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Survey & Serve: choksi

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Anti-Suicide Resources for Use:

Love for Harmony Enlivens Us & Love for Money Entraps Us._GRP2024.

One’s Mental-Health @Biome is InterDependent on Physical-Health of Loved-Family @Home, Dependent on Social-Health of Ones Connected-Communities @Rome. Biome-Home-Rome. Me & MySignificantOthers & Our Neighbhours.

https://afsp.org/

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/suicide-prevention/index.shtml

https://www.al.com/opinion/2020/09/september-is-suicide-prevention-month.html

Yesterday (21-Sep-2020) I came to know of dear family friends’ loss of a younger member to suicide in Bengaluru the (Unfortunate Suicide Capital city of India) .. I am sharing this awareness for the fight.. plz view the video. It happened just a day back.  India is missing out a lot on Suicide prevention there is a lot more to be done in this area. https://youtu.be/EQ3SuymMhmE

I Believe more than rich, Intellectual or dominant successful ppl(Adani-Ambani etc), more aware, proactive & empathetic caring and sharing citizens are the greatest asset for a nation (Tata, Birla, Azim, Kalam, Gandhi, Ambedkar etc).-GRP..

S351: Supportive Suptember Campaign. “Pro-life Hearty City”, Creating Suicide-less Cities globally.

*PRIYAM (Prevent Regressive Incidents-In YourAcademia Mindfuly)-Grp*

For Mind_Care & Emotional_care.. (JoyPromoters & DepressionPreventers (PeerSupport-Group)

*GrpAIM:* *For Awareness & Proactive-Fellowship*

Priyamitras AIMs_Page: https://tinyurl.com/3235884r

Closer to Truths, Farther from Lies,

Near to Lights, away from Bites,

#3Ps-Messaging format for more Rational-Communications Vs UnRational-Communication.

Admin Groups Challenge: Reduce Inefficienct Communication-Overload by Creating a Group-Place with Method of More Contributive and less conflictive Communication in resource groups and life.

What are Distinctions of Saints (Ones/entities that help Sanely) & Taints (Ones who help Insanely).

SAINTS: StayAwareInformd ofNegatives &Truth Seeking)(4/9/20)(Ver1.1)

To Stand for the Truth, To help Seek & Share clarity between the Fake-Factual msgs-News, Frauds-Real ppl and toxic-Healing Ideas. Promoting SAINTific-Temper for cognitive resonance instead of dissonance.

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   Msg Markers(Admin msg,NewShare/QueryMsg,Response-reply)
   Followed by
   SAINTS 3P Template or a query for fact Check??*

It’s just 3 Steps like in a Scientific lab report.. Experiment, Observation & Inference. Only difference in real life is our Observation comes first as

1. Point/Problem, then the experimentation as theory-contemplation with data

2. Proof/Parameters comes Second and finally the inference and conclusion like

3. Proposal/Prescription is presented later as a complete Submission.

3Ps-GrouP_Rational_Messaging.

1.Ur Side ‘Point‘: Problem /Claim Clarification/Response/Question. The Content (Present)

2. Ur side Proof: Evidence supporting claim/Reason/Data/ Authoritative Reputed Sources: The Context (Past)

2. Ur side Proposal/Perspective: Solutions for problem for the issue with reference links. The Connection (Future).

Ideal Group-Message close to Perfection= Problem Point + Proper Proof + Perspective of Proposal.

More Complete Contribution= Content+ Context+ Connection.

CERtainity: Claim-Statement, Evidence-Link & Request/Recommendation/Demands.

Responses shall not be provided if msg not in this format and a red flag be raised for deviation.

4. Do a Mediabiascheck for reference here b4 posting 4m least biased & more centered sources.
   https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/

5.The group Respects SAINTians Time hence is a Minmalistic disciplined group. Raise query after u dont get a satisfactory ans in websearch.

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Let’s all make it a pleasant group experience for all for rationality and help eachother to be aware and away from risks & lies in our lives.
SATYAMEVA JAYATE.

-Formed by SAINTsTeam(HC,UC,Ki &GRP with inputs 4m Manv,AM etc)
Released on 4/9/2020(V.1.1) Related Resource:

1. Intro2SAINTsians: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/09/25/who-are-saintians-where-is-the-saints-hood-intro2the-saints-group/

2. Project Deepdarsi by SAINTians: More SAINtians in priority, Less Criminals in society. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/01/18/s42-project-deepdarshi-for-saintsians-the-connected-truths-shall-set-us-free/

3. Group Forum Rules: https://bit.ly/3zMlXJh

Eg.

*Threat to Our National-Sports.*

*Point:* Astrology as irrational-belief and practice of Psuedo-Science is exerting undue influence on our national games instead of science and true-talent building.

*Proof:* https://www.indiatoday.in/sports/football/story/bhaichung-bhutia-igor-stimac-astrolger-consultation-reaction-not-new-football-2434830-2023-09-12

*Proposal:* there needs to be more Rationality and science used in our national sports teams as it impacts our nations reputation as a rational-nation.

People can use Trulse tool to determine the Truth of any-logy..https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/01/18/s42-project-deepdarshi-for-saintsians-the-connected-truths-shall-set-us-free/

Shared in public interest _GRP.

When Provided in 3P format Information many Ethical-Rationals will see the truths and accept it, but there will also be the biased irrational who will defend the False Fake or Trulse Statements as will shamelessly ask for more proof which they would not have provided for their side.. This is a toxic tactic to trap truths and spread lies.

Hippocracy means double standards.. one spreading Misinfo messages, and when asked proof not giving any while demanding from others.

Identify by Tata

Ideate with Swami Vivekananda

Survey the Scene in India & Britain

Create by collaboration with the wodeyars and Morris

A WriteShare about How life’s paths have sudden turns & how we navigate through the thunderstorms and spiritually are fighting our battles at all 3 levels of Individual, Family & Community.

This is a post dedicated to my Gs-family: Intent is to reflect & rejuvenate the family & relational roots.

(Started this post arnd 15th August 2020 @Home during Covid19 Lockdowns)

“Honor your father and your mother, that you may live a long time in the land the Lord your God is giving to you.” Exodus 20:12(Bible)

“Matha Pitha Guru Deivam” in an Indian verse(Tamizh-Oral Traditions) Philosophy-Culture is the Priority sequence of devotion given by a person. Respect and devotion towards their Mother, Father is first (I GRP have named the TwinSoul entity as “MaPa” I.e Amma(Mother)-Appa(Father) I try to not treat them seperately but as twin souls, next on the list is a teacher and later comes God. This is the root belief and core value of an Indian/Bharatiya/Hindustani culture that me, my family & our community are imbibed with in South India.

Continuing writing from Time:(13/9/20_16:00), Space:(@Manipal Hospital ward in Bengaluru,India), Situation: (Father and mother (2/3 members of our home) are admitted in ICU symptoms of CoVid-19 simultaneously when Bengaluru our city is being unlocked from National Lockdown) Roles: Attending son to my elderly & Ill parents, ShareCareing Members of our communities,

Here I Chronicle the 4-5 day Roller coaster ride my family is having right now(Sep9-Sep13(Sun)) so that any one reading this article deeply can have the insider’s view of the familial hurdles, hurts & healings we experienced which maybe helpful in some ways for their own insights and life improvements.

In my school I read & was inspired by Anne Frank’s Diary and I am trying to create a journal as “Anna Frank”

(Anna in multiple South Indian languages means Brother, I aim to be a frank(open) brother). I have 2 core beliefs in writing this post here:

1. My(GRP) Life’s Philosophy  for the question what is Life?  My Ans: Life is LIFES (Learning Insights From Experiences & Sharing).

2. Standing for Truth & Transparency are core Twin-values for Trustability(Quality) & TrustWorthiness(Quantity). Ideals I’m striving hard to achieve.

What is the 4G Family?

4G most popularly stands for 4th Generation of cellular network technology also coincidentally the same network by which this post was created. And 4G in context to the post is the initial letter of names of the 4 family members. The Fathers name is Gajendran(IndianMeaning:King of Elephant), Mother is Gowri(IndMng:The fair Goddess parvathi) & Son is Guru Prasad(IndMng: Grace of the Guru -Teacher).

Why a Family PACT?

Our 4GFamily was formed in 1983(37years ago) and like any family we have faced the sun, rain and storms of life. Just that the variety and intensity of the challenges have been on a wide range. We have come to a very retrospective and introspective phase after prosperous and also highly destructive phases which reduced the members count and strength dramatically. We 4 discussed together on this and created a family pact(Agreement-Covenant) nearing the Indian Independence Day 15th Aug 2020. The Photo of the Covenant with signatures is below. Many may question why this formality for a casual family life, I believe there are intangible values and ethos in each of our family culture which when made tangible and evident can help in improving the qualities of the family. That is the intention behind the family pact. We may have heard in the negative media about ‘Suicide Pacts’ this created here is a polar opposite concept of ‘The Life Pact‘.

When we were discussing we found many coincidences..Actually the name of the son also starting with G was not decided by FatherG nor the motherG but by a Grandparent while registering the birth certificate. So it’s pure Gestiny that brought the Gs together.

In our Giscussions we Giscovered there is a strong member in our home as family who has been very helpful and committed to our family welfare. It was an enlightening recognition the central family member is/was/Always will be God, Hse is the first core member of the 4G Family group.

What is the PACT the four core values we stand for as a family?

we came up with the 4 Top values each of our family members shall give unconditionally to eachother. Its acronym is P.A.C.T.(Protect, Attend, Care & Trust). Its these 4 pillars on which our family vision stands.

1. Protection: We will strive to protect each family member from any external and internal harm (Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual or Social). It is our duty to protect each other and create a safe and protected home environment. Using this principle intentionally we resolved a 5 year old problem of sleep very easily & quickly.

2. Attention: We will attend to each dearone with full attention at any given time as family is the first strong foundation on which we can build anything/everything else. We started Family Time prayers and Family yoga sessions.

3. Care-Compassion: We will treat each one in family consistently with compassion or anukampa. Loving kindness is at the heart of a family. We began expressing our deeper feelings to each other. Compassion comes before other passions.

4. Trust: We pledged to trust eachother at all times. We had not being trusting eachothers gut instincts and had consequently suffered drawbacks due to not having enough trust building measures for the Family-Community connect.

We discussed for further concepts like love, respect, care etc and were satisfied that at the root of other values are these 4G Values. This is the Life PACT the 4G Family adopted for the 4G Family vision of Healthy Bodies, Happy Minds & Harmonious souls.

Sharelock Says: Connecting dots between the 4G Family (Photo, the PACT and the Current Impact): As seen in the photo we are the 4GFamily (R-L: God in form of lord Shri.Ganesha, Dr.Gowri, Dr.Gajendran, and Ar.Guru Prasad.

In the pact the 2nd point is attention and were giving medical attention to the pain points of FatherG he developed symptoms of spondylitis since a year and was wearing cervical collar for supporting his discomfort. We had consulted 2 Orthopedicians and were advised tablets and surgery as we assumed it’s due to old age weakness, but the pain and giddiness would reoccur often. We took these issues seriously and tried to find alternatives where we asked and seeked for information and connections we normally would not have tried if not for the PACT.

We found a revelation about the root cause of his condition through a sports medicine practitioner(Dr.Kannan the Barsbarian) , the clue which none of us had perceived or identified was that DadG has a postural habit of tilting his head towards his right since many years-decades(Refer the GFamily Photo Fig1). This wrong posture has caused a strain and imbalance in his neck due to which he had developed the spondylitis also my mother due to an injury had developed knee stiffness suffering terrible pain. Thus the PACT worked and lil bit of attention to pain points in the family helped us to heal. Results were so very inspiring that SonG joined  the Health and fitness Instructor program by the same Institute(SPARCC) which helped DadG recover from Spondylitis, MomG from Arthritis & SonG from Parental Sufferitis:)

Coming to the current situation of both DadG and MomG due to the environmental conditions around home. All was normal until Tuesday evening the day prior to Sep10 world suicide awareness day. On Sep9 the family had gone out for a family evening walk, on returning home DadG complained of tiredness and exhaustion. His body got warm, he became a hot male(:)). He developed high fever around 101degree he was given tablet and injection for it. On Sep10 he was isolated in another room and given vapor inhalation with cold packs. He still had fever on and off. He was cared for in the temporarily created sick room at home.

The next day on 11th the fever subsided and there was a relief. While having lunch he started symptoms of running nose he had a disturbed lunch at the dining table. The other members observed his heavy breathing. Post lunch he had shortness of breathing and difficulty in speaking. We took a oxygen saturation reading using the Samsung note and saw it dropped to 85% (90+% is normal)

This set the alarms ringing we called the ambulance and rushed to the Hospital emergency immediately. There was a challenge awaiting us at manipal hospital as the beds were full due to the Covid pandemic and we were taken to the Respiratory emergency ward. We 3 were exposed to the risk of cross infection at the emergency, we braved it out eventually we dint have a bed to get DadG admitted and were directed to Axxon hospital, we called about 5 contacts my parents had as medical practitioners and got through by Gods grace to a resourceful person and finally found a bed at Manipal itself. And Covid rapid test was negative while the swabs test was sent for testing results would be available the next day. Untill then we would be treated as Corona suspects.

When one challenge we won another started as MomG began to show signs of fever and exhaustion. It was like a scene from film Contagion. It was a panicky and uncertain situation. While DadG was admitted to a ward in fifth floor, MomG was treated at the emergency ward in the Ground floor. And at midnight was discharged after her condition improved still she could not walk. The SonG got her a wheel chair and pushed her to the DadGs ward where DadG was rapidly breathing even though on Oxygen, he started to complain of heart ache. He was in terrible distress. He was shifted to the CCU(Cardiac Care Unit).

The 4Gs extend family relatives and friends about(40+ texted and many more reached out) prayed for the welfare of the 4GFamily and answers came on Sep 12th in the form of the test result which was Covid-negative and all of us were jubilant and grateful to God and thankful to the relatives, friends & well-wishers support and concerned prayers.

On Day 3 of the ordeal MomG again developed high fever, joint pains and was immobile. Trying for admission in ward was futile due to hospital being full. We shifted her to another hospital and there too she was taken to the ICU. At this moment was the peak of the crisis. 2 of the members in ICU and the 3rd also was feeling feverish. Covid was a still a concern and it was a question of covid false negative. As there wasnt any clarity of the cause of the issue and situation was escalating simultaneously for both of the family members. It was a serious prayer and with a heavy heart that the SonG entered the house and straight went to the central member’s altar and prayed for the members health. The night was uncertain where the family is headed to, we got a lot of assuring calls of prayers and wishes at this moment. This kept us going this was the result of the Family PACT. Now we are in a better situation DadG is shifted to ward from ICU today and in a stable condition where the dark clouds of uncertainty are seeming to clear to bright blue sky.. our family is greatly indebted to the guidance and relentless prayers of our dearones.. We live because of Gods,your blessings and showing the PACT in Action for our family. I Am ever grateful to this blunderful yet beautifully wonderful journey from a dysfunctional to an organised PACTed family.

Random PACTs of Kindness – A Floem

I searched and researched for the secrets of success,

To make money, name, fame and property in excess,

My family strove hard for reaching higher levels of living,

At most times we drove in a race ignoring the hurting,

We created a life pact for our family after long sufferings,

Prayers & Blessings, the goal of our family is God’s offerings.

-By GRP (Grit, Responsibility & Purpose)

Useful read for people who want Safer_Relationships. “Relational_Safety Education” more important than Science_Education. Lack of Relational_Education increase Life-Risks and Crimes in Society. Safe Vs Risky or Toxic Relations & Agents. #DeepHuman_Sciences.

Beware of 3Ds in Bollywood.. Dhokha(Double-Cross), Drugs & Dons of Deaths.

Why People are trending #BoycottBollywood.

KeyWords/Ideas Here: Naivety, Narcissism, Nepotism, Expertise, Empaths & Egalitarianism. #EIA, EnvironMental Impact Assessment on Individual. SSR%– Shared_Responsibilty_Ratio.

#Dedicated2SSR. #50-Shades of Black. #CultVsCulture #Radicality Vs Rationality.

*Recent Revelation in Case:* https://zeenews.india.com/india/sushant-singh-rajput-was-murdered-i-had-seen-man-who-did-post-mortem-makes-explosive-revelation-2554132.html

SSR (an exceptional Empath) & many like “Heart-Minds” could be Alive(&Thriving) if they and people around them (Average People & FlyingMonkeys) knew & Sense what’s on this page & in their lives (NarCriminals_Awareness)? #SafeLife (Empath-Narcisstic Spectrum for Trustability2Toxicity).

Why this world has many Threats to the spirit of ‘Sushant‘ in us all.?

The various exhibited and covert Narcras (Nakras-drama) are intented to make Bakras (Naukaras-Trauma) out of unaware Chokras (ignoramas). #NarcAbuses by NarcaSuras.

These Concepts/ideas here existed at three levels of 1. Self, 2. Others & 3. Group dynamics from time immemorial, are existing now & will continue to exist in future, The choice we and our dearones have is to know or ignore them at our own risks. Updated(20/10/23).

For better safety of Brothers like Sushant or Sisters like Disha (also others from Bullywood or other bullyplaces who have been (covertly_drugged, Suicided, Abused, Raped, Acid attacked, assaulted & murdered (AMIS model), I wish that we could have written & shared this glog post with them before their enchantment and entrapment at Muming Mumbai Studios, nevertheless by reading this till the end my hope is there will be less unaware Brothers-Sisters & maybe Bristers too (Third Genders) facing such terrible situations or ends. More Awareness of mind is more Safeness of mankind.

The Intent in presenting these here & now is to inform the readers(minds) and shift our collective position from being naive to becoming aware, brave, awake & woke (Poka Yoke-Japanese for mistake proofing). Bring out the unaware points/facts to the fore, aid the truth seekers in the quest from Darkness to Light (sanskrit phrase Tamasoma Jyotirgamaya). also go beyond this to a Prakrit Maxim of Buddha “Appo Deepo Bhava” or be our own light.

I had at a turning point in life to confront mySelf with dark-lies & bitterest truths, then with certain Aha-moments my paradigm shifted when my personal reality & world views was questioned severely since the years 2010-2017 the deconstructive 7 years and I had to rethink my beliefs and assumptions which led to my quest for deeper understanding of our realities that encircles us and the societies’s many faces and their phases. I had to learn it personally the hard way on thorny paths and I share here with you so my dear-ones, my G-readers, for our family or friends do not have to undergo similar sufferings & traumatic situations nor any others be victimized in our societies. #Anti_Bias, Pro_Basis, #Anti_Cultic, Pro_Culturic.

I am able to understand Sushant Singh Rajput’s (Artistically Clever but Socially Naive-Male from Tier-2 city) or Disha Salian’s (Naive-Female) experiences and others like us/them who suffered or are suffering being ignorant of these useful critical concepts in life (recently SRK & Aryan khan).

We & many like us are formally taught & have learnt well about language, Physical Sciences Physics, Biology, Chemistry and tough concepts of maths at schools (I was in ICSE Syllabus) and may have reached prestigious institutes (NIT, IITs-IISc, IIMs..etc) and international academic towns-campuses of (Cambridge, Oxfords, Harvards, Stanfords, Nalanda(old)..etc) based on these edu_merits; but we have not been taught or learnt enough about the important concepts of Basic humanology, Psychology, morality, compassion, empathy, our minds, kinds-types of personalities (Normal, Abnormal, Defected or Infected-Biased Criminable Personalities) nor socio-dynamics, sociology or victimology. Spectrums of (Identities and orientations, Idealogies), families and basic social-psychological awareness & life-skill ability needed for a healthy, safe & trouble-free life.

Why is there so much suffering(dukka) by multi-modal violence perpetuated on innocent good humans by other exploitative evil narc_humans, InfilTRAITORs, SubHumane, aggressive-offensive, Criminal-instincted or Toxic_Cultic Ideas-Ideosystems?

We have practiced always more ‘what..’ questions and less deeper ‘whys..’? This post aims to explore the above very important and urgent question with current illustrations from Sushant Singh Rajput’s and other Bollywood(Indian) cases to provide material(Deeper Insights) to help understand the bigger picture of these socio-phenomenons.

This awareness could help reduce and in case prevent such occurrences in our shared future (Poka Yoke). I believe ” “Ignorance and ignoring is a path to Suffering” while “Awareness and sharing is the key to Prevention, Recovery & Awakening“, as I have seen this pattern work in many places also in my life & others lives.

Many slips, mistakes and errors of judgement happen due to the identified 3Ns here, it can range from risks, to threats and to even Life hazards. In the order of influence from a single human to an industry & to our world are as follows. In college labs, workplaces we are made aware of SHE(Safety, Health & Environment) principles, even on road we are made aware of traffic safety, whereas the principles to be applied at our personal and social interrelationships are missed there is a big hole in our life path wherein many people like SSR, Disha and others have fallen down.

some people have been rescued out by other helpers providing them a safe lifeline support and they have risen in their lives again. This post hope’s to highlight the dangers we and many like us encounter in this journey of life-society.

The Dangerous 3Ns (Naivety, Narcissism & Nepotism) & the Empowering 3Es fighting them (Expertise, Empaths & Egalitarianism)

First N-E Pair affects the Individual

1. Naivety & Expertise: Naivety is the state of being naïve, inexperienced or unaware. We all start our lives with few life-codes in our DNA by nature and on the way learn most of our knowledge and skills from the nurture, experiences & lessons we are provided in our environments through our parents, families, schools, Knowledge-resources and surroundings. Our formal education depends on the education systems thrust on us while our informal education happens at our homes, neighborhoods, environments we get exposed to. A child is taught about the basics of language, culture, etiquette, play and games, repeating rhymes and math tables and more of such things. when he/she/tse starts questioning more they are told easy answers and the harder questions are left unanswered or worst put down not to be asked ever. What is lacking and leads to the ignorance and naivety in the society? I think We Indians as kids are not educated adequately about the arts of questioning, pursuing our Logical-thoughts and finding the truthful answers on our own, as a Team & family unit or as a collective/community. Most are told to follow the instructions by authorities, peers and hierarchy without questioning their validity and relevance. This Naivety in critiquing & not questioning the authority figures is encouraged at home, in school, in religious places and also in public. This naivety helps the dominating/manipulating forces to control the sheeple mind so everybody/thing they want stays in check also in the way they want. SSR, Disha Salian, Jiah Khan, Divya Bharathi, Sri Devi, (D.K Ravi-IAS) & many others learnt a lot, academically they may have had very good IQs and abilities in science or profession of acting but they were Naive in regards to Social Intelligence not able to identify toxic-entities or people, unaware of the Narcissist-Empath Spectrum or make sound moral-judgements. This naivety(innocence) is an inherent or systemic quality in all of us until there are events of cognitive dissonace, revelation or learning(from a good source which this awareness post intends to be). This is the Aha!! or Bingo!! movement we get as our minds fit the major pieces of the jigsaw puzzle, overcoming the illusions & cognitive dissonance.

This is where access & relation with Expertise, experiences and exposure matters a lot, there are people who have been nurtured in such supportive and explorative environments who gain the ability to gauge and read people through various methods they gain the expertise formally and informally improving their Socio-Emotional intelligence. These are the very street-smart and well trained (nurtured/mentored) ones in mind arts, human psychology & group behaviours. They may help others or may not offer any guidance based on their own character or the equation they maintain with the naive ones. SSR and other neophytes of hard-life club were offered less help (guidance+ mentoring+PeerSupport) from the insiders/dominators of the industry(on the contrary they were abused and mocked). He/she had no godfathers or godmothers unlike lucky-privileged few(Nepo-Kids) who have access to the expertise and social-intelligence resources which may be termed as their social capital.

If Sushant or any naive-ones have to survive & thrive they need similar access and empowering interactions with expertise, expert insiders knowledge and similar mentoring as received by the NepoKids. This is akin to a newbie mentee gaining under a mentor or guide or an aware peer support group.

Our Naivety can be overcome by right connections with resourceful expertise it could be in any external form a book, an article, a radio podcast, an expert, a community, a blog post, an experienced wellwisher, a caring- thoughtful friend, a helpline, a focus group, or an internal dream, realization etc). Among professions the most with expertise & awareness of unique niche happenings are the Researchers, Experienced psych counsellors, Investigative Journalists, Home-Science Experts. Top heads in the Political, Social & Economic structures(may include the police, judiciary, bureaucracy (IFS,IAS etc) and insiders or whistleblowers) who get to have a birds eye and detailed view from vantage points.

In SSRs crisis he was in distress because of his relationships with a toxic environment formed by nexus of frenemies & thier family in addition to a toxic industry Bullywood & Druggiewood and not many can handle this situation if he or his family had connected with the expertise to counsel maybe one like the menshelplines (08882498498-SaveIndianFamily.in) or any suicide helpline also if Non-Indian other International Human Rights forums they have the experience to make him/them aware why he became just an ATM card for an ill-cultured expolitative family & social circle(His IIndGirl Friend’s) in this Indian Socio-Cultural system the cultural connection is jarringly from same community in link given. Need to run pattern recognition on this using Big Data for statistics.

Seeing from a personal perspective SSR and his Bihari family (Bihar-Bengal are neighboring states, I have about 10+Bihari friends and in a conversation with about 5 of unmarried guys on this they were of not a good opinion of establishing marital relationships with a particular neighbouring state heard this in 2018, Its a personal observation need to validate from other sides and sources of the NState friends this is an observed cultural gap this may sound racist and biased but I’m presenting my friends statements SelfDeclaration: my first identify is as a human, with Indian ethos, born and lived in south India and I have no previous personal biases towards either Bengalis, Biharis, Marathis or any others referred in this post, I have good friends equally from all Indian communities during my interactions in MNCs & national organisations). the family may have been saved from this tragedy just like the many who have called and been helped by the Indian Menshelplines.

I wish each vulnerable person at risk and men like him & women like his sisters are not naive anymore but connect with expertise and value others experiences in counselling similar people in distress. There should be a proper social research done to discover how cultural background impacts in a marital, live-in or sexual relationships. Like IITs.. Is there an Indian institute of Family Welfare or marriages anywhere? Especially needed given how happy families can impact the society positively. We can Look at Japan to learn about value of a healthy family growth🙂 which lead us to the next higher level N-E pair.

Second N-E Pair operates between Individual & Others

2. Narcissism & Empaths:

For many ‘narcissism’ is a word they may have come across while generally reading or in the media but the real depth of understanding is reached only when real narcissism is personally encountered through a Covert Narc with NPD (Narcisstic Personality Disorder), then we realize the Narcisst-Empath Spectrum. Its not easy to see through the mask the real face of the narcissists hence narcissism is less known and less understood. Out of 100 atleast 25 will have high tendencies towards this it may be termed in different words but the basic personality falls under the red area of the bell curve shown below. An example of an NPD would be the Dictators(Hitler,Mao,Mussolini etc), Power hungry generals- dons(Dawood) or founders and leaders of Cultic groups (Nityananda, Gurmeet Ram Rahim, Zakir Naik, Hafiz Sayyed etc ) and toxic ideologies (Patriarchy, Matriarchy & Equiarchy)

Narcissism is selfishness at its extreme limits and manifests as LAG: Lust, Anger and Greed. There is an evident outward superiority complex and exploitative nature with lack of internal empathy for the recipients of their abuse. In case of SSR he encountered toxic and covert narcissists in his life who trapped him for their narcissistic supply (Money, Power, Fame, Social Status, Sex etc). He has undergone narc abuse which moves in 3 stages (Idealize, Devalue & Discard).

One can observe this as a repeating pattern in the Narcissists life trail. Many ‘traumatized victims’, ‘flying monkeys’, money scams, sex issues and power struggles may lie in their timelines. This will be known only to the very close ones in their inner circles and also known later to their discarded or silenced victims. The lay Bystanders or external witnesses are easily manipulated by the Narc abusers stories, smear campaigns and emotional mind games, they are the 70-80% people onlookers(orange spectrum) who may lack the expertise or empathic drive to see or realise the truth/rheality behind the abuse unless trained. They may ignorantly support Narcissism and blame the victim. This is what happened initially with SSR where the narrative by the abusers & flying monkey of Narcissists was accepted blindly by the majority media and public and there was a saddening silence from his family, near and dearones.

SSRs Friend RC’s history as suggested by SSRs close aides in videos hyperlinked here reveals a manipulative personality, with high narcissistic tendencies a list of techniques she has used in abuse of SSR is, in 1st stage of Idealizing LoveBombing and entrapping him faking love, Isolating from family, Financial Manipulation, covert control, Gaslighting about paranormal activity, Black magic changing home to a lesser secure place, Drugging, Control of his household worker appointments(bodyguard, cook and servant), 2nd stage of Devaluing him in leaked viral video saying he is goonda, Having parties at his home at his expense when he is drugged and asleep. 3rd deadly stage is the discard– she has likely taken the help of professional killers as explained by ex Raw N.K Sood most likely planned from months. as they started to drug him with depressants. as done similarly by her very close(pun intended) mentor Bhatt to Parveen babi.(The critical people around SSR were Siddharth Pattani(his Content manager housemate), Mahesh shetty, Sandeep s Singh, Samuel Haokip & Miranda, Alok Kumar his ex cook, Body guard, Deepesh sawant his servant who is seen clearing his room in a video also running taking out the trash(evidence) bag from the event scene. There are so many people involved and so many inconsistencies the truth will only come out if an unbiased and rationale investigation is conducted. Preferably by a National agency or commission as the Mumbai police investigation are compromised and faulty from the start.

We can even see the sign of a narcissitic smirk microexpressions at begining 2 seconds of the video Rhea released today most likely tutored and scripted from a nexus-ed Dawood-Khan’s house, to change public opinion and distract the truth seeking by public. It’s certainly a ploy by the evil triad to escape the consequences.

Empaths are the polar opposite of Narcissists they are the ones who feel dearly for others suffering, they are the ones who volunteer and serve selflessly are in the mode of giving (Narcissism is about Taking). They fall under the yellow spectrum in the photo They personify empathy.. SSR was in the empath spectrum his acts of kindness and humility prove that, he donated 1 crore for Kerala(What Kerala does for his justice is to be seen). Bihar his home state has stood by their son in a very honorable way with protests and voices supporting his family thoroughly, its something every Indian can be proud about. while same time the whole nation is ashamed at bollywood & mumbai police’s behaviour. Their attitude can be explained by the nexus of the Trio entities (Bollywood-MumbaiMafia-PoliticalElites)(People) respectively related to (Lust-Anger-Greed)(Passions) which manifests in (Sex-Money-Power)(Presents). This leads us to the next level N-E pair Nepotism.

As opposites attract, Narcs are attracted to empaths like fly is attracted to sweet meat. This pattern repeats in many places but isn’t identified as a Empaths-Narcs Interaction: RamSita-Ravan, RubiyaKhan-Pancholis, DK.Ravi-SandMafia, Shastriji-HisRivals, Jesus-Crucifiours and list goes on..

Slowly the Empaths #Justice Movement is building with the voices from social media becoming aware of the gaslighting done in this case. When bollywood and his family were Silenced the Truthful Empathic voices started raising with Kangana, Republic TV-Arnab, Shekar Suman, Ishkaran Bhandari, Subramanian Swamy, Ankita Lokhande, Smitha Parekh, His Sisters on Social media and millions of his fans and truth seekers on Youtube and twitter trending billion tweets and msgs of this case for weeks and more than 45 days demanding CBI probe has brought in so many revelations. It gives hope that the Truths shall prevail if the public wants & really set us all free of lies and illusion(maya) and not only #Justice4SSR but #Justice4allVictims will be accomplished.

Third N-E pair impacts at higher level of interactions b/w communities..

3. Nepotism and Egalitarianism:

By a narrow definition Nepotism is favoritism granted to relatives in various fields, including business, politics, entertainment, sports, religion and other activities. We can extend the term relatives for not only family but it may include, favoring relative biases by factors like region,class, language, color, caste(Rohith Vemula-Hyderabad), political ideology, religion(Dr.Payal Tadvi Mumbai), gender(SwaroopRaj Genpact), sexual orientation, industry(Satyam company) or by any other identities, the list is endless & crazy.. or a thing relevant here a family/group of Narcissists and enablers (flying monkeys) connected by LAG(Lust, Anger, Greed).

At this time nothing is clear at Mumbai & this most probably is what connived and conspired in SSRs case. the toxic triad had a nexus between a narcissistic (Extreme-Genderistic(feminist/meninist/Tranyist)-exploitative) family of RC, the Mafia of the dominant Khans-Dawood-Bhatts and the Political elites the Thackerays who exhibit control over the mumbai local govt, police and judicial systems). This is main reason there is a major coverup just like in the earlier cases of Jiah Khan & Disha Salian. Nepotism is evil a partiality as exhibited by few which has exposed the Johars, The Khans, Kapoors, Bhatts, Thakerays, Pancholis, political-social-cultural empires & Dynasties, also seen in other south indian film industries and buisness sectors there are much more to be realised & exposed. It favours or discriminates surnames, castes, religions, regionalism(as stated by A.R Rehman) and sycophancy in the industry and community. Sushant in rheality of 2018 had tweeted and expressed his regret about Nepotism in his industry many of us like other Bollywood biggies are silent spectators to this day also in our own sectors and work places. What is needed and what would it take to change it?. I have seen Awareness is the first step, consistent collaborative action is the next.

What we empaths and 80% of the middle of spectrum people’s need for peace and harmony is driving and championing Egalitarianism; that builds from the concept of social equality, prioritizing it for all people in through our homes, schools, work and public places. We can hardly expect the nearly 10% of Narcissists who have lack of conscience and ability to empathize impaired just like a physical deformity, they have a hereditary & cultural predisposition to narcissism and they create a very toxic environment of bullying and workplace mobbing for others. This is called the bystander effect when a victim is offered support and intervention by a bystander at the time of mobbing the bully stops the harassment, This needs to be made aware and addressed at all the 3 levels (Individual, Interpersonal & Intergroup) so we can reach an egalitarian society which values and nourishes such talented empaths like Sushan Singh Rajput and others.

Its a great loss of life and joy for his family, the Indian cinema, the economy, his fans and our nation of Bharat-India as a whole. If he or his friends or family had gained expertise and were aware empaths they could have deprogrammed and saved him from the narc-nepo trap. If these Suicides, Abetted Suicides, Staged Murders, Killings, Extortions, and other such abusive toxic impacts of Naivety, Narcissism and Nepotism have to stop, it is through us gaining expertise and create Aware’Actions in these matters, supporting and becoming empaths and striving for establishing egalitarian homes, teams and societies. This is where like SSRs Dil Bechara theres a Voice for all Becharas and Lacharas in an Indian visionary Dr.Ambedkar who longback saw through the masks of people, systems and also the idealogies states the risks for egalitarianism is 3 fold hyperlinked here; coincidentally they are the same closely connected in Sushant’s case represented by BollywoodElites-MahaliticalElites-MumbaiMafiaElites as explained as the #ToxicTriadNexus earlier. Theses above points I believe are the deeper and greater causes for SSRs and other victims deaths, Until and unless the root causes are addressed there may be more tragedies like Sushants in Bollywood, Rohiths in Educational Spaces & Swarooprajs in MNCs. No space may be safe for us and our dearones. This is the cause we all Empaths-FlyingMonkeys-Narcisissts need to care about. I hope this post points to you in the right direction for your explorations of your lives my dear brothers, sisters & Bristers. For An Inclusive, Supportive & Humane Society will be formed only when each one of us know and practice these values.

Conclusion: I have put forth my analysis of the 3N-E pairs as I have closely experienced and observed these concepts through my life, As a child I have seen myself, my naive family members and relatives suffer Narcissistic abuse through certain toxic people & associates, who have caused emotional trauma, financial & property loss, in school and college I and my friends experienced bullying by peers and also favoritism partiality by teachers to their own kids. At work I have seen workplace mobbing and discrimination. I have witnessed my friends suffer similarly in their relationships, Romances love and marriages where they have been trapped by narcissistic families & groups like SSR faced and work environments like bullywood. I have also witnessed their healing and recovery as a result of experts counselling, empathic support systems and idealist environments supporting egalitarianism and healthy habitation. I wish the whole world to be aware and alert in negating the 3Negative Ns causing us tribulations and embrace the 3 Empowering Es in this is our collective salvation as an egalitarian society.

Acknowledgements: I am grateful to the dear experients who offered me this valuable expertise and helped me in the darkest of hours it was the beacon of hope which guided this ship away from the rocks and towards the safer shores. I am grateful to the empaths my loved ones who stood by me on the docks providing me the help to move in those thunderous waters. My soulmates my family, my friends, my colleagues and communities you are the sparks which ignites the flame in me.

Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavanthu(May whole world be healthy): Jai Bhim(Salutes to B.R Ambedkar the architect of many valuable principles in India); Jai Hind(Salutes to my nation, my pride)

-GRP (Grace, Reason, Perseverance)

A Poem for My Dear Brother Sushant (Written on Indian Brothers-Sisters Day) (03/08/20)Celebrated by Sanatana Dharma(Hindu) from ages in Bharat & Beyond.

Today is Raksha Bandan 2020

To protect eachother is our duty,

SSR I am grieving4u bro!! sorry that you are no more,

I wish I wasnt naive about ur risks & about it knew more,

The VishKanyas&Kumars around you oh brother,

Had coiled their duppatas around your high collar,

The Saintly smile I miss, fallen into bully abis,

I loved ur acting, singing and snake dance,

Wish you stayed away from snake pits and fangs,

You are the light who will set this day bright,

You are in us brother, Justice for you+all is our fight. #Justice4SSR

We have a WhatsApp group called SAINTS (Staying Aware In Naivety& TruthSharing) for empaths exploring / exposing Love Frauds, Narcs and fake messages our community unites fact checkers, fake busters and critical thinkers. It’s an open group for sharing by empaths and truth seekers. Also we have a dedicated group for sharing awareness about Human Rights and Activities(HumaRA-Grp) Its open2all welcome to join.

I am that, I am (We Are that Love, We are)

I wish SSR had read this: https://www.indiatoday.in/india/story/all-india-mens-helpline-swamped-with-complaints-of-torture-by-wife-265980-2015-10-02

Also please Read my Share11 about (S11) AMIS Death Model to know more about Life-Death Matrix and other posts have #Value4OurLife

If You find any evidence or counter arguements please leave it in the comments below.. It can be accessible as a repository to all #SSRians

Reference:

Related Readings: 1. SSR and others can make better choice of relationships if little more aware by ‘Relational Education‘: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/11/03/the-married-life-spectrum-tri-scale-of-1-happy-2-okey-3-crappy-things-within-modern-21st-century-marriages/

2. The Marriage Problem: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem

https://www.newindianexpress.com/cities/bengaluru/2021/feb/06/ips-officer-files-dowry-harassment-case-against-ifs-officer-husband-and-his-family-2260491.html

I Was A Victim of The System That I Am Now Trying To Expose

False Allegations of Domestic Violence: More Common Than You Think

Last on info: SSRcase Chargesheet by NCB.. This will be slowed down based on the power of nexus. https://youtu.be/dEGsrkhche8

SSR%: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/01/17/s97-p-l-e-a-s-e-stop-it-initiatives-for-people-looking-to-end-academic-suicides-everywhere/

3. Narcissism Can Explain The Duo Killing the Mother & Brother. https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.timesofindia.com/city/bengaluru/karnataka-techie-who-killed-mom-held-in-andamans-along-with-pal/amp_articleshow/73972467.cms

Ans: Note the journalist person expressing not having any Remorse. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_jSn_gwMchg

4. EMPATHS Anti-Narcissistic Resources

1. https://wasitme.blog/2020/07/05/why-do-narcissists-smirk/

2. Real Life Example How Mind can be manipulated and the Victim can be made a Host or slave. https://www.iflscience.com/plants-and-animals/this-creepy-new-wasp-species-turns-social-spiders-into-zombie-slaves/

3. More Bullywood suiciDEaths.. 1. https://indianexpress.com/article/cities/mumbai/nitin-desai-art-director-bollywood-dead-8872715/

2.

Here is example of How can a tweet and digital spat can lead to Digital_induced bullying, social-abuse, e-Depression and suicide or suicided deaths.: eg in Sunanda Pushkar death. https://www.indiatoday.in/india/north/story/sunanda-pushkar-death-10-things-you-should-know-199009-2014-07-02

More Recent Examples and Updates..

https://www.koimoi.com/bollywood-news/rhea-chakraborty-indias-youngest-billionaire-nikhil-kamath-make-their-alleged-relationship-official-netizens-remember-sushant-singh-rajput-saying-iska-bhi/amp/

https://www.oneindia.com/entertainment/disha-salians-fathers-lawyer-dismisses-cbis-closure-report-on-sushant-singh-rajputs-death-as-ins-4102827.html

“Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavanthu” Ancient Verse serves a Modern Purpose.

(The above Indo-Shloka means “The World as a Whole, Being Happy is our Wish!!”), The World’s health, happiness & harmony starts with You & us as healthy & happy Individuals. Lose what is excess(FAT/Illness/Bias) & acquire what is needed(Strength/Wellness/Basis). By learning to use the Pr.ASADHs Health Formula. .I.e “Proper (Health/Happiness/Harmony)= Pr(Awareness+ Sleep+ Activity +Diet +Habitome)= Inter-External Harmony/Homeostasis.

A Formula or Functional_Equation takes form of f(A)= f(x)+f(y)+f(z)..etc Similar Formula for Healthy life is proposed as Property(Functions) of Healthy i.e Pr.(Health) = Priority/Property of Pr.(Attitude-Stress+ Accountability+DOSE_hormones+ HealthyRiskfree_Habitats).

Credentials & Disclaimer: I am a child of 2 Doctors(MBBS, DLO-Dad and DGO-Mom) and have a very close view of the medical domains, I am a certified HFI(Health &Fitness Instructor) from the SPARCC-Institute_India, This is a model I Developed from my personal experience, experiments & insights of Healthy Living. The Intent is to help-all and hurt-none. Request to use these points as guidelines and work with your personal healthcare professionals & Medical-Consultants to avoid any risks of misunderstanding and complications. I can be professionally consulted for personal-family health/harmony-coaching if you wish too. -GRP.

The Higher Purpose here+now Is: For me+us, my+our family and all of the society to be capable of living 100+ (healthy, happy & harmonious) years serving our Higher purposes with truth and compassion.

This is an explanation of the PrASADHs Diamond-Kite Health model introduced earlier in Share2 S2: with reasons why its acronym as Pr(ASADH) close to Prasada. as an humble attempt and proposal. This helped me loose weight/fat of about 16-18kgs in 3.5Months(108 Days) & gain a toned physique. Effectively(Rational), Efficiently(Optimal) and Environmentally(Natural).

Introducing the System in an acronym Pr(A.S.A.D.H) Diamond Kite Model for holistic health transformation and management.

Here is the list of the factors in the Model. I shall explain it as simple as possible and try to give the basis and references via hyperlinks to the concepts. This is the condensed form of “What it is”.. the HOW it was arrived at and WHY it works in this model and my personal journey of discovery and practice with photos, charts and videos it would get lengthier it may be appropriate for followup posts, article or a book. This is an open access article anyone may explore, learn, adopt, experiment and practice it while spending some time understanding the key ideas integrated in the model, If you want to customize, expand and develop over it too your welcome to do so, you may connect with me the author and ideator of this model through your comments below at the end.

The Pr(A.S.A.D.H) Health Model

1. Pr stands for the Approach of Proper-Practice leading to right 1.Process & 2.Progress.

What Is Proper Practice?: Proper in this context it is genuine, true, standard, recommended, apt & right way, right amount and at right timing as theoretically preferebly having a science based understanding. Practice is applying the theory regularly, frequently and at right intervals so as to have evidences for documenting. The Process+procedures precribed for right living by proper guide resources,Scientific Literature, researchers, Scholars, experts, coach, mentors or from the right community. Theres a need for fitness practioners to connect with prescribed information with the proper, relevant & authorized sources. Doing due diligence ourself is the Preparation for all the information and beliefs we and our family hold/ assume/practice as true and habitual customs. I have tried through personal research in this area to connect and collect authoritative resources, integrate it and apply it effectively through the Model devised here. The processes can be further explored & understood by clicking on the blue hyperlinked texts. Thus the Proper Precise Practical Process of the below 5 Steps(A.S.A.D.H) aims to lead to good progress in the health and fitness journey. Proper Preparation is essential. “If we fail to Plan we Plan to Fail“, There is a design principle which explains this simply in a short way it is Form follows function the forms of our body-health whether obese or lean-muscular depends on the daily-functions(Outcomes) that we use it for daily & consistently. If we make our functioning well we will also achieve a corresponding form. Physically and philosophically I am an admirer of Bruce Lee(The Lean & Mean Sensei). Find your ‘ideal person‘ for emulation make sure they are physically, emotionally, morally and spiritually sound whom you like to choose for their attributes in these particular area of Idol for health.

2. A is : Awareness-Attitude (Click on Blue Texts for more details)( Primarily the Intellectual & Mental Factors)(NeoCortexFunctions)

Proper Awareness about our self is the first step. What is our current status of health should be Attended, Audited and Assessed. This Model 1.0 Uses the below basic Indicators 1: Our Weight 2. Our Waist Size considering our height, age and gender.

Click on blue Texts for calculators.. For Deeper Analysis there are more parameters like Calories burnt, MBR,HR,BP, Sugar-Hormonal Levels & HRV which are considered That’s for the Advanced Model 2.0, Where It uses sensors and smart fitness bands. Also to be accounted is the genetic(Natural) and historic(Nurtural-Environment) factors and predispositions. When the whole Brain-Heart-Gut connection is made self aware the Triune brain and CNS Polyvagal nerve and all linked systems will get closer to coherence and systemic homeostasis will make one move from survival, to revival and thrive mode with consistency.

1.BMI 2. Body Fat % Measure and Treasure it with Date! Your going to Change this to your Ideal Weight and Waist size.

For eg: My Height is 173.5cms, Weight was 86kgs which gave a BMI of 29 was Over weight/ Obese and my Ideal weight for normal BMI22 is 65.10Kgs. and I calculated my BodyFat% at 29% which was near obese with Waist size of 37″. These can be approximately estimated/calculated too with last 2 digits of you height in cms( in my case 173cms) which comes to 73kgs for this height and the old slimmer waist size of 32″ related to oldest healthy weight recorded at 68 kgs. Thus Proper assessment and target weight and waist size is fixed in for Proper Awareness.

Record it weekly or daily Our must haves are 1.A Lengthy Mirror 2. A measuring Tape 3. A weighing Scale(Digital Precision Preferred) 4. A Record Chart, GraphSheet or logbook or health app. GRPs BMI-Management Mantra “MEASURE IT, TO Monitor,MANAGE & Master IT. M2-3M.

Proper Attitude of Self Belief and will power is required. We should be clear on why you need to reduce weight and what is the Ideal Weight & waist you have as target. write it down and share your goal with your family about your intent. Have an attitude of strong resolution and put it up on mirror so it can be seen daily. Be honest and open with yourself. Take a Selfie in tight dress so you can see your body and be completely aware of it. Have an attitude of gratitude for your body. Positive attitude about your body is part of the first step. Take up the Challenge as your Attitude will determine the altitude of your rise in being fit. I encountered resistance for change in self and surroundings for example the change of Diet & timings was initially constrained by family dining timings and culture. I had to convince and compromise with my family. I had experienced discomfort with the attitudes at workplace cafeteria to explain my veganish reducetarianism to others, or communicate about the fortnightly fruit fast on ekadesi days. These attitude changes are not only internal but is linked to external attitudes as well. The awareness attitude towards the 5 factors below will determine successful personal health management.

3. S is : Stress-Sleep Management (Mainly Mid-Mammalian brain Function)

Proper Stress-Sleep Practice is Required: Stress&Sleep Affects our body bio chemistry very much, Know your levels of Stress and sleep you are getting in your daily life, accordingly the stress and sleep management techniques may be utilized for good benefits in Fatloss/ Muscle-gain and our General Wellbeing.

Know your Sleep Chronotype and sleep needs, I have currently a BEAR Sleep-chronotype and my GRP sleep window is from 11pm-7am (8-hours as I’m a Bear Sleep’Chronotype) (Trying to gradually move it to 10-5am Sleep-Window)

4. A is : Activity-Accountability (Reptilian Brain & Physiological Factors)

Practice Proper Activity Is number One Reason for Muscle Gain, I Do my yoga & exercise workout till I sweat the fat out for 30-45 mins daily early before taking bath and breakfast. My belly Breathing pranayama practices helped me to fine tune my Metabolism and internal mechanisms. Find a ledge for getting an edge, I stretch and warmup for 10 minutes, Do Squats, HIIT drills, pullups and pushups, Dance therapy, abs workout, Suryanamaskar on the roof, Boxing and gardening, walking, jogging on terraces on different days. I make sure I sweat as much as possible before breakfast with a higher heart rate cardio exercise this is a good calorie & fat burner. So my body goes into ketosis or fat burning mode. Using Progressive loading I increased my Biceps from 32cms to 35 cms and have a well toned muscular physique with flatter abs(I acknowledge my arm wrestling buddy Brother-A who does pushups daily and had been a tough opponent (4 times Undefeated) at AW). It’s good to maintain a daily activity tracker also u may use the fitness bands for recommended 8000 steps per day(Cumulatively about 5-6kms daily). The polar opposite to proper daily activity is a sedentary lifestyle with zero hours of exercise per day/week will lead to weakening of internal organs & systems & fattening of viscera and belly.

Practice Proper Accountability– I chartered my journey with an accountability chart on my mirror and regularly sharing my achievements of incremental weightloss with my friends and health groups this made me very accountable for myself and my groupmates. I made a dare to bare my journey as authentically as possible. This made me respect and take responsibility for my body, my habits and my life. I am accountable for myself and my health. I was frank about my weightloss journey. I see this is a great challenge for many of people who were ashamed even to mention their weight or waist sizes. If we dont acknowledge out current reality to self and others especially to empathic people its difficult to change our reality. Do not be in denial be accountable. Another issue we can handle with accountability with bad habits & addictions (Sugar,Caffeine,Nicotine,Alcohol,SM,Porn Internet etc). I had sugar and Internet WA/SM addictions I utilized the Overeaters anonymous app and screentime monitoring apps and it helped me stay sober from April 1 till date. Also I had many accountability partners in the journey who I connected with spoke openly, frankly and honestly about my thoughts, feelings, urges and desires this helped me very much (Thanks Ram, Sudesh,PS and Mathan) for being my sounding boards. This blog is one of the ideas discussed with Ram. Do find your accountability partners and supporting communities. If you dont have such resources & need them do connect with me. One such communities created for focus on health is the Ri-HabsGroup 4 Right Habits(link to join in S2 post). I also made use of affirmations,pacts, visualizations, Memory Bands, for accountability. See what may work for your life and situations. Update of 2/1/22.. Accountability-Association of Challenge Mitras helps to keep things in check due to pleasurable peer pressure. We share peer-inspirations in the space of 21day Challenge Mitraaz(started on 21/12/21 to 10/1/22).

5. D is : Diet-DOSEage (This is the primarily the Primal Brain function/Reptilian Brain)

Proper Diet Is the number 1 Reason for weight loss, I follow the below 3 principles in my diet and in this model. first important is your level of water intake. I keep myself well hydrated. The key here is to have a balanced, nutritious, and calorie deficit diet according to your current weight & activity level from about 500 to 1500 calories/day for weight loss(Ketosis+), 2000-2500 for weight gain(Glycolysis+, 1500-2000 calories for maintenance(Ketosis+Glycolysis) . I used to visit the fast food and restaurants often in the noon where I used to have calorie dense foods I named it KFC(KingsizeFreakingCalories)diet(Highy Processed Foods) and now at home I am able to control it to PFC Diet i.e (Proper: Protein, Fibre(Fruit&Veggie) &Fat, Carbohydrates) Diet (Low/Unprocessed Raw Natural Products). To be precise and complete it’s the 5 elements WCPFm– Water,Carbs,Proteins,Fibre &Micro-Nutrients, got from LFVCH– Liquids, Fruinuts, Vegetables, Cereals & Herbs.

Diet is not fasting or starving.. Diet is the duet between your gut and all that reaches/houses it(Food, Water, Panchatatvas, Biome). What(Products), when(Period) and how(Process) all 3 matters to for a Proper duet/diet.

I have found and subscribe personally to the below forms for ‘Diets’.

1. Satvik Diet(Goodness Principle)
2. Reducetarian Diet(Veganism) LongLife_BlueZone Diet
3. Moss Diet(By Mantena Satyanarayana a Naturopath I was born in Telangana) Its Maternal Roots
4. Intermittent Fasting: My GRP food/Diet-window is from 11am to 7pm(11:00-19:00hrs) (Complementary to Sleep Window (11pm-7am(23:00-07:00)).
5. Keto-Paleo-Raw Diet
6. Zero-Oil(Bimal Chajjer, SAAOL)Atkins.

Proper DOSEsage I took doses of below herbs, foods & things as an help for fitness. It helped control my DOSE Levels( Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, & Endorphins), also the overall Biochemistry of our body is determined by few critical hormones. For example The Testosterone-Estrogen ratio levels correlates to the level of Musle-Fat(&Waist-Hip)Ratio consisting in the body for troth (GRP Orginated word when there is trinity as Both is for binary) males , females and intersex genders. My mother is a gynaecologist and she is terrified at the cases young women are getting at an young age, there is a connection between hormonal levels and the ASADH-factors. I purchased for her and a sister the PCOD book, These below Doses you may take on different days of the week you may adopt as per your preferences.

1. Jeera Tea
2. Shanka Pushpi Tea
3. Sunlight Exposure
4. Lauki-Pumpkin Juice & Apple Cidar Vinegar
5. Lemon Juice & Citric Fruits
6. Kadha or Kashaya

6. H is: Habit-ation-Harmony (This Involves the whole triune brain and other brains as well)

Proper Habits & Habitation is the Subtle differentiation in this 5Factors, The Habit of using small plate for meals, of drinking water of sleeping in a dark and soundless & EMF less room helped me, also I recommend you for taking detox frequently both Bio-Detox by cleaning your Room, house & neighbhourhood externally and internally by taking Castor oil and laxatives & Fasting once a week or fortnight, this helps Also have a digital Detox as often as you can. Also avoiding plastics and living close to nature and away from pollutants as much as possible. Get as much pure Air, Water, Food, Products & Sunlight as possible. I use only stainless steel bottles and clay cup or natural organic material as possible. This is where in these current times our habitation & habitat is risky and challenging due to the epidemic(Biological Reason) & lockdown(Socio-Economic Reasons). This becomes a critical factor of survival & health.

Practicing Harmony: All above factors(ASAD) are like instruments and when they are not synced it creates noise and disharmony. When there is Harmony it creates a flow, a rhythm where the music of our lives can be expressed in beauty. Meditational Practices like Dhyana, Vipassana, Mindfulness, Silence, AOL, etc are scientifically proven to be beneficial . I have recommended installing the Waking up app for Meditations It is a secular system of meditation, you may follow as per your own individual traditions and background. I have been touched by these harmonizing practices listed alphabetically below:

1. Aurobindo Integral Yoga, AOL–ISHA
2. Heartfulness & PAM Meditation By Master Babuji Maharaj (HQ Kanha close to my place of Birth) Heartapp
3. HeartMath Meditation
4. Jesus Prayer Meditation
5. Mantra Chanting Meditation(108Times Min/day)(Center Close to my place of Graduation) The RKHill Temple.
6. RajaYoga BK meditation
7. RamakrishnaMath, Sri Ramanashramam.
8. Twin Heart Meditation
9. Vipassana Meditation(also close to my Masters Institute)
10. Yogoda Satsangha by Paramahansa Yogananda.

you may try , explore and see what harmonizing practices you may adopt in your life. H also refers to Healing practices, most of us who have physiological health issues(Body) can find its roots in the mind (psychological factors), which in turn has links in environment(Sociological factors). Understanding the depth & breadth of issue is easier to do using the Pr(ASADH)s health model. By doing the earlier 4 Steps we will be close to achieving harmony and happiness through health in our lives.

Finally these 6steps and critical factors are what is integrated as Proper Practice of (Awareness-Attitude, Stress-Sleep, Activity-Accountability, Diet-DOSEage, HABITation-Harmony) in Pr(ASADH)s DiamondKite Model for Health Management. I believe a Healthy world starts with a healthy Individual. Healthy self leads to happy families, offices and communities leads to harmony in the world. Be the Peace and healthy person you want to see in this world..

My Best wishes for practicing these Kite Principles.. The Kiters are Tough like a diamond and lite as a kite..

Trying at a rough intuitive Formula,

Proper Ideal Weight/Waist Health Mgmt=AwarenessAudit (DeltaActivityLvlNeeded -(DeltaDiet-DeltaStreep))*(Harmony of Habits & Habitations)

Simplified Pr.ASADH’s Formula for HealtHarmony Pr(He)=F(A).F(S).F(A).F(D).F(H)

Thus Pr(Health)=Pr(ASADH)

Pr(Harmony)=Pr(ASADH)= Pr(Associations. Sleep-Stress-Systems Management. Area-Environment. Doctor+Dost. HelpCare+ HealthCare).

We all are being effected by low quality & access to health-care, and issues are more compounded by lack of help-care.

Health is a very complex subject and topic this is my humble attempt to try to simplify and apply for my self to help my progress and evidently it has done so in target parameters of Weight, waist size and biceps girth. This is just the beginning there are multiple Bio-Medical parameters for health which needs to be thoroughly considered to lead a healthy long life. My goal with this post is to create blue health zones in India. Hoping this is a small step in the larger journey for us all.

Thanks& Regards,

GRP (GainMastery, ReachGoals,PublishWorks)

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A poem (Me, My Fat & Our Journey)

In my old photos I looked as tiny as the ants,

I grew big thanks to my parAnts, Uncles & aunts,

I fed on Ice Cream, Colas, Cakes and Chocolate,

Got cavities, chubby big belly and it was too late,

I looked like an elephant wearing a tight pant,

“My potbelly is seen” was my heads constant rant,

As I felt shy, ashamed, guilty and filthy seeing fear in my fat belly,

I made a resolve to solve these issues by using our smart grey jelly,

I researched, read, realised & practiced and found a way,

I became lean, mean, clean & my ideal self’s here to stay,

I share this journey, model and lessons learnt to all who may need it,

Writing & improving so it reaches souls reading & who may lead with it.

I have battled the inner and outer demons in the dark,

Winning it over with light and delight, I offer here a little spark,

This can rekindle the fire in our belly to achieve our life goals,

As we master the soul calmly, even as the hungry beast growls.

Using the Pr(ASADH)s Model of Integrated holistic health,

Ideals are seen in mirror, scales, belt & self, More health, less stealth is wealth.

I dedicate my self and work for the higher purpose with prose,

Visibly Life has three sides always like the petals, stem and thorns in a rose.

So too it seems life is beautiful, useful and ugly all at once seen very close,

Upon deeper introspection what gives us the flower-fruit is really the roots,

This is what is the hidden, under the soil the cause for all the shoots,

Go deeper, Go deeper, and the spring of elixir will spring in you,

As above so below, as below so above,

Its Cyclic and spiral the dance to live.

By GRP(Grit,Reason,Pur(e)p(r)ose)

My purpose Is for Pure Prose

My gratitudes to all the dear souls on a fatloss and health gain journey.. Never Give Up.. You can do it..

Top Medical References are listed here:

1. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/

2.https://www.webmd.com/

3.https://o360.com/blogs/top-10-medical-websites-for-patients/

After reading you need clarifications of concepts in model, deeper understanding and explorations in learning or personal accountability resources or personal coaching and mentoring do reachout to me I would provide as needed. I and my groups are accessible through comments, email and on WhatsApp Consultations.

Linked Resources are in the Hyperlinks, You may go to the Index Page for Further readings

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If you found this post of Value: Do read the related post of International Yoga Day.. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/06/21/international-yoga-day-2020-target-achieved-16kg-fatloss-prasadhs-holistic-health-model/

Shrimati Ponnachiammal Raman was the eldest daughter with 3 sisters & a younger brother all born in Madras(1917) with relatives and lineage from Ooty(T.N-India). She was a very responsible and caring person. She married at a young age as was the practice of her times.

She had studied till the 8th Standard more than her husband Mr. P.N Raman who could get educated till the middle school only and he had joined work early. The couple had 3 children at Madras and the family of 5 moved to Bangalore in the 40s. She had 5 more children with an interval of 1-2years. She managed the household of 10 members singlehandedly. The Father had a busy job he used to work most of days from 6am to 12pm and with a weekly off seldom taken.

She was a very caring mother to 8 of her children and also a responsible sister to 3 of her younger sisters. So, much so that her sisters too came along to Bangalore to live nearby to them. They used to frequently visit and stay with the elder sisters family. My Father her 3rd son tells a lot about her, as he loved and respected her very dearly. He tells the main reason for him becoming a doctor is due to her encouragement, As once his grandfather had suggested him to take up the work of his father (my grandfather) discontinuing his education but his mother always stoodby him, resolved for him to get well educated. His dedication to her I witness many times, even today on 14th July 2020 when even though he is in his 70s and there is fear of Corona around he enthusiastically rushed out(ofcourse with mask and social precautions) to get her favorite dish Rava Idly at 8am, so as to offer it while remembering her on her rememberance day.

She was a strong opinionated person is what I collect from they way my father remembers her as she was managing the household having no elderly persons or inlaws to guide or support her she held the fort for the family. While she took care of the household chores she also maintained good relations and connected the extended families too. The family had a set of challenges when the kids reached puberty(when the real personality manifest) when they were of the age of marriage, the eldest son was not responsible in supporting the family finances and functioning when the family needed it the most as she had a medical condition while she needed treatment and care. Another major issue was in form of a external person who had taken help of the father/family to get a job who was visiting their home turned out to be a backstabber later eloped with a daughter to Mysore. This was a big blow to the family integrity, later it was resolved by bringing them back and getting them married with no other choice given to the family. (Later its happens the family backstabber abandons the eloping daughter after 2 kids for another woman..History repeats itself (Coincidentally the backstabberS father too had 2 wives and extramarital affairs this was later known to the family), It was also known recently that he was a child abuser too, leaving his history of child abuse repeated by his son who is a living meany creep posing a big risk to the unaware family members). In Life and Societies there will be black sheeps or wolf in sheep’s clothing (Malignant Narcissism) in many places I wish my Grandparents could have spotted the risk from this backstabber earlier and saved their daughter and family from these abusers and frauds. This is one reason behind a group(SAINTs-Grp) to spread Narc awareness to people so they are safe from such malicious personalities.

Another form of challenge came through her sister’s life where she was being tortured by her husband and she took refuge with her and so did her other sister who lost her husband and with 3 young daughters they joined the family unit too. This was the compassion and caring attitude of the grandmother and grandfather that they took as many dearones unconditionally under their wings whoever needed it with an open heart (this was also reflected in the next generation where an abandoned girl child was welcomed into their homes).

Having so many challenges her health deteriorated another big factor is that she used to have an habit of chewing tobacco, this turned out to be her undoing. she was treated at Vellore CMC at a later stage. my father was studying midway of his MBBS when he remembers accompanying her to Vellore. Alas she cared for her kids and families more than her own self she neglected her own health and wellbeing and she breathed her last in 1967. She, her words and her memories survived through her children, her sisters, her relatives and her grandchildren who benefitted from her care and nurturing. Even though I nor my mother were fortunate enough to have seen my grandmother I experience her caring attitude through the reflections in my fathers personality and the open culture of inclusiveness through the relatives who have known and value her. I see her presence through her photograph at our and our relatives homes.

As a personal note to her,

To my dear Grandma-Paati,

I am very grateful to you Patti- grandma, for being a wonderful person, with so much love and care for the family. It’s your and grandpa’s hardwork, encouragement and vision that my father could be a doctor and also my beloved uncles-relatives could be educated and all the extended families reach the level we are at now. I dint get a chance to meet you or get your reprimands directly but I do get it through my Dad, I thank you for all your contributions and guidance for our family. I wish you never chewed tobacco and you might have seen all your grandchildren too, I realised how habits can impact lives and that’s why we created the (Right Habits Group) to share and promote health. You were a main pillar of strength and support for many even my dad and I know he misses you a lot. In the way he says the word ‘Amma’ with so much dedication shows he loves you a lot, he says your blessings are what is keeping him going, you instilled in him the spirituality he values.. Thanks for being a guiding source of inspiration for my dad, me and our big family.

Your dear Grandchild,

Guru Prasad.G

My Patti, My Grandma,

A big flower in a garden grows in sight,

Makes valuable nectar day and night,

Many bees and butterflies take from her,

Like her mother nature she offers all the nurture,

The nearby hives are rich with honey,

The feed breeds the next generation dense,

A young one is told of the flower legendary,

He seeks her but finds a lingering essence.

To know the magnanimity of a flower seperated by time,

He sees in the lives and words his hive echoes as a chime.

-GRP

Helpful linked resources provided as underlined hyperlinks above..

From my H8teful 80s(April2020) to Slogging 70s(May-June) to the Sweet-60s(July).  The GRPFat2Fit Journey is being Wonderful.. Every Day In Every Way Its Getting Better and Better.. Nice to Know Lighter Than 77% of People.. just have to reach 80% it wud be FCD(FirstClassWith Distinction). I am on the way Rock Solid with the PrASADH DiamondKite Model of Healthy Life Mgmt.  more shared in the dedicated health Rihab group. BMI-22 Target Nearby.- GRP

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