coming together is by unknown chance but staying together is by our own decision-taken of choices & freedom-given of options. Identify the 5groupers by the group behaviours.

1.Group avoiders- avoidance of any grouping(5%)-wont join groups

2. quick quitters- being in group wait for opportunities to quit/exit groups(5%)

3. Long-stayers- are silent spectators in grp (80%).

4.Carer–Sharers(5%) sharing most group messages following the 5+veRs &

5. Disturbing-disrupters(5%) members practicing more 5-veDs.

In short 5 mindsets we have these choices 1.Keep away, 2.Walk away, 3. Stay Near, 4. Being Dear, 5. Bring Fear.

Lets create the group we want to see for the world.

One Idea is groups to be a place of DAO. Decentralized Autonomous Organizational space. https://www.investopedia.com/tech/what-dao/

https://www.cornerstoneondemand.com/resources/article/10-rules-effective-peer-peer-communications/

I am a tale of two cities. I was fortunate to have my childhood flooded with love from citizens of 2 cities, my Paternal & Maternal cities are the capitals of 2 states. I have lived in the contrast & similariTIEs of both.

This page is intended for anyone who with their Balanced mind (+ve Logical), Empathic heart (+ve Emotional) & Informed friends (+ve Social) wants to #understand2help the phenomenon in the below positions of :

1.Thirdperson (Unrelated-public), 2.SystemicallyRelated- 2.5Person (Medico-legalProfessionals(Counsellors, Medics, Media CivicServices,Orgs, Social services, System-Architects. etc,)

3.SecondPerson (Relatives+friends+colleagues)

4.Self+ExtendedPersons (As Themself & NearFamily(Emotional/Genetic/Historic)

These resources provided are for people who may have curiosity, unanswered questions and need helpful resources to heal, for closure & regain stability in lives of (Self & OtherSelves).

ShortAns: We can help to heal lives, It depends who the ‘Someone‘ is/was and what is the extent of healing ‘Relationships‘ is needed for the void in the social fabric caused by the loss.

SelfDeclaration: I am writing this fully self aware being an optimist, with a healthy outlook of life. Have been a loss survivor am I am Seeking2Share health info for myself+others. If people are trying to read mind/heart of author through this post: rest assured I want to live myself, as yourself & others for 100+ years. We are Thrivours(GRP coined word Thrive+Survive). We Believe and serve The higher power & higher purposes. I BELIEVE EVERY LIFE IS HIGHLY VALUABLE AND EACHONE IS A PARTICLE OF GOD & I WANT TO SERVE THAT ESSENCE IN ALL by the ethos of ‘Unite & Serve‘ the lightworkers(+ve Angelic forces). Saying this we also see that there are negative demonic forces in the world too that corrupts & dominates by ‘Divide & Rule‘.

I write this below 3 points from 2 perspectives. One from the perspective of general AwarenesSharing & another as a close observer of life experiences of ‘loss survivors‘ .

1. (@Individual Level) Root causes of SUICIDE is addressable,healable & suicide is preventable with right treatment & Social support-awareness; as written here (https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/education-awareness/shareable-resources-on-suicide-prevention.shtml)

Individuals thier family & wellwishers can get connected with suicide and health helplines that are accessible nearby(104 in India), also with aware & caring resources & individuals around.

We believe ‘Live & Help Live‘; This is Project PRIYAMitras here: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/01/26/s45-i-want-us-all-to-survive-thrive-my-tryst-with-suicide-prevention/

2. (@Group Level) The Trauma Caused by Suicide on loss survivors is Healable with support & right guidance+efforts; (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-yourself/loss-survivors/)

Families, friends, colleagues, acquaintance, strangers, gatekeepers anyone with ‘gud intent’, can Reachout to social welfare & health professionals & infrastructure like government helplines(104 in India), also bereavement support groups which can help in healing the death induced trauma.

For Parents: https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/parents-helpline/

For elderly: similar to bereavement

For Siblings: https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/what-to-do-when-your-brother-or-sister-is-suicidal-how-to-support-a-sibling-in-crisis/

For MediaPersons: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201705/suicide-in-the-media

For relatives & friends: click link

Listen to Richard Miller – Yoga Nidra Heals Trauma by Untangle on #SoundCloud
https://soundcloud.app.goo.gl/1JpU

3.@(Public-Society Level) Pro-life Resources & Support available for public & society; https://save.org/what-we-do/public-awareness/ .

For all who love life(Self+Others): Be aware & alert for loved ones. Anybody anywhere can get hurt physically and need help from aware & resourceful capable individuals & spaces. similarly anybody can get hurt emotionally, neurologically, & socially who can be healed by awareness and interventions.

There are 3 choices/roles for any actors in a Systemic problem listed below..

1. ObservationProviders(80%) 2. ProblemProviders(10%) or 3. SolutionsProviders(<10%) (PRIYAMitras4India & DearAllys4World)

The paretos principle applicable to this situation:

I believe Our future SOCIETY DEPENDS ON THE CRITICAL SOLUTIONPROVIDERS actions if WE & more people support/join in as solution providers CAN REDUCE THE SOCIAL PROBLEMS #HEALTHEWORLD FOR SUICIDE-PROOFING OUR SOCIETY.

Why I believe this is here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/the-great-philosophers-emile-durkheim/

Earlier written posts https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/09/21/sep-10-international-suicide-prevention-awareness-day/

You may leave your +ve helpful comments below:

GPoem oN “Life & Strife“:

The Novice Cry out writh pain, Helpers try out with Cure.

Life is Living Inquisitively For Experiences,

Life has levels, ups & downs at various instances,

Life is paradise as a child moving happily in the rosy gardens,

Life strikes pain when he steps unseen into a hole of ferns,

With Bleeding wounds the child/novice tries removing the thorns,

Limping & crying out with tears yet the pain is not gone,

His cries are heard by gardeners, nearStrangers & his dearones,

Knowing the cues they reachout for his rescue,

They lift him up, remove the thorns & apply cures,

Thanks to the helpful gardeners and the curing hearts,

He is back on his feet & the instance seldom repeats,

He has become a gardner now striding life with booted feets,

Dont fear the garden he now says there is hope; we can cope.

There are helpful ones to be found for the fallen who grope(group).

He now clears the garden of thorns on the ground,

Keeping the paths safe for novice children around.

The space he creates attracts lot of butterflies and bees,

Gardening rose & fruits for children keeping out other beasts,

Life is Living Inquisitively For Experiences,

May our life be Love Infinite, For Every-dearones.

-GRP(GoodnessReachingPeace)

I am a human too, if there is any mistake in the texts above do let me know, we can correct it for the next reader of this hearticle.

I found a reason a victim(also bystanders/observers) deserve to know here; this is counter-intuitive reality:

How persons/groups beliefs in the just-world-phenomenon will facilitate creating and sustaining an unjust environment & world?

Self discovery here: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-just-world-phenomenon-2795304

‘X-archy’ : This is the pattern of dominant(overARCHing) power acquisition & accumulation and ruling the system(EnForcement or Inforcement) . Where ‘X‘ can be any entity or idealogy.

Om Namo DattaTRIya(7/12/22). TRIambakam. #BasicTrinity.

1. Few Real Example of Matriarchy: in India N-E & South western states have matriarchal societies. https://www.townandcountrymag.com/society/tradition/g28565280/matriarchal-societies-list/

2. Some Real Examples of Patriarchy:

1. https://m.dailykos.com/stories/2016/4/13/1514315/-Religion-101-Religion-and-Patriarchy

2.https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/5050/decoding-dna-of-patriarchy-in-muslim-family-laws/

3. Some derived examples in animal societies: https://biznewske.com/matriarchal-vs-patriarchal-societies/

3. Some Examples of Transexualism: The Privilieged Trans-Communities in history. https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/medicine-and-dentistry/transsexualism

In every X-Archy there are 4 Sections 1. Dominants: 2.Cooperatives: 3.Marginalized & 4.Rebels

Gender is not Bipolar, there is gender-Trinity(Male-Female-Trans/Intersex) can be represented by Black, White & Grey.

The Ratio of 4 is the Dominance2Servitude Ratios also the Dominants can be Toxic-Dominants (Autocratic-Leaders) Positive-Dominants (Democratic-Leaders) eg.. People with Positive-Masculinity/Feminity qualities exude as Democratic-Leading. Toxic-Masculinity, Toxic-Feminity exhibit Autocratic-Dominance.

Our common enemies may be All Toxic-archies, complex-archy, most importantly, Narc-archy, Olig-archy, Communist-archy, plutarchy, Patri+Matri-archy, DominantCaste-archy, Techno-archy(Technocracy).. etc

And our common goal maybe Humane-archy, or Morale-archy or Pan-archy.. where Humane & Morale Values Dominate or facilitate our Democracy and Egalitarian-Excellence.

Where ‘x‘ can be in context of any differential variable(Class, Gender, race, caste-creed, age.. etc) at different places, levels & eras:

1. patri(Masculine) Patriarchy

2. matri(Feminine), Matriarchy

3. Tranny(InterSex),

4. Equi(Equal),

5. Anarchy(None).

6. Panarchy(Rule by All)

In context of Orientation it can be 1. Hetero-archy, 2. Homo-archy 3. Asexual-archy

Or ‘X’ can be further in context of Socio-Political Ideology

1. Communist-archy (China, Russia,Cuba, etc) Extreme-Leftist.

2. Capitalist-archy (America, France, Germany..etc) Extreme-rightist

3. Democratic_Socialistic-archy. India, Non-Aligned Movement and Centerists.

We can further see in the Domination-suppression spectrum which forces take which side.

We can extend this to 4. Monarchy(King/Queendominated), Oligarchy(Buisnessmendominated), Thearchy(Theocratic-religion dominated), Elderarchy(Elders Dominated), An-archy(no-one/everyone dominated)

The expression of these invisible idealogical-systems are visible in abusive behaviours through Toxic Feminism(FemiNazi), Toxic Masculism(Male Chauvinism), & Toxic Intersexism(Tranny Abuse & bullying).

The reality is we all have 4 choices.. in how these-archies (Tendencies to Dominate) affects us and how we affect it.

1.To Equate (Treat someone on par-equal, golden rule of seeing others as ourselves), Share Power (Rights, Respect &Responsibility) Equanimously. Choice Contributes Towards Inclusive-Egalitarianism & empowerment by Servant leadership.

2.To Dominate (Treat someone as below us to subjugate, oppress and overule), Hold on to Power & Status 100% without sharing. Attitude Contributes to Exclusive-Elitism.

3.To Submit & Accept(Be Submissive to dominant powers of oppression & rule of one/few over others). Give away more powers to Tyrannical-Agents. Contributes to Victimhood & Slavism.

4.To resist & Assist (To resist the oppression and not submit to the domination and help the victims of oppression). To not give away ones power(Self Respect, Rights & Responsibilities), support to Empower the oppressed & disempower the oppressing.

I hope this helped in the understanding of the voices around us and the choices we all have to make a difference.

There are 3 roles to play in this game of power(Positive-Power & Negative-Power) (Domination-Subjugation)

1. Dominant-Oppresser & Enablers, /Empowerers

2. Target-Victim & Helpers, (Suppressed or Resistant)

3.Bystanders/Onlookers (Active, Passive, Critical or Proactive).

I BELIEVE The key to how this game moves is with the Active Bystanders(Morally Aware, Activists NGOs,Peacemakers,HRDefenders, counsellors) supporting the Resistant (intended-victims)mostly (child,aged,Lady, underprivileged, labourers, lower caste,physically- legally, systemically weak.. etc). This can help us reach Equiarchy or Synergistic-Archy where all co-operate Synergistically without X-Discriminations and X-Exploitations which can minimize Traumatic-victimization and benefit the society & systems as a whole.

Why am I Viewing & Exploring this perspective: https://lightlynews.com/2019/09/26/learning/what-students-are-saying-about-the-bystander-effect-fraying-friendships-and-endless-wars/

Reference: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/08/01/the-dangerous-3ns-the-empowering-3-es-which-fight-them-for-us-from-abuse-to-an-awakening/

The Gender Scandal: Part One (Scandinavia) and Part Two (Canada)

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/patriarchy-shmatriarchy/

Latin Maxim “Caveat Emptor” (Buyer Beware) : my Maxim “Caveat Suitor/Relator” (Lover/Marrier Beware) to prevent Love-Frauds (Love-Conversions, Elopements, Love-Scams, Love-Jihads, Love-Crusades, Love-Hindutva, Bride/Groom-Kidnappings, Fake Dowry Cases, grandparent abuse by narcs & 498Jailing etc..).

Before and after Independence of 1947 to 1987(40 years) there were Joint_families(4+Members).. 1987 to 2007(30years) there were disjointed Nuclear-Familes(3 to 4 Fmembers) now 2007 to 2027(20 years) there are Denucleated Electronic Familes. (E-FamiLIES I.e 2 people legally_married or sexually_related long term Seperated with or without Alienated-isolated Brainwashed Children).

How to move from Electronic to Atomic to Nuclear & to Molecular Families.?

Civics Education may create more interest in Civics & more Civilized Kids.

Science Education Creates more interest in Science and more Scientific Kids.

Sex-education may create more interest in sex and more Sexualized Kids. What do You think?

Relational Education (Familiality, Home-Sciences, Genders & Responsible-Sexuality) and can create better Genders-peace, Positive Familialized Kids.

For Better Families and Futures what is required more.. Social_Relational-education(Includes HealthySexuality) How to have a Family? or Sexual-education (Physical Intercourse awareness) How to have Sex.. etc..

Relational Education= SocioCulturo-Religio Group_Dynamics+ Inter_Family_Dynamics + SexualGender_Dynamics + Interpersonal_Dynamics + IntraPersonal_Dynamics.

Inter-Idealogical Relationship have incompatibilities for relational-Conflicts. Compatible-Idealogies have lower relational-risks and more marital-safety.

KeyWords/Phrases: Uneducated in Relationship-Education, Relational-Safety Gender-Sex Sensibility, Values+Morality Literacy & Marital-Literacy. Risky & Safe Marriages. Social Knowledge-gaps. Maritally-Vulnerable, Marital-Risk/Benefit, Relational/Marital-Compatibility >Sexual Compatibility, Sustainable-Matrimonials. Marital-Fraud Prevention. Relational-Fraud Prevention. Relational-Value Creation. Gender-Spectrum Reality-Check. Marital-Screening&Scrutiny 4Safety&Security. Ethical-Rational-Legal Relationships, Relational-Security & Family-Empowerment. SafeMarital Model 2022.

This is a Write-up for understanding factors of Relational Vulnerablities in the era of disruption, among the systemically weakened sections part of morally challenged systems. (Updated 4/4/21) with gendered, interpersonal & intergenerational-discords .

This sounds sophisticated!! because it attempts to talk of the phase of life, which is most complicated of all the stages; The procreative-reproductive stage. Reading this May Help one to prevent Toxic Unhealthy Relationships & help select Tonic-Healthy Relationships. It can help create Trouble-free Relations & Intergenerational Families, married life and a ‘Divorce-less India/World’.

Let’s re-try in simple terms this is an ARTicle “to understand how the (Innocent/RelationallyIlliterate) persons(family/groups) the easy-going, stand in social (personal/professional) relations with diffiCult people or entities in defective or lacking systems (Social-Educational-financial-legal..etc) so that they can move towards being aware and mature (Relationally-MaritallyLiterate)“. Here we go, made it little easier on the ear and mind for G-ders now, and trying to make the issues easier for our Collective-heart and soul when we readup and question ourselves upto the end of this page. This may save your marriage or save you from Toxic-marriages (Death Traps) please read it completely with reference links too. It’s intended to positively influence the Future Relational Structures, Quantity & Quality of Positive-Tonic Relationships.

Here proposed Is the Theory of Marital Relativity, its equation is simple ‘E= MC.C’ where E can be Positive or negative or zero..

E(+ve)=Excellence= Marital-Collaboration/Cooperation (Integrative)

& E(-ve)= Marital-Corruption/Competition (Disintegrative).- by Gulbert Prastein.2021.

See the DailyGlocalNews: Why are there increase in issues of childhood pregnancies, premarital-sexuality, Child abuse & rapes? Why Good Longterm Marriages are delayed, reduced and extramarital affairs or seperation/divorce rates are getting higher annually? Why choiced Single-parenting & increasing? Why Fertility Rates of nation dipping?, Even what are causes of troubled/ Eloped marriages and dishonor killings. Why are there Dowry Cases(Real+Fake), Domestic Violence real & False accusation cases?

Where are our traditional or modern Marito-Judicial Systems, Old Parents-Relatives & young untrained/misguided brothers, sisters & Bro-isters losing their X-ity, Sanity, rationality, morality, virginity, dignity, sovereignty, community, & Humanity. This post may help the Genderists & Racists (Feminists, Meninists & Transgenderists) to understand the full spectrum & probabilities of Gender Identities-orientations, Idea-Systems & idealogies relevant to Coupling & Families.

Is it lack of proper planned ‘sex education’, Gender Awareness and ‘family planning’ awareness or the lack of ‘Relationship education’ and ‘Life Planning’ awareness? Solutions: Could we prepare young minds about right Social-Familial intercourse & types of Character-conducts & Multilevel-Compatibility (Self, Family & Community) more before introducing them to sexual intercourse & types of protectors–condoms. Can we Create Helping-Empowering Info-systems which prevent hurting-endangering engagements, positions & configurations and aids Sustainable-Integration (Facilitating HappyGamy).

My Dear Brothers, Sisters & Bro-isters (Grp-Created to refer Non-Binary Genders) can you please answer this one GK Question?

What could be ‘one common thing’ among personalities-characters of Past (eg. Cleopatra, Alexander, Mandodari, Indira Gandhi) and present personalities like Anjelina Jolie, Modi and Mallya? Even the best minds arent immune to it.. Topping IAS or Sensex does’nt guarantee marital-success. What may help is topping IMS (Indian Marital Services) & IFS (Indian Family Service).

You will be able to connect it deeply at the end of reading this page here.

Abstract: Must Know Concepts & tough Stuffs about partnership and relationships mainly for Young People(16-30+yrs), Romantic Partners, Fiancees and also old people Parents, friends & well or hell wishers to be aware-alert about (R.Q Score: Relational/Marital Quotient) in our society!!! With 3 most important Questions. The Keys to be unlocked here is (E.O.A.R) Educate, Organise, Associate, Replicate.

For a happy life there are thousands of choices and decisions we all make daily, , Monthly, yearly or lifely(few times in life). So What are the Top 3 right decisions areas for a successful Fulfilled life?. Here enlisted are things no one or maybe few will tell you, but one needs to know for their own & families safety and welfare. Reading this Content- post the readers can be able to differentiate between Which partnerships /marriages are made in Heaven(Happy) & which are made on earth(Okey) & which are made in hell(Crappy).

This content is intended for the relationally and socially vulnerable but may be of interest to all people wanting to know about the unclear Terms & Conditions for “a happy personal(Married or Unmarried) life!!”.

By reading, understanding and openly discussing this post the G-ders will be able to see the subtle differences which can make successful, stable, failed or risky-deadly partnerships, relationships or friendships.

This post informs & advocates the G-ders that the 3 critical decisions and choices we all make for a good life are in our 1.School-College(Eg.Brindavan) @Education, 2.Office-Workplace(Eg.Kurukshtera) @Career, 3.Home(Eg.Dwaraka) @PersonalLife

Which in another form is

1. Study (Formal-informal)(Qualifications),

2. Work(Job-Organization) &

3. Familial-Relations, in short(C.E.O.A)

0. Conceptional (-0-9 months of Conceiving & pregnancy) Pre-Natal & Neo-natal & Natal Parameters.

(1.Education(1-14+yrs(min avg),

2.Occupation(14-18yrs onwardsMin avg),

3. Association+Procreation(optional some Prefer No-marraige or to be Childfree) (18+Girls,21+Boys legal indians).

(For ease of remembrance we may link it to Childhood(Learn), Youthood(Earn), Adulthood(Spawn), Seniorhood(Inward-turn) & finally Elderhood(100yrs Optimistic)(In–urn), in Indian philosophy relatable to Garbha-Balya(0-Puberty), Brahmacharya(Puberty-Maritality), Grihastha(Maritality-Retirement), Vanaprasta(Retirement-SpiritualSurrender), Sanyasa(SpiritualSurrender-PhysicalDeath) & Samadhi(To Eternity).

This post is an attempt to Objectively observe productive, destructive or reproductive partnerships, groups & families and ask 3 most relevant questions related to adulthood and the social practice of Association & Replication (procreation-reproduction) commonly know as ‘marriage’ ( ‘LiveIns’ & Sexual Relationships) ;

1. What do we think are ‘marriages’ ? (Plural intended)

2. What could be the few premarital-factors that highly impact post-marital family-life & future relationships? (Paretos Principle applied to marriages)

3. How to see hidden differences between ‘Safe Marriages’ and ‘Risky Marriages’? (in general ‘healthy-unhealthy Partnerships/relationships)

Improve your MATE score: If there is a must read for Teen-relationships & Pre-Marital awareness anywhere in the real or digital world it may be collected on this page(Plz leave your comments), I have not found this very relevant content anywhere else so creating it here. Feel free to critique, suggest in comments & most importantly share as a pre-marital gift to our highly educated yet Maritally/Morally illiterate and Maritally/Sexually/Relationally vulnerable friends and younger generations.

Intent& Intro: I’m writing this for my brothers (HGP,NP,MK,AR,JTR,VJ(@Blr)+KR,PR(Hyd)and 2dearones who have asked for it & others may surely benefit from the experiential models & resources accrued herein). I intend this article-page also as a tool to aid making Relationship(marital)-decisions in life(useful4 to 18-40yrs) for my sisters (VG,KG,DG@Blr) & (Cousins @Hyd) and Familiatives(/GRP), extended relatives, colleagues, friends & of course my beloved curious G-ders(readers) & more beloved furious G-ritics(Critics). I’m making this inclusive of our friends in all stages of their lives on the spectrum. I acknowledge the extensive gpg’s 121 intellectually deep & emotionally high discussions & debates on this subject with (GajeGowri, GajananK, Nobin, Naveen, Mathn, Hra, Shrthi, Shridhr, SRS, Vani, Mnjsh and many more open-minded & like-hearted souls)

I have a been able to gather valuable perspectives & principles, I shall present here for U-se and materials here are from my personal GRP(Good, Reasonable or Painful-Pleasurable) experiences and knowledge till now(2020). This may have personal biases as an Indian born in the eighties with parents born in the 40-50s & with relatives-friends divided in 3 Linguistically different states. We shall attempt to make it as generic as possible so the ideas and processes shown here can be applicable & beneficial to any human of teenage or marriageble age & families attempting to walk the uncertain path.(henceforth refered as ‘GRPs Uncertainty principle of relativity’ :))

“Marriages may be made in heaven, earth or hell depending on few critical factors here we can tell & some we can spell” -GRP

3 Vital Questions on the Relational/Marital path.

Q1. Relational-Marital: What do you think are marriages?

My Personal Answer: “Marriages are socio-legal constructs & Contracts of various types, deriving from the biological needs of bonding & survival of (Ideas, Individual, Family, community & society) to satisfy the expectations of self, evolution, religion(Ideo-Systems) & imaginations“. Personally I can imagine it being devised in pre-historic age by tribes to formalize the relationship between 2 or more individuals(entities) to integrate the association & relationships within their tribe & lives. Why am I referring to ‘marriages’ and not ‘marriage’ is because we see that each modern urban marriage in India is not simple(Mono-cultural) but complex (multi-in One) (can be classified in many ways, Hindu marriage, Christian marriage, Muslim marriage, inter-class marriage, inter-state/cultural marriage, inter-sectional marriage, inter-X or Intra-Y marriages, good arranged marriages, badly arranged marriages, true Love marriage, false eloped marriage, love cum arranged marriage, fake marriage, Lesbian/Gay marriages(Underground), love jihadi marriage(original motivation is love for their Religious beliefs & material benefits not the others)…etc.

The list being complex & endless, so for our context-study & reference I-GRP propose that we can simplify it on a Safety-Risk Scale/spectrum from two sides.. Right side being..

1.Safe marriages/Relationships‘(High TrustWorthiness, Helps/Benefits More Individuals+Families+Societies). Outcomes of High Morality-Checks & Procedural Standards of match-making.

And left or wrong side being

2. Risky marriages/Relationships'(Low Trustworth, Hurts/Costs to More Individuals+Families+Societies). Outcomes of low or zero morality-checks & Procedural standards.

depending on the understanding of vulnerabilities & risk levels for ‘an individual/pair/family/families/communities‘. Every relationship/group has ‘Unifying factors/forces’ and ‘Disintegrating factors/forces’; a safe relationship/marriage is where main factors are considered & systems address them safely as choices (Tested & Trusted)(Humare gyan aur Vigyan Bharose) in the partnership to get more unifying forces(Good Families, Marital-Systems, Trustworthy-Reliable Idealogies) to empower the relationships towards harmony, while a risky Relationship/marriage is when critical factors are left to chance (Untested & Untrustable)(Astroillogy, Ignorant Parents, Commercial MatchMaking, Dating apps, negative Idealogies, Pandit-Mullah-Pastor ya Bhagawan ke Bharose) where the disintegrating factors/forces disempower the relationship towards chaos/disharmony.

Every relation is dynamic and the strength of it depends on the value created & sustained for ‘it’- the Relational/Marital bond by not only the 2+ parties(Spouses+Families) but also by the extended families & extended circles of influencers and stakeholders. But there are key factors of safety which may be used to predict the Harmonious flow & outcome of the relationships.

A brief history/background of my exposure to this institution: My Paternal-Maternal Grandparents & both my parents had been married (not knowing the Hindu Marriage Act nor the Dowry/DV acts) with total marital experience of 180+ years for the 3 couples. I have read books thoroughly “Concepts of physics by H.C Verma”, but nowhere did we read Concepts of Risk-ics by O.C Marma/Dharma. So this post throws light at the pitch dark corners of society where pits exist & vampires tread.

Lets inspect while Dis-SECTing the phenomenon of marriages & removing any religious socio-cultural or Sectarian connotations. it functionally facilitates interaction & integration through channels of partnership & collaboration between 2 individuals at lower micro level, families as meso- level & communities at a larger macro level.

It is the most critical personal/familial decision (Along with Education & Career Decisions) which affects the future of the budding Marital-family life of not only the individual but also their families, relatives, communities & world as well (eg Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk’s Marriages, SSR’s Live in.) . Ground Realities maybe far from the one shown in movies, TV serials, news media or in personal circles and as subtleties & complexities would not get TRP, viewers or advertising(TRP Scam).

There are critical questions persons who are participating in the marriages (Groom,Bride,Parents,Relatives& marriage facilitators (Religious reps, Registrar etc) need to share among the marriage parties, know-hows, to understand and define for themself and their partners+ stakeholders.

What is the core purpose of marriages & Relationships?

As this is a subject no science or arts or popular academic courses offer(excepting few in humaniTIES(needed in Home Science courses) and there is a serious gap & lack in understanding thereby causing less safe and more ‘risky marriages’ and partnerships to take place. Many are highly educated about ‘safe & unsafe sex'(Thanks to formal & informal Sex Education in media & internet) but only a few might know about ‘safe marriages’ and this attempt here is to make more people aware and alert about knowing the importance of marriage as an important ‘life decision’, as there is less access to courses of ‘Marital/Relational Education or Literacy Programmes‘. This life making gap this article intends to fill.

Marriages are for Socio-legal copulation between two individuals so that the collective can maintain or increase its population and the state, religion or clans can have relevance and sustain life.

You may find many Civil Enginners or Civil Legal Specialists but what you will not find is Civics-Engineers. Who may educate public in this: https://www.wikihow.com/Choose-the-Right-Partner-in-Life

GRPsRelationalRealityCheck1 : Ask yourself and your parents and loved ones the Question#1 also your partners and inlaws to understand their perspectives. Of “What are kinds of marriages happening around?” see where the answers lie on the Naivety-expert spectrum. You will see the in-experienced struggle to answer it, the ill-experienced may answer it in a painful way & the well-experienced answer it in a pleasurable way. All are valid but you may be aware of your biases in the answer.

The married life spectrum between the Crappy2Happy marriages extremes depends on the gap/overlap of your side model of a marriage and the other sides model marriage. The deviation causes ‘Relational Dissonance‘ and more ‘critical commons’ cause ‘Relational Resonance’ within any relationship.

This is a co-creative article. We can collaborate with ur feedback to improve it. I shall acknowledge ur partnering.

IGRP-Observe MARriages can be  reMARkable or MAR bright futures. This is a Trial to GRP(GetRightPerspectives) with this article. I invite my Glog readers my dear ‘G-ders’ to write your answer for your understanding of what are ‘marriages’ in your view. And WE shall answer the following 2 questions consequently. Are u aware about ‘Marital Literacy’.? Do share it may help “more Swatch Bharatiya, Swatch Parivars & less Tutch Pari-WARs in our common Indian Futures”. MARRIAGE preparation courses are very less aware or taken in India(Socially Disadvantaged & underdeveloped nation/society).

Coming up.. 2 more questions…

Q2:Relational-Reality : What could be the few premarital-factors that highly impact post-marital family-life & future of relationships? (Paretos Principle in Familial relations)

There are 2 broad category of factors Internal factors & External factors of the individuals impacting the Bi-partisan(Monogamy) or Multipartisan(Polygamy) relationship listed out here.

1. (External ENVIRONMENTAL Factors)(Nurture) A.The Expectations-Models of successful marriages in the persons home (Parents&close Relatives). B. Societal factors around them (Religion, close friends, office colleagues, movies, other influences), communities they are part of and integrated with (Religiosity, Fundamentalist & extremist Idealogies,(Love-Jihad, Dominant Caste/Race-Jihad), politicalLeanings, Neighbhorhood attributes), C. Prior exposure & experiences in regards of romantic, marital(Pre,Post & Extra), & sexual behavioural patterns. D. The magnitude of Critical Gaps/Distances (Spatial, Temporal, Occupational, Cultural, etc)

2. (Internal FACTORS)(Nature) Biological- Genetic Predispositions A. (Gender identity & sexual orientation(Straight,Lesbian,Gay,Bisexual or Asexual) and emotionality) B. (Sexual hormonal levels(Testosterone/Estrogen ratio), C. Medical history (Female(PCOD), Male(ED) & Shemale Reproductive Systems errors, Age Differences(Generation-Gap), Psychological history of trauma and abuse. D. Personality Personal Values & belief(Religiousity) E. Morality(Ethics) Trustworthiness, F. Maturity & awareness level of understanding, G.(IQ,Emo-Q& R.Q RelationalQ, Social/Spiritual Q) scores H. Body-Love languages

Consolidated there are 3 critical things in a marital relationship with high probability of alignment or conflict.

1. Real (Physical/Emotional/Psychological/Moral/Spiritual) Values & needs (Not what is projected out but what is it in reality)(Honey)-Past (Outcomes)(Function of Systemics, Genetics & Education(Moral, Cultural, Spiritual, Sex, Scientific-Humanities-Arts and institutional) and Experiences (Exposures,Environmental & Idealogical)

2. Personal/Familial Financial/Material needs & Earning-spending patterns (Money)-Present (Incomes)(Financial Education-Training) here need to note the principle of ‘Hypergamy‘.

3. Child Expectations, Parenting styles needs & patterns (Progeny)-Future. (Outlook)(Familial & formal education) some may choose being Childfree.

These three critical factors make heavy difference to any familial or Romantic-relationship.

We have TriSynced words for these 3 criteria here:

1.Honey (Valued Essences-Intrinsic)

2.Money (Extrinsic)

3.Progeny (Futuristic)

If we can give one important checkpoint for less risky marriages do find out (Indepth and wide breadth Background verification) the more u know of self and the other party before you marry the better for less surprises and road blocks ahead. where the person/family stands on the Narcissistic-Empathic Spectrum and then decide/choose to have a formal socio-legal relationship, the more narcissistic the ‘SelFamily'(Highly SelfCentered & Selfish-Higher Materialistically engaged(Wealth,Property,Money, power oriented (‘dominate over others/Acquiring4Self/Lower Purposes’ Narc supplies) the higher the risk for the mismatch for normal & empathic families (highly selfless, SocialCentered, Ethical, Moral & spiritually engaged (Wellbeing, Prosperity4all, Harmony, Empowerment oriented (‘Assimilate/Integrate with others’, Acquiring4WiderSelves/ HigherPurposes).

This is highlighted in a wrong relationship choice of a high profile Indian brother: I have detailed here https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/08/01/the-dangerous-3ns-the-empowering-3-es-which-fight-them-for-us-from-abuse-to-an-awakening/

GRPsRealityCheck2 : ask yourself (parents,Friends, Relatives & life guides or mentors, coach) this MaritalRealityQ2, my experience is you will not find any worthwhile answer not even attempts from the many-majority(80%), few superficial answers from the naive & interested(19%) and more in depth well informed answers only from experienced empaths & HSPs (1%), free thinkers, viewsharers willing to share and care about people & principles including self, you and your life. Check my experience with yours to get & validate your reality. The answer & number of answers u will find for this question will reflect the individuals connected circles position on the Narc-Empath spectrum.. our society & individuals will get gains when in a more empathic environment & more pains when in a less empathetic and more narcissistic/materialistic environment. Our visions are for a world with StrongFamilies (More Functional-Traits less Dysfunctional- or PsuedoFunctional Traits) which help Personal+Social Goals and we have created a group to promote keep “Family First” its called the ‘art of family group’ ur invited to join as a family https://chat.whatsapp.com/HpB9n2RPwBS0J5UMDAMIo8

Q3. What are the differences between ‘Safe Marriage/Partnerships‘ and ‘Risky Marriage/Partnerships‘?

Relational-Reality CheckQ3: Before reading ahead Ask yourself/ and maybe your close ones in family the above question. Expected answers are what do you mean by safe marriage, what risks are there in marriage or more aware ones (Marital experts, Marriage brokers, Counsellors, Police, Legal experts, Social workers etc) may know more deeper reality into it, daily seeing all sides of the coin.

Many of us Indians may know the difference between a love, live-in relationship & arranged marriage, most civilized societies have popular ideas of what’s difference between a successful, troubled & failed marriage/relationship. But what are the differences between ‘safe marriage’, ‘reasonable risk marriage’ & Highly risky marriage deals? There are few critical differences to be understood.

What maybe the personality traits & collectives factors leading to success or failure of relationships? Most are connected with one word its ‘Trustworthiness’ of that relation.

1. Safe Relation/Marriages: Here The ‘risk score’ in the relation is 0-1/5 we may get projected overall ‘Relational/Marital harmony score’ of (7/10-10/10) with median Relational-Compatibility Scores. If we consider a general Normal distribution curve of 10:80:10 ratios we can say 10% of the marriages may fall in this category.

The 3 main components in assessing the safety-risk levels in a marriage are:

1. Internal (Personal & Genetic Factors): The Biological traits (X/YChromosomes) of the persons: both the persons are with healthy genetic lineage where there is no family history of any major medical conditions(Physiological/Psychological). If evaluated both partners would have detailed medical fitness as fit for marriage. (why its important: as blood incompatibility & infertility issues can be addressed before marriage, there are LGBT persons in India who hide their identity as men or women before marriage, terminally Ill (spouse having juvenile Cancer & Aids ailments get hidden pre-marriage), these issues can be addressed if known earlier.

Doing a thorough BG Check or Comrehendive Background verification by self(Group) or third party is the safest step a person/family/community can take to have more low risk & safe marriage in our Society. Here Both parties/Partners have higher R.Q, IQ, EQ, PQ(Political Qutient) & SQ . Know your personal vulnerability index for a minimum of a year before marriage. If you are at a vulnerable point in your life(Recent Break Up, Love Failure, Grief, PTSD etc) do not hurry now as it wud make worry in future. Take Decisions carefully and in consultation from experienced people more so the wellwishers empaths with expertise and exposure to the full spectrum of marriages(Risky to Safe). One experienced person/family is more likely to make an error in judgement compared to multiple persons & families if involved for decision.

2: External (Parental & Familial Factors): If the spouse & parents are both Socially healthy from stable upbringing and the non-dysfunctional family structure is connected balanced well by maternal & paternal relations, if financial inter-dependencies are not there where parents are not on loan or having large legal liabilities (litigant Families) but have balanced assets: both the families are safe to have relationship as it is built on collective good principles and more importantly good moral/ethical characters of relating individuals (Less Negativity (naivety, hurtful black Sheeps/wolves involved) and more Positivity (awareness/ helpful white sheeps /ShepherdDogs around) in both their circles this is highly safe relationship.

3: Systemic Societal factors: 1.The Culture & Class dynamics (Working, Labour, Buisness, Political, artists & Intellectual etc), 2.The statuses Dynamics (Economic, Social(Religion, Caste, Language, Regional,Communal) Geographic location, Geo-political factors, political leanings, inherent biases, rationalizations etc), 3. The Socio-legal frameworks (Hindu Marriage act, Muslim Marriage(Sharia law), Christian etc, Marriage counsellors, DV act, POSH, POCSO etc) 4.Proximity or access to critical information like Medico-Legal history of partners close circles. If both are equally aware, mature, complementary and cooperative to accessing questions/information during the pre-nuptial match fixing phase it’s a good sign for safe marriage. Similar education backgrounds, cultural background, spatial environments, ethical-moral upbringing are positives to reduced risks.

Below are a few resources for Background-Checks or Verification-Validation of GF/BF/Fiancee/ Proposals or Spouses and their circles of influences.

2. Reasonable Risk Relation/Marriages: Here the risk score on a Safety-Risk scale is between 2-3/5 to get projected overall ‘R/M Harmony score’ of (6-4/10). Most of marriages may fall in this bracket as 80% as general trend of relationships.

3. Risky Relationship/marriages: Here the risk score on a Safety-Risk scale is between 4-5/5 to get projected overall ‘R/M Harmony score’ of (4-1/10). This is the risky 10% of relationship & marriages people need to be aware and careful about.

1. Internal (Personal & Genetic Factors): Hereditary risk factors eg(If both maternal & paternal lineage have diabetes/ thyroid) so the person has doubled risk of diabetes): If such factors as surgeries, etc are involved its red flags & increases the risk in marriages. If the person is isolated having less of friends and healthy social connections, it’s a red flag sign of broken and sour relationships around caution to be taken of any negative habits or addictions. If good background check is done from multiple sources the risk factors in a family can be collected before engagement. If not it’s a risky marriage deal without proper due diligence. If we analyse deeply we may find either one or both partners having lower levels of R.Q, IQ,EQ,SQ. If the Prospect is a litigant, divorcee or property involved in property litigations beware. High (probe)ability a litigant and gold diggers family, stay away.

2: External (Parental & Familial Factors): If biological parents/ Guardians have exhibited negative history/traits of Aggression and Verbal abuses in public as individuals or group in the past, so it’s highly probable the spouse & inlaws would engage in such a behaviour in future too. The extended family has many high conflict individuals, differences or families has history of litigation(courts, police etc) & power struggles with others around in recent past. Then its a high risk relation/proposal & marriage, be aware do due diligence and do a detailed background check of moral-ethical characteristics of the whole family. Where both the marriage families fall in the Patriarchy-Equiarchy-Matriarchy Spectrum matters to the integration level in the relationship.

3: Systemic Societal factors: There are complementary cultural factors and conflicting cultural factors. If the sum total of these factors are more towards positive cooperation within the relationship then it’s less risk, if the factors edge more towards negative competition within it’s high risk marriage. If the proposal is direct through online matrimonials, dating or incidental meetups, where there is less chances of common analysts(Common Friends/Relatives or good brokers) to do a thorough background check of both parties before finalizing the alliance. Then it’s a high risk marriage.

Conclusion:

In few socially advanced countries there are pre-nuptial trainings & agreements which help in orienting the bride & bridegroom towards having safer marriages as the expectations on both sides are set clearly & the marital contracts-agreements are honoured by all sides ethically & systematically. Which leads to trustworthiness in relations, institution of marriages as well as building a society around principles of Trust, Respect & Love and not on principles of Law breaking, money making & power brokering.

This is what we can see are the differences between a safe and high risk marriage. Looking at failing relations in the society I thought it’s to be seen very importantly for individual & families to know about ‘Safe Marriages/Relations’ and assessing the Compatibility scores between the partnering (Individuals/families/communities) as well as the Safety-Risk Factor to have a projected good Relational-Marital Harmony Score. Basically the correlation is Higher the ‘Holistic Compatibilty Score’ and lower the ‘Overall Risk Score’ the better probability of good ‘Relational Harmony score’ can be Projected/Predicted/Expected.

Being socially aware about various possibilities of relationships & marriages may help one/families in taking good decisions to create more safe marriages & less high risk situations. Especially it’s useful for the vulnerable urban youth who are isolated in nuclear families with weak social bonding may be having less of exposure & knowledge which may be common knowledge to a person who is exposed to many marriages in a well connected/cultured joint collaborative family system & strong bonded communities.

Predictions 2021 onwards the Relational-Marital Games are going to be tougher due to Covid being an added factor, as it may lead to higher risks in population to obesity, PCOD, Erectile Dysfunction & related negative factors which most probably(by Maritally Unintelligent) will not be considered in pre-marital analysis. This is going to increase the probability of more Risky marriages in the future of families. The less Maritally Intelligent or Aware people are, the less chances of safe and successful marriages in the society. ON brighter side if more people are Maritally educated and Intelligent (High R.Q Relational Quotient & M.Q Marital Quotient) both Partners & families) are the safer & better the future is for the relationships to prosper. It’s going to be the survival of the Strong-Aware-st(SeaGull) & near extinction of the weak and dumb(Dodo).

Until here we have qualitatively identified about the factors and the index (R.Q) further studies need to be done to quantify and test the RQ score to be able to use it for better and successful matchmaking.

Indian Parents note: you may go for kundali matching, horoscope compatibility, caste matching, Peru Portham, Gothra seeking etc.. later but first to priority is “Character Matching” what is the character personality who can be adaptable for your child and families future. More than any religion or caste of a person(mode) what matters is how the person and their family’s basic character is cast as personality(made).

Indian youth note: Choosing a life partner is most important choice of your life(Like Education, Career, investments, etc). So consider the choice from as many angle as you can, talk with as many aware well wishers as possible. Unlike other choices of education, job etc it has huge consequences. Be aware.

We wish people have a safe journey, similarly we need to wish people who are going to get hitched May the couples have a “Safe & happy Married Life” : Further Study on how to quantify the relationships.

My proposal is not to have a lower level one time ‘Sexual Education’, but to have a 3-tiered Body-Relationship-Family Education at Primary(6Ys), Middle(10yrs) & high school(12yrs), by the trained School or edu-health dept resource persons.

We may see many videos how to propose to a girl.. or how can girl propose to a boy.. and what about how to choose an ideal spouse & Inlaws?. See this https://youtu.be/p3FL7AdU9Y4

Marriage Compatibility Checks/Test

GPoem on “What Marriage is like..”

Marriage is like a deceitful mirage in the harsh desert for the ones who are maritally illiterate,

Marriage is like a helpful carriage on the lonely road for the ones who are adequately considerate.

Marriage is a sacrilege among people who dont know the sanctity.

Marriage is sacred for people who understand all the complexity.

Marriage is where the age, stage and courage are tested hard.

Marriage is where real characters of persons/families/communities comes outward.

Marriage is a creative force for the societies future.

Marriage creates the families that rupture or nurture.

Marriage is like a bonding between the cogs in a mechano clock.

Marriage needs the clockmakers’ finesse to make things work.

Marriage is a game of hearts, minds, people & environment,

Marriage is a game of chess moves & pieces are impermanent.

Marriage is the foundation on which every culture makes its future.

Marriage is an agreement & opportunity to uphold & raise societies’ socio-spiritual stature.

-Poet(G.R Prasadh) Giving Reasons in Poetry

Answer in conclusion: Those Marriages have more chance of being ‘made in heaven‘ which are formed by choiced (Ideal-making) principles of heaven (Truth, Trust, Godly people, matching respect and more spiritual love rooted in higher agreeable natures leading to safe relational resonance) few eg. (Mohandas-Kasturba Gandhi, Ralph-Dohorthy Kohler, Abhay Charan De(SrilaPrabhupad)-Radharani Datta Devi, Gadadhar-Shardamoni, Gowri-Gajendran, CV Raman-Lokasundari, many uncles and aunts in safe marriages, etc), while marriages have more chance of ending up in hell due to (deal-breaking) principles of Non-Heaven(hell & earth) (Greed over need, Abandonement, Lies, Distrust, Evil people, slander and highly physical-materialistic love rooted in lower disagreeable nature leading to Risky relational Dissonance). Eg. (Brangelina, Ravan-Mandodari, Ram-Sita, Siddartha-Yashodara, Modi-Yashodaben, Einstein-Mileva Maric, Osho and his lovers, many Aunt-Uncles in un-safe & risky marriages. Senior-Pairs etc high probability you know some pairs personally but hesitate to declare to self and others). Ironically it’s only when one sees the problem can one and society heal. If its hidden, history will keep repeating.

One Line Summary: All said and done what matters for any relationship between 2 people-family-InfluencingCommunities is the interaction of Moralo-Cultural characteristics that they both and the system they in embodies.

3 SafeMarital Model 2022: (Indra) Checklist

For Safer Marriages both Spouses should have these basic eligibility norms:

Job/Finance: Vocational diploma/graduation.

• training on quality, efficiency, work status report, performance measurement, contracts, employer & employee rights & responsibilities.
• Willingness to relocate to different state.

Marriage:
Above + 1 year of work experience

• 1 year of living in different state
• 20 hours of social service
• Training on Relationship dynamics, family rituals, marital laws, spousal rights & responsibilities.
• Medical Tests (Sexual fertility & Diseases(HIV))
• Pre nuptial agreement.

Child conception:
Above + training on parental responsibilities & child rights.

Resources shared:

1. Like Science Labs there are Love Labs to experiment with love.

2. https://marriagetrainingnetwork.com

3. https://www.avalonrcdvd.com/

4. https://relationshipabuse-recovery.com/2019/02/brainwashing-technique-learn-how-its-done-so-you-can-undo-it/

5. https://theprint.in/science/the-scientific-argument-for-marrying-outside-your-caste/360975/

6. https://www.shoneekapoor.com/planning-get-married-watch-out/

Further Recommended Readings:

1. Improve you MATE Score: your GATE score matters for your Office, Your MATE scores of you and your spouse’s matters for your home. Check this out a short 20 mins read will impact your 20+ years of life. https://bit.ly/2LDmcS5

3-Marital Tests for Safe Marriages:

1. Biological Tests: https://healthguide.ng/medical-tests-before-marriage/

2. Social Tests: https://www.politicalcompass.org/test

3. Spiritual tests: https://www.marriage.com/advice/marriage-fitness/spiritual-fitness-quiz/

https://www.mendthemarriage.com/welcome/1.php

Further Questioning:

#MannanKiMondays. What can we see are the differences between ‘Safe Relationships/Partnerships’ and ‘Risky Relationships/Partnerships’? #Unasked Questions.

Refer:

Better or Bitter Half: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/02/27/better-halves-equal-halves-equitable-halves-bitter-halves/

Further Readings:

1. Murderous Fiancee https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/wedding-next-month-bride-slashes-mans-neck-on-surprise-date-cops-2899997

2. Recovery Course Free: https://overcoming-narcissist-abuse.teachable.com/p/kick-start-breaking-free-from-the-narcissist/?preview

3. Duluth Model for Abuse Awareness. https://www.steamboatpilot.com/news/in-our-shoes-what-is-considered-a-healthy-relationship/

4. Proposal for Marriers Protection Act India 2030: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/05/s130-marrier-protection-act-2030-proposed-act-for-safer-indian-marriages-as-per-ucc/

5. BetterMENt of Systems for Hu-Men Beings: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/12/02/s87-project-manav_mitras-connect-heart2heart-for-universal-brotherhood-fraternal-culture-friendships-group-prasad/

A Groupers’_ MOVEment in the Starting Months of January to the Decisive months of the year.

To remember and Act-Now on the Resolutions we had made this year to manifest in the last quarter of the year, before the year ending. #ACToberNOWemberMOVEment.

UNITE for “COMMON Individual_GOALS, & Shared Group SUPPORT-Systems.”

Art & Science are Parts(Tangible) & Conscience(Intangible); the duality of the Small & All of ‘AvErythIngOU’ (Everything with all the vowels in it to represent the everything that can be known plus the unknown- which can never be known).

Science of the arts & the art of the sciences are very bright and deep areas of fulfilling pursuits.

We had 3 quarters(Jan-Mar,Apr-June,Jul-Sep) from the begining of the year 2020 to practice our yearly life resolutions. We may have achieved some and we are yet to achieve many more. The Last Quarter(Oct-Dec) is the penultimate quarter of the year. It’s time to refocus and review our 2020journey and our paths to course correct in order to set the sails to achieve our Tasks,Aims,Objectives,Targets,Goals,Plans,Milestones,Destination,Purpose.

Proposed here is the #ACToberCampaign an Idea for a new intiated movement for the month/quarter which is the last lap. Pushing ourselves for Acting on our plans to fruition with full throttle ahead. This is the flag off day/week/month/quarter of the vision we had kicked off at the beginning of the year on 1st Jan.

It’s the start of the Rains & winter in the northern hemisphere and it’s the time of tending to our crops and irrigating our fields. Time to prepare as the ‘Winter is Coming’ and it’s going to be more chillingly harsh this time. It’s time we do not antagonise ourselves(Family, Community,Orgs) but work like ants dextrously towards our Targets.

Let us put our heels to the pedal, rev up the accelerator of our rides to give our everything to the last leg of the year.

Let us now reset the #JANourneyDECetiny

Act Now and Precrastinate for its Now or Never. #ACToberNOWember

Let’s Simplify our lives and begin to Simply fly to our goals & epic destinies.

This is the #ACToberManifesto. Which has one and only one Agenda and line

1. ACT-Now on your lives; PhysicoEmotional Executions, Mindful Missions and Heartfelt Visions. Do not wait, Just Do It Yourself Here & Now.

Hail Humane-ity, Hai Purpose, Jai HindSight4ForeSight. AI Hind.

A2.I- All Intelligence(Artificial+Real)

Let’s together; create the grp we want to see in this world, so that the grp creates us the way we want to be seen in this world. As MegaManifestations of the Alpha&Omega.

The Man-E-festers-Manifesto thru GRP

The AOM group: #ActoberNowember

If you have read through till here.

My congrats to your will dear.

You are the arduous kind.

we are all seeking to find,

The association of Manifestors,

The STEM of right Investors,

We Act-Now-Here Together,

To move our lives lil Further.

Join the troupe, the motivation group U/V can co-create. To make things possible for us, you and me together. The click on the joining link. This group will Exist, Resist and Persist from 1stOct to 31st December of EveryYear.

https://chat.whatsapp.com/FLmRd9UoXtM3WCRdCdnhKE

Definition: “SAINTians” in a line are people, teams & groups who “Share Alerts: Informing of Negativity(-) & TruthS(+)”abbrevtd=(S.A.I.N.Ts)

They are influencers for  a SAFER-India2030 & Rationally  Safer_SocietiesGlobally2030. PREVENT-Escape from Mind-trappers & Mental-Traps. #Injustice-ImmoralityPreventers, #Crimes+Fraud_Preventors.

A Vision Page for SAINTsian Institute of India.

SAINTian’s Motto: “Lies_Sicken & Truth_Heals” -GRP.

Cannonification of Rational Saints of Science.. Scient. Phule (SatyaShodak Society),  Sct. Basavana (Anubhava Mantapa),  Sct. Charhakar (Charhakar Empiricism),  Sct. Thiruvalluvar (Thirukural). Sct. Socrates(Socratic Method).

Persevering through all ways to get closer to the truths-of-things to serve purposefully for Self/Others/CommUnity. Its different from the respected higher level “Saints” in religious or spiritual terms, being the enlightened beings who may transcend their animal nature & humanity towards divinity.. Whereas A SAINTian is more at an intellectual & social level any Humane-human knowing that Lie-S-icken (in Selfishness-Storers) and that trut-H-eals (from Honesty-Healers). They help get us closer to Reality together. They find resonance in the below ideals of Proactive-Transparency. Saints Pray for Others wellbeing, SAINTians Prevent the Preying on others by hellbeings. Missionaries of Charity can be linked with Saints, here Missionaries of clarity can be related to SAINTians.

Asatoma Sadgamaya, Tamasoma Jyothirgamaya. (From Non-Truth(Lies) to Truth, From Darkness to Light) is a verse from the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad (1.2.28)

Satyameva Jayate. (Truth alone Truimphs) which is INDIAS NATIONAL MOTTO In the Indian Emblem sourced from Mundaka Upanishad. Shouldn’t we also know its reverse I.e “Asatyam Samastha paraa-jayate”(Lies/NonTruths all added lose)(its dervived need to check with a sanskrit scholar). Also the SAINTians Motto is: “Satyam Sharing Jayate“.

There are various definitions to truth from many great sources. From Ancient Indian, Greek Philosophers & to the American thinkers. Bible says “Truth shall set you free” also reversibly impLIES that “Lies shall get you imprisoned”(Maya). And more importantly “The Truth-Sharers are ones who shall set themselves and others free from lies & illusions.”

The ‘T.R.U.T.H’ as per our understanding-definition is; Testable, Raw, Unifying, Trustable & Holistic (a HOLY-STICK for many & we too at the receiving end of it at times). Similarly L.I.E.S can be Light/love Interrupted Establishing Shadows/Sorrow.

I observe after 3decades of lively living that me and many in communities I belong to in this 21st century society have been looking at the brighter or darker side of things, and we have been doing so consistently that we have adapted our eyes & minds to a set range of light spectrum(Common Knowledge/Common Mind-Manipulation/Biased, Politicized, Pollarized/Controlled-Thinking). so much so that people are equally blinded to the dark areas(Negativity) and bright lights (Truths). It’s applicable both internal & external aspects of observation. We are living in the spectrum of mediocrity(Warm Comfort Zone) less aware of the extremes of the spectrum (DarkColdLies (BlackHole) & BrightHotTruths (LightHole)).

Life is the greatest teacher. Just like steel is hardened through the process of annealing (heat treatment exposing to extreme heat and cold) so too the mind experiences Lies and Truth of the same kind induces confusions & Illusions (M.A.Y.A- MindAvoidingTheYearning4Awareness). One trained so by life, tested scriptures/Literature & authentic sources can see all the sides of the coin. The head, tail and thirdly the edge of the coin with naked eye, and with a microscope all the tiny sides & surfaces in detail. When experiencing “cognitive dissonance” we have multiple questions and doubts to clarify. some answers we seek, some answers we satisfy, some unanswered questions we silence, some we Suppress.

We & Our world are complex and complicated systems. There are contrasts, dichotomies and polychotomies in every direction and in all things. We desire to simplify and organise the systems to our satisFACTion.

The Truth Seeking maybe the fundamental functioning of a cognition/person. To move towards the light from the darkness even the plant do it as phototropism. And there is an alternative cognition perceiving the Holistic Truth, that is, not only seeing the White-light, but also the Black-darkness and the grey/colored areas lying between them.

There was a need to create a groupspace for such SAINTism. Where we can openly seek, ask, see, and share all sides of the story or topic and find the “truths” with the light of multiple SAINTian Perspectives. (Crowdsourced Wisdom 4 All). It started in 2017 to share awareness about narcissism and empaths truths. Has transitioned these 3 years to cover scams, cover ups, expose fake msgs and resource for fact checkers.  The groupSPACE helps members to widen+deepen+Brighten their vision and perspectives.

It’s a growing group for Truth Seeking, Fact-Checking, Narc Awareness, ScientificTemper Training, Empaths Support, Fake/Myth-Busting, Media Literacy and more explorations and discoveries.

The SAINTS group forms the SAINTS Siblinghood the SAINTShood. It’s a collaborative and creative groupspace which invented and uses the SAINTS 3P Template of grpMsging. For more about the GroupPolicy and invite to join the SAINTSgrps Journey and vision for SAINTShood.

The SAINTians vision(Purpose) is a TruthFull World with lesser Dark-lies(Fakenews) and more Joy&Light(TrueInfo).

The mission is to get the critical mass of SAINTians(People) to practice SAINTism(Process of Critical Info Sharing) through the SAINTShood groups(Place).

The Execution is through awareness Alerts and sharing resources to awaken & empower the SAINTian in All. and the principle of Spreading idea of Truth-Sharing SAINTians is SAINTism.

The world celebrates Dec 2 as World Computer Literacy Day..  As computer is the tool which can spread more truth or lies and the birthday of founder of idea of SAINTism. We propose it as *World Truth-Sharing Literacy Day*.

Resources:

1.https://learn.aarp.org/fact-or-fiction?CMP=RDRCT-CSN-OTHER-FACT-FICTION-060820

2.https://sheeraffluence.com/getting-wise-to-fake-news/

3. Poynter NEWS University

The SAINTians’ Troem. (Truth’sPoem)

We are fooled multiple times in a life,

Sometimes by self’s innocent cut of a sharp knife,

At times by ignorant entities causing many a strife.

SAINTians try to climb hills of “Proofs” from multiple sides,

For a TruthSeeker on harsh slippery slopes glides,

And reaches the Pointy peaks, for in Truth s/he abides.

Finding the real reasons s/he doesnt yet dare to rest,

CAREful s/he “Proposes” to keep hearts warned & minds abreast.

The Vision EAGLE(i)tarians see is all-world as one happy nest.

And that our SAINTian-life is to prep self & others for Soul’s test.

–GRP(Gliding4Reason&Purity)

T(r)uesdays Q: *What is MAYA?*..
1.Friend: she is (My Aunt Yelling Around)
2.GRP: it is (Minds Avoiding the Yearning 4 Awareness(MAYA))
3.Raj: MesmerizingAppearanceofYourAtman.
4.Ur choice or ans? Do share in comments

Reference:

1. SAINTS-GROUP PURPOSE: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/09/14/saints-group-functional-policy-guidelines/

2. Project DeepDarsi by Saintians: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/01/18/s42-project-deepdarshi-for-saintsians-the-connected-truths-shall-set-us-free/