As Rationalists, we are Starting An Important Critical Inquiry into familial Institution for better marital-systems..

This article is a Co-created Post created by process of group-inquiry with Indian Empathic-Spectical Peers.(ESP-Group).

Please do share facts with sources perspectives:

we shall do a Case study of Indian Celebrity marriages also of 3 generations of Ambanis (Mr.Dhirubhai, Mr.Mukesh, Mr.Anil & 3rd Generation Anant Ambani(a global marriage).

[07/03, 11:35] +91 ###7 ###: I am interested in reading this but I am not able to access it. Could you send it in a document form?

[07/03, 12:34] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): its a community collaborative Writing.. an experiment.

one can share what can be useful in it.? so we can do the needful.

like below.

I want to scientifically study this phenomenon of marriage. what are the Costs, benefits and risks and how can it be made safer to reduce global abuse, divorce, rape, suicide and familial homicide rates. Current Marital systems are less-rational and cause lot of socio-marital-pains & familial-crimes so the family courts are clothes and marital-justice takes years and some marital-cases never resolved or closed(in case of Spousal-deaths(by homicide, Suicide or Systemicide).

the root of a society is family. and roots of family is in marriage.
[07/03, 12:35] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): irrational persons marrying in irrational marriages translate to more Irrational-societies.

[07/03, 11:35] +91 95457 64568: I am interested in reading this but I am not able to access it. Could you send it in a document form?
[07/03, 12:34] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): its a community collaborative Writing.. an experiment.

one can share what can be useful in it.?

like.

I want to scientifically study this phenomenon of marriage. what are the Costs, benefits and risks and how can it be made safer to reduce global abuse, divorce, rape, suicide and familial homicide rates.


the root of a society is family. and roots of family is in marriage.

[07/03, 12:35] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): irrational persons marrying in irrational marriages translate to more Irrational-societies.

[07/03, 12:36] +91 95457 64568: According to me the institute of marriage is against equality and does not make sense to be promoted in today’s world where we value equality
[07/03, 12:42] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): this is one of the effect/attribute of the system..

the question is what is the system, that causes these effects or defects.?
[07/03, 12:44] +91 95457 64568: That is something a sociology expert can comment on
[07/03, 12:48] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): experiencers also can comment..

like eg.

my experience of my parents or grandparents marriage lets me see that

their marriage was a social agreement and contract they made and kept between them as per hindu traditions initiated, facilitated & supported by their communities and Indian-legal System.

while now Marriage2024 is controlled by govt through marital laws.
[07/03, 12:49] +91 ########: I don’t understand why it has to be legally registered..it’s just two people who want to be together
[07/03, 12:51] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): this is a myth. its only a social relationship between two people. its not only illegal affairs or romantic affairs are between 2 people.

marital relationship is a tripartite contract with religion or nation.
[07/03, 12:52] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): there is a difference between being legally-together and illegally-together.
[07/03, 12:53] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): a model for Rational Secular-marriages are missing in this world..
[07/03, 12:56] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): a religious marriage is facilitated by priest/religious leaders.(Religion)

a political-marriage officiated by the marriage-registrar.(Nation)

a Rational Scientific-marriage initiated, facilitated and modeled by rationalists and marital-scientists. (Civic society).

[07/03, 12:57] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): #Lets Rationalify_Marriages

[07/03, 13:08] Purushotham Prof: Living together means we are social animals..

Legal means some convenience

Illegal means some other convenience..

Indifferent means philosophers..

For all others.. it is time to reflect upon..

While writing a chapter on 21st century adult education..
I took notes from recent supreme court judgements.. the hardwork and intellectual views of CJI.. and took note of other judges concerns..

Metaphysical..
When we say marriages are made in heaven, I am reminded of the vibrations, reverberations, resonance that both undergo.. take note of Gayatri mantra..and my interpretation that our own body subatomic particles are still burning and shining as ever as sun as cold plasma..

Philosophically I would say God Would have his last laugh when two people marry..

See my short story on Honeymoon preparations at Sun core.. a quasi science fiction..in Tamil.. where if one or two people say happy they will give birth.. instantaneously..
[07/03, 13:18] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): marriage are made in Heaven maybe a myth perpetuated by religious leaders who believe in heaven.

marriages are made in.. 3 ways only..

1. in innocence or 2. in informed consent or 3. in illusion by fraud.
   [07/03, 13:20] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): for a Rationalist marriages are to be made in awareness of all neccessary facts, calculations and training.
   [07/03, 13:23] Purushotham Prof: May be the problem comes how we understand the word marriage itself…

Our Sangam days.. we have one version.. annalum nokinaan, avalum nokkinaal..

Kandathum kathal..

Both saw eye to eye..then felt love for each other.. this might be different from sex ..

[07/03, 13:23] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers): Depending of the color of Marriage it can lead the marriers to Red/Black hell or Violet-Blue heaven on earth in their marital-life.

#Seven Colors of Marital-Life: Better Halves to Bitter Halves in Marriage-Spectrum.

[07/03, 13:25] G.R.P = G.R.PrasadH (Grit, Reason & Peers) responding to Prof msg: kadhal is love its not marriage. its a feeling no legal rights, responsibilities or duties..

marriage is Kalyanam.. its legally binding.

What is Religious-Marriage? What’s a Rational-Marriage?

Want to make a collective Inquiry into “What’s a Marriage and What it is Not”.. All are welcome to Rationalifying Space.

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https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2024/03/07/s416-whats-marriage-whats-not-marriage-a-rationalists-perspective/

reference:

S224: VVIP Marriages &  LIE-marriages; the differences. /GRP
https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/11/20/s224-how-to-have-a-vvip-marriage-grp/

Parivartan ke Theen Diya..

“3Ds of Development”  from Ones-Heart in body compassionately to Our-Heaven embodied collectively.

Taking Care of Dil Heart/Compassion, Dimag Head-Construction & Desh Haven-Country.

Any Solution can be better if it involves Dil, Dimag & Desh that is EQ, IQ & SQ.

it needs the right Sound, bright Source and the light Soul.

A relation/marriage is of 2 types.. one is a Family_Community arranged marriage (Sharing of responsibility for Tasks, Costs, Benefits, Risks & Collaborative Hears & Considers Voices & Choices from Wisdom of the Wisened. marital results and outcomes integrated for communities)

or a Self_arranged Marriage (Non-Sharing & more holding of Tasks, Costs, Benefits or Risks & Controlling marital-results between few, two or maybe even 1 (Hears more Voices of few More Power, control, domination & resources accumulated to 1 or 2 people or troupes)).

But the Outcomes are dependent less on the type of marriage and more on the *Degree of Collective Authenticity & Clarity* that is involved in the relationships of the 3 circles of Self+Family+Identity_Communities.

Below is a Citizens Practical Manual for caring for Dil (Heart), Dimag (Head), Daghar (Path), and Desh (Nation), focusing on Personal Health, Professional Growth, and Constitutional Duty. This manual provides actionable, integrative guidelines that balance emotional intelligence (EQ), intellectual clarity (IQ), purposeful direction, and spiritual/collective responsibility (SQ). Each section offers practical steps for individuals to nurture these dimensions while contributing to personal and societal well-being. The approach is fresh, concise, and rooted in universal principles, tailored for a citizen’s daily life.

Citizens Practical Manual for Caring for Dil, Dimag, Daghar, and Desh

This manual outlines practical steps to nurture Dil (Heart) for emotional health, Dimag (Head) for intellectual growth, Daghar (Path) for purposeful direction, and Desh (Nation) for collective responsibility. It integrates Personal Health, Professional Growth, and Constitutional Duty to empower citizens to thrive individually and contribute to society.

1. Dil (Heart) – Cultivating Emotional Health

Core Principle: Foster compassion, resilience, and emotional balance to strengthen personal well-being and relationships.

Personal Health

• Daily Practice: Spend 5 minutes each morning practicing gratitude—write or reflect on 3 things you’re thankful for to nurture positivity.
• Emotional Resilience: When stressed, use deep breathing (4-7-8 technique: inhale 4 seconds, hold 7, exhale 8) to calm emotions.
• Connection: Call or message a loved one daily to share feelings, building trust and support.

Professional Growth

• Empathy at Work: Listen actively to a colleague’s perspective during meetings, summarizing their point to ensure understanding.
• Conflict Resolution: If tensions arise, address calmly with “I feel” statements (e.g., “I feel unheard when interrupted”) to maintain harmony.
• Self-Care: Take a 5-minute break during work to stretch or meditate, preventing emotional burnout.

Constitutional Duty

• Community Support: Volunteer monthly at a local charity (e.g., food drives) to extend compassion to others, fulfilling duties of fraternity.
• Inclusivity: Challenge stereotypes in conversations (e.g., “Let’s avoid assumptions about their background”) to promote equality.
• Civic Empathy: Attend community meetings to understand neighbors’ concerns, fostering unity.

Exception Handling: If emotional overload occurs (e.g., grief), seek a counselor or journal privately instead of social engagement. For those with limited time, replace volunteering with small acts (e.g., helping a neighbor).

2. Dimag (Head) – Sharpening Intellectual Clarity

Core Principle: Enhance mental agility through learning, critical thinking, and collaboration for personal and professional excellence.

Personal Health

• Daily Learning: Read or watch a 10-minute educational piece (e.g., article, TED Talk) to stimulate the mind.
• Mental Rest: Practice a 10-minute mindfulness session (e.g., focus on breath) to clear mental clutter.
• Cognitive Fitness: Solve a puzzle (e.g., crossword, Sudoku) weekly to maintain sharpness.

Professional Growth

• Skill Development: Dedicate 1ლ, spend 1 hour weekly on an online course (e.g., Coursera, Khan Academy) to upskill.
• Collaboration: Share a work idea with a teammate weekly, inviting feedback to refine it.
• Problem-Solving: Break complex tasks into 3 small steps, tackling one daily to build confidence.

Constitutional Duty

• Informed Citizenship: Read a credible news source weekly (e.g., BBC, The Hindu) to understand national issues.
• Civic Engagement: Write to a local representative yearly about a community issue (e.g., road repairs), exercising democratic rights.
• Transparency: Support ethical practices by reporting workplace corruption (e.g., via anonymous channels), upholding integrity.

Exception Handling: If learning feels overwhelming, opt for audio content (e.g., podcasts) instead of reading. For those with limited internet, discuss ideas with peers to grow knowledge.

3. Daghar (Path) – Forging a Purposeful Direction

Core Principle: Align actions with personal values and societal good to create a meaningful life trajectory.

Personal Health

• Value Reflection: Write 3 core values (e.g., honesty, kindness) monthly and assess if daily actions align.
• Goal Setting: Set one small weekly goal (e.g., walk 10 minutes daily) to build discipline.
• Balance: Schedule 30 minutes weekly for a hobby (e.g., gardening, music) to recharge.

Professional Growth

• Career Vision: Define a 1-year professional goal (e.g., learn a new tool) and list 3 steps to achieve it.
• Mentorship: Seek advice from a senior colleague monthly to guide career decisions.
• Adaptability: Review a recent work challenge weekly, noting one lesson to apply forward.

Constitutional Duty

• Community Goals: Join a local initiative (e.g., cleanliness drive) yearly to align with national welfare.
• Justice Advocacy: Support fair practices (e.g., report discrimination) to uphold constitutional values.
• Sustainability: Adopt one eco-friendly habit (e.g., reduce plastic use) to contribute to a greener nation.

Exception Handling: If goal-setting feels daunting, start with daily micro-goals (e.g., drink water). For those with mobility issues, contribute to community goals via online advocacy (e.g., sharing awareness posts).

4. Desh (Nation) – Serving Collective Well-Being

Core Principle: Contribute to national progress through active participation, inclusivity, and civic responsibility.

Personal Health

• Cultural Pride: Learn one fact about national heritage (e.g., history, festivals) monthly to stay connected.
• Social Bonds: Attend a community event (e.g., festival) quarterly to strengthen ties.
• Health Advocacy: Share one public health tip (e.g., handwashing) weekly with others.

Professional Growth

• Ethical Work: Follow workplace laws (e.g., labor regulations) to support fair systems.
• Community Impact: Offer pro bono skills (e.g., teaching, designing) monthly to local groups.
• Innovation: Propose one idea yearly to improve workplace or community efficiency.

Constitutional Duty

• Voting: Register and vote in every election to exercise democratic rights.
• Law Abidance: Follow local laws (e.g., traffic rules) daily to maintain order.
• Unity: Promote harmony by respecting diverse faiths and cultures in daily interactions.

Exception Handling: If mobility limits event attendance, engage via virtual community groups. For those with limited resources, contribute to Desh through small acts (e.g., conserving water).

Implementation Tips

• Track Progress: Use a weekly checklist to monitor actions across Dil, Dimag, Daghar, and Desh.
• Seek Feedback: Ask family or colleagues monthly if your efforts align with compassion, clarity, purpose, and service.
• Iterate: Adjust practices based on outcomes (e.g., if volunteering feels draining, try a different activity).
• Stay Balanced: Allocate equal time to all four dimensions to avoid burnout or neglect.

Why This Manual Works

This manual integrates EQ (Dil: compassion), IQ (Dimag: clarity), purpose (Daghar: direction), and SQ (Desh: collective spirit) to create a holistic approach. It’s practical, flexible (with exceptions), and aligns personal growth with constitutional duties, empowering citizens to thrive and serve.

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Points to Note:

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2. Have enough exact change currency, as only cash accepted and counter may not have loose change.

3.

I am an #Armyzen Challenge:

Army man like Citizen life. Like the Army Prepares & Protects the Nation from Intrusion & Invasions of Alien nations. The Armyzens are Army-fit Citizens who are trained to protect self, Citizen_Patriots and other fellow_nationals from crimes, corruptions and subversions by Citizen_Criminals or Citizen_Traitors & Aliens.

12 days of Army like Self_Training of One Skill Per day. Fit_Citizens make Fit_Cities. Fit_Nationals create a befitting Nation.

#No Flab only Fab.. #Army-Fitness challenge.

Day1: Initiative of Exercise4Health. Makar Sankranthi. MAKER_SunKranthi.

Achieved: A. 15 mins SuryaNamskar in Sun light. & B. OPEN GYM EXERCISE & WALK FOR 40 MINS @park

Day2: Seconding: followup

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Started.. Jan 1 2024. Journey Begins for a New Me. Version 4.0 As I will be Touching the 40s.

From Below this there will be a Health-Logging of Day by Day. JOURNEY From recent to the Oldest OF day 1.

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Today is End of 2023 & Eve of New Year 2024. This is my Lesson and Insights from 2023 to Turbo Charge 2024.

Remove Doshas, Improve Dashas & Change the Disha & Drishya. With Indigo-Yoga.

Tomorrow is New Years of 2024.

I have 2 Resolutions With What, Why and How Below.

1. What:

GRP_goal-1. Be a member of 5AM club for next 366 days of 2024.

GRP_goal-2. Become a Indigo_Yogi. With higher healthiness, Work_Efficiency & Life Productivity. By use of Indianity & Yoga.

2. Why: 1. Because I see Late nights and late morning waking up is being out of sync unhealthily of the natural rhythm of my society & communities. Affecting my Health and Harmony. I want to regain my “5Am early waking and working Habits.” For a Healthy Life.

2. I am a Swadesi Minimalist (ATMANIRBHAR Bharatiya) and want to reduce the excessess, wastages and wasting of resources in my daily life. Hence becoming a Indigo_Yogi following the 8 Principles of YogaSutras, Gandhis Ashramic life and Bodhidharmas Shaolin principles for a more Indic Life.

Evolution of Exploitation & Prostitution. Attention for Prevention and Rehabilitation of Social Harm.

Prostitution 1.0 (Talmudic, Biblic, Vedic)

Prostitution 2.0 (Post Modern)

Prostitution 3.0 A & B (Contemporary)