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We ask and are asked a multiple times during our interactions standard questions like “Hey, How are you?” And generally answers exchanged are superficial like “im Fine”, “Ok, Good”, may be few enthusiastic people may go to “awesome”, but few receive negative phrase like “Not bad”, “surviving” or “holding on”. Is’nt it? How helpful are these interactions?
On world health day, Today I think we can make this to-fro Inter-Humane communication a little more meaningful and useful.
Proposing on using a more open ended Positively loaded question or query system which like Easter eggs can receive more relevant and useful information when asked and shared.
There are 2 options.
1.”Hey, Hows The J.O.S.H ? (Inspired from Indian movie- Uri)
Here J.O.S.H stands for the four very important Critical-Factors in our lives.(on a scale of 1-5, 5 Being happily fullfilled.)
1.Joy (Emotional),
2. Occupation-Education (Professional),
3. Surroundings (Social) &
4. Home (Personal).
Ideal is JOSH-20(5555) feeble JOSH-4(1111).
A sample conversation between Sharath, Joshua and Anvita.
Anvita: Hey Sharath, Hows the JOSH?
Sharath: Overall Good. Its 3/5 Joy4, Office3, Social2 & Home3.
Anvita: oh I see, Is ur social life is weak do you need any support from me, why not you join us for in our health club to improve it.
This Query format can help In sharing complete critical information for understanding and creating right connections for help between individuals. So any good outcomes can be generated from this conversation.
2. “Hi, How’s Your S.T.R.E.S.S Index Today?
This format of Personal Greeting & querying can be really useful. This makes the well wishers (PriyaMitra/DearAlly) really aware of the Overall state of queried-others (Dearones/ApatMitra)
STRESS Index is the acronym for the most vital parameters of health. There is a spectrum from Distress(10), Eustress(5) to ZeroStress(0) states. Our ideal state would be in Eu or good stress level(4-6) between threshold extremes of 0 & 10.
S: Sleep (Adequate Quality(Deep)-Quantity(6-8))
T: Thoughts (Positive-Helpful or Negative-Harmful)
R: Relationships (More Strengthening, Less Weakening)
E: Eating/Environment (Energy Providing not saping)
S: Systemic Demands met (Self+Others Expectations and any other Pain points)
S: Support Systems (Crisis and coping resources having Gain points)
Sharath: Hi Anvita, Hows your STRESS Index?
Anvita: Thanks for asking Sharath, aboutOverall about 3of 5: Sleep3, Thoughts2, Relations4, Eating1, SNeeds3, Support3.
Sharath: Oh I see, How may we help you in improving ur eating score its low. Are u not getting gud nutrition?
Anvita: yes I’m not having time to cook.
Sharath: Oh I See, I know a good cook in our neighborhood shall connect with you.
So as we may see, in this mode of formatted mutually understood conversations can help us exchange our Stress index to understand at deeper levels and also increase the possibility of Vital support and information to be shared in our partnerships and social interactions.
So our JOSH levels can be higher and STRESS levels under control where its interpersonally Monitored by or Dear allys(Family+Friends) so we have Eustress(good stress/pleasure) and less distress(Pain). By this we can help our situations and also be able to better help others too.
Dear G-eaders, Hows your JOSH?
Do share about your STRESS index?. (In comments)
These are ideas for improved communication formats on world health day.
Can experiment and improve it as we go further and grow further the idea for a Happy, Healthy & FriendlyWorld. Please do share your response to these ideas. How do you take care of your loved ones and better ways do let know in comments here. We share and we grow together that’s the idea of the blog we dare to care about ideals and dare to bare the ideas to make it realistic in reality.
Casting out the ghosts of Color, Caste & Class; In me, my families & communities.
GR Guru Prasad, is a 2nd Generation educated Bahujan_Dalit Researcher based in Bengaluru India. A trained Architect, a Product Designer from Indias Top most University, Worked for 7 Years in an Indian MNC, Is currently pursuing his PhD. He is a group space designer, passionate about connecting people, purpose and principles. He has created more than 50 Succesful WhatsApp communities which are thriving to be environments of egalitarian excellence (EoE-Groups). He is nick named Group Prasad due to the utilitarian diversity of his group systems. He is a blogger who’s blogpost are informative and have readers reaching about 20+ countries. He aims and works for a better world and life for all.
1.”What inspires me” to write is the pure utilitarianism of writings. The black texts on white brings so much clarity and understanding to higher ideas and abstract concepts, that it may defy the saying ‘a picture paints a thousand words” and make it so that a word can paint a thousand pictures”. There is Truth, Beauty and Utility in words which can seldom be replaced fully by images or videos or even AI in future. Words make our world, and writings create the workings of the worlds. 2. “Who inspire me” are greatest change makers who have done so by their power of expression who have changed the course of mankind in the Write Directions in their Rightings. I am a reader of Ambedkar, Gandhi, Vivekanda, Buddhists, rationalists, Marshall Greenberg similar non-fiction writers and philosophers. What I have gone through in my personal, professional and social life has been a tale of contrasting cultures, regions and polarities.. I have been to the four corners of India physically and 4 corners of the world metaphorically. I being a Sensitive empath have experienced the harshest of un-principled minds and also the warmest of principles hearts.
I have many ideas, experiences, stories of failures, successes and learnings to share with my communities in multi spheres. This has helped many in the past, is helping many and in future it’s going to positively impact the world and global citizens in a unique way. My USP unique serving Purpose is Communification of the world. By which I mean to groupify Not a communist perspective but a CommUNITY perspective. I believe there is power In unity, and only when there is a sense of belonging as a shared community of citizenship or fraternity. It’s my endeavour to connect principles in the groups and communities we create.
1.”What inspires me” to write is the pure utilitarianism of writings. The black texts on white brings so much clarity and understanding to higher ideas and abstract concepts, that it may defy the saying ‘a picture paints a thousand words” and make it so that a word can paint a thousand pictures”. There is Truth, Beauty and Utility in words which can seldom be replaced fully by images or videos or even AI in future. Words make our world, and writings create the workings of the worlds.
2. “Who inspire me” are greatest change makers who have done so by their power of expression who have changed the course of mankind in the Write Directions in their Rightings. I am a reader of Ambedkar, Gandhi, Vivekanda, Buddhists, rationalists, Marshall Greenberg similar non-fiction writers and philosophers. What I have gone through in my personal, professional and social life has been a tale of contrasting cultures, regions and polarities.. I have been to the four corners of India physically and 4 corners of the world metaphorically. I being a Sensitive empath have experienced the harshest of un-principled minds and also the warmest of principles hearts. I have many ideas, experiences, stories of failures, successes and learnings to share with my communities in multi spheres. This has helped many in the past, is helping many and in future it’s going to positively impact the world and global citizens in a unique way. My USP unique serving Purpose is Communification of the world. By which I mean to groupify Not a communist perspective but a CommUNITY perspective. I believe there is power In unity, and only when there is a sense of belonging as a shared community of citizenship or fraternity. It’s my endeavour to connect principles in the groups and communities we create.
We have created and connected all Indian Institutes (IIT,IIM, IISc etc Pan Indian Institutes at PAN(IIX) group.. We have connected Bahujan Ambedkarite Researchers in BARI-Group, where have connected Ambedkar Study Circles in Bengaluru. It’s a privilege to be of service to the principles that Egalitarianism and Anti-casteism that was pioneered by likes of Buddha Phule, Ambedkar, Kanshiramji and neo-ambedkarites.. I wish to make such contributions to cast out Class divides, caste Atrocities and colorism in our society with pragmatism, Proactivism and pioneering rationalism and humanism.
This is a sample of the work.. here is an privileged dominant caste character(Sushant Singh) in focus, more worse it is for a person belonging to an underprivileged Caste (Rohit, Payal and my silent brother, sisters also me having faced discrimination and dejection for being a part of my community) I have written about my grandpa who was a menial job worker https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/07/05/s7-sri-p-n-raman-1910-1-7-1996-a-grandson-remembers/
I want my writings to be a tribute to his efforts and dreams which my father and me are realizing for our families and communities.
elimination of a complex by bringing it to consciousness and affording it expression.
A Complex/Wicked problem may have multiple simple solutions or a Complex solution.
Here we are trying to collect and give access to information and resources which may empower us to respond in an informed and alert way to prevent Depression and suicides.
Some are dog people and some cat people.. similarly some have a dog’s loyalty and some a cat’s royalty.
In India and global english world, humans use abusive, slang or cuss words of “dog” or “bitch” for other unfriendly humans. but it’s not an insult to humans but an insult to dogs. As the loyality, friendship and partnership that dogs provide human are unparalleled in a symbiotic mammalian relationship.
No wonder these characteristics of dogs are valued as domestic pets, bomb squad members, Rescue team, blind assist dogs.. etc.. and they are rights termed a man’s best friend.
Why isnt it said to cats, why no one is referred as a cat when abusing?
Discover the 7 Possibilities of Relationships in Families. Know to see the #Marital-Spectrum or #Relational-Spectrum From (Red_Black/-5) Materialistic-Risky to Spiritualistic-Safer Maritals(Violet_White/+5).
#Marital-Rainbow #RelationalSpectrum.
How to Gain knowledge & ability to Check & Identify what are the histories, presents & futures of our Relationships, Marital-Contracts & Families. Marriage is about 5 Ps of Marital_Parameters I.e
1.Puberty(Parental Pressures)
2.Proximity(Physical-Pleasures)
3.Prosperity (Professional-Measures),
4. Property (Public-Treasures/ Spiritual-Treasures) and
0. In animalistic society there were no marriages as there is zero civility, it can be opportunistic & incestuous.
1. Ancient Tribal-Marriages were for naturalism, community & practicality,
2. Current Modern-Global Marriages are tending towards Materialism, Power-Status, Dominance and control, &
3. Golden Civic-Cultural Marriages are to Empower, Serve and Contribute Sustainance to Self & Society.
Key-Concepts: #Marriage-Spectrum, Weddings Vs Marriages, Romantic-Love Vs Spousal-Love, Marital-RainBow, Weddings is a start given by Venus(Love), Marriages is a journey through Mars(War). Marital-Rationality, Knowledge-Gap in Home-Science. Good(White) to Bad(Black) Marriage Spectrum. #Marital-Compatibility Mapping. Violet-Spiritual Vs Red-Material-Marriages. #Marital-Sciences, #Marital-ColorCoding, #Marital-Safety.
Most Basic education lacks concept-awareness of difference between Love Vs Lust, Love-Marriage Vs Arranged-Marriage Vs Fraud-Marriage. This post is to help the Knowledge-Gap.
What are Basic Essentials & Ingredients of a Valid_Proper Marriages?
Above Factors with Matching & Compatibility. Different Combinations, permutations & intensities of these factors produce different Colours and Shades of Marriages_Relationships . Like the Marital Spectral Color Wheel.
What are The 7- kinds /types of Marital-Relationships?
Most Indians are aware of only 3 kinds of Marriage Arranged-Marriages, Love-Marriages & Deranged-Marriages. But there are More 7+ kinds of Marriages which are listed here.
Based on the way the marriages start there are 2 classifications I.e:
Initial Coupling & weddings pre-determined, proposed, fixed and executed mainly by the Spouses individually themselves with lesser involvement of their families-friends its termed as 1. Love marriage eg: shown in Bollywood films Maine pyar kiya, Dilwale Dulhaniya le Jayenge & Families: Hritik Roshan, Shah Rukh Khan etc..(Essential Ingredient: Prior Acquaintance & 121 proposal relationship of spouses before marriage),
& Marriage-weddings proposed, fixed, executed and supported with prior and higher involvement of Spousal-families before spouse it can be termed as 2. Arranged marriage (There is no Prior relations between spouses before marriage). And within Arranged there are
A. Wisely Arranged Marriage (Better & Full Process & Right Marital Standards I.e less Risky & more safe) Violetish-Marriages and
B. Badly Arranged Marriage ( less M.Q and incomplete process and procedures with low marital-standards, more risky & less safe) Reddish-Marriages.
Whats the Real deep Difference between Love, Lust, Wedding & Marriage?
1. Love is more engagement of higher-desires of belonging to people and places for collective-excellence (Pre frontal Cortex function Upper 3-Chakras), Love for ideals, culture, people, person etc.(more We & Ours-ism) More of Serotonin, Endorphin & Oxytocin Driven (Long term Relationships). Foundation of love is in truer perceptions & open-receptions.
2. Lust is engagement of lower desires of longing for procurement of things & procreation of selfish-excellence (only Me & Mine-ism). Biochemically Driven by Sex hormones (Testosterone-Estrogen) & Dopamine-Cortisol(Illegal Illicit Sex) (Short term flings & affairs). Foundations of lust is in false presumptions and hidden deceptions.
3. Wedding socially is an event committed on 1 or 2 days & legally its Acceptance & Signing and mark of shake hand of the Marital-Contract between the spouse. This may have pre-nuptial agreements (Implied-unexpressed, Expressed Oral or Written and registered). Register marriages have wedding in the register office. With photography as declaration of the Contractees and social Eye witnesses.
4. Marriage is a life-long commitment and performance of the unknown, unwritten & unsigned but morally understood Socio-legal Contract. Wedding is a One-day Event a milestone, Bonafide-Marriage is a one-life commitment a journey towards Mutual Prosperity (for the loyal) & for the disloyal seeMala fide-Marriage it’s a way to more property, progeny and resource for exploitation of spouse/spouses.
Malafide Marriages are subset of Risky-Red and unpredictable are the Marriages.More Bona Fide Verified the Spouses/Clan/Marriages the more Safer & predictable can be the marriages.
By using Principle of Reasonable_Classifications found 7 Categories of Marital Relationships are possible. If more are perceivable plz post in comment. Each marriage is dynamic and like a sapling and tree needs constant care and efforts.. the colors can change depending on many factors.
For example in Ramayan RamSita Marriage started as Violet-Marriage @Ayodhya, Became Blue in Forests, then Red with Intervention by A Marital-Invader, then became Green when Rescued later it became a white-marriage.
What Color is your Marriage-State right now?
Like Seven Colours on a Rainbow, these are the 7 Seven Colours of the Marital-Vow.. Color-Coding of Marriages. Violet spectrum closer to Light-White & Red spectrum closer to Dark-Black.
An attempt to view and recognize all the halves in the world in one page. Vasudaiva Kutumbakam, Whole world is a Family.. yes but what kind of family?.. These are the categories by chance for some and by choice for some.
(We can observe the full Spectrum at the same place in socially ultra liberal & legally polygamous Communities & countries). As most of the modern marito-legal world is subscribing to the Monogamous and criminalized- Bigamous-Marital System the other systems are also seen as marital-minorities.
In the English language and common societies’ at many times/places we may have come across a phrase ‘Better-Half’. We may have for various reasons superficially accepted and moved on with the meaning and understanding. By personal-Assumptions and social-prejudices. Have you heard and introspected on the phrase and it’s implications for your parenting, Marrying and Procreating?
We can observe that there is a Spectrum of Categories to be seen here between the extremes of Better-Halves (High Collaborations(Benefit), Lower Competitions(Risks) and Bitter-halves (Zero Collaborations, Higher Competitions) this post intends to shine some light on this dark area of ‘Home-science’ or Couples-art or “Inter-genders Symbiosis”. Do leave your ideas for others in comments to help in improving the collective understanding of this phenomena of marital-coupling (Secretive-Couplings too).
3 Critical Factors of Modern Marital Couples-Systems.
1. Better Halfs (Violet-Indigo Luxury Marriage)(Near to Whiter area): (High Coopertability, Low Conflictability), When each spouse is relatively better (cumulatively -Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Ethically, Financially, Familially, Socially, Spiritually.. etc) than the other in a relationship thus complementarily making the sum of both better than the individuality of two. When the match maybe made for heaven for creating heaven on earth. With the spirit of collaboration and better future for all. Eg. The Kenned ys, MK Gandhi-Kasturba, The Obama-couple and other couples like them do leave your ideal-couple list in comments.
2. Equal Half (Orange&Pink-Marriage): (High Cooperation, High Competition) When the Spouse Is same as the other in all aspects even biological. Homosexual Partners. Eg. Freddie mercury & his partner, Queen Singer lesbian or gay or Intersex partners of same gender and orientation type. Match made in alternate-Eden made for instead of Adams & Eves but for Adam and Steve, or Ada and Eve, or Adma and Even(Trans-Couple). Also Narcicuss-Marriage or Sologamy, one Indian example married to self..
3. Equitable Half (Cool Blue-Green Marriage):(High Compatibility, Low Conflictability), When the spouse though are different (compatible-gender.. etc) they complement(Male-Female) each other in most aspects physically, emotionally, socially, Financially, Morally & spiritually. It’s a match made on earth with spirit of Cooperation. Eg. The Curies, Madam Curie, NarayanaMurthy & Sudha Murthy and Couple-people like them who are less competing/conflicting, and more Mutually-cooperating/collaborative in family & Socially-Contributive . Longest married couples:
4. Seperated/Departed Halves(Yellow): These are couples who may have been together for sometime eventually they have been seperated by Mutual Consent Divorce or Deaths or Religious Renunciation (Sanyasa) by various reasons (incompatibility, conflicting personal demands, affairs, imprisonment, mental issues, death, etc): EG: Bill & Melinda Gates(2021), (High Compatabilty changes to High Conflictability but resolvable later in relationship).
5. Sweet and Sour marriage(Orangish-Brown). Like hypothetical LaxMan-Surpannakha marriage in Ramayana. Surpanakha was a shape-shifter an ugly-personality in a beautiful-body, similarly modern cosmetics and use of silicone to increase the 2BPs(Boobs, Butts & Penis enlargements) are done to visually attract victims for trapping. Happy couples with 4 kids and gud life with bitter sour divorce can be Orange marriage. Eg. https://newsingermany.com/kim-kardashian-and-kanye-west-agree-to-200000-in-alimony-after-divorce/
7. Buttered Halves (UltraViolet-Marriage): These are individuals/couples who are pampered due to access to contributing social systems and resources. Eg Ziona and his 39 wives: & For women in free Ultra-liberal communities coupling in few countries. This may not recommended as it may cause socio-biological(genetic) issues in long term with unhealthy genes downstream. Situation with higher Gender-Imbalance in Demographics.. Higher Male Ratio in population can tend to PolyAndrous-Maritals(Haryana) and Higher Female Ratio can tend towards Polygynous-Maritals(NE States).
8. Non-Halves or Full-Halves (Colorless-Marriage) i.e Singles married with Life/God, Singles with no need or opportunity to mingle: These are Celebate-souls or Celebrated-Souls who are wholesome & complete by themself, not needing any other half or quarter to complete their lives. They are free souls, unbound and unrestricted by Marital vows or voes and vices. They may be asexual or amaritals or renunciates, Eg. Vivekananda, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Modi, Rahul Gandhi, Kamaraj, Mother Theresa, Sister Nivedita, Monks, Nuns.. etc
They are Singles in a Relationship who have no need for halves but may marry for external/Family/societal pressures and not necessarily for internal/personal/Social pleasures.
There is a perceivable Normal Distribution curve in every group dynamics. Many in the popular media and literature may have been exposed to the brighter or darker side of things, knowing the spectrum of grey areas and dark risks can help one in their journey of relational life.
The spectrum can be a positively balanced or imbalanced depending on the Bitter to better halves ratio of our society. There is a need for *Relational Education* not only Sex or gender education which is to be upgraded in our humanities education systems. This education can reduce the civil mismatches & Marital Discords while it can prolong the Societies average marital success stories & marital/family happiness index of the nation.
The spousal relation is not static it has dynamic phases dependant on Internal-Factor of the Individual and External Factors of both spouses & families.
If you are a bachelor looking for a bride or you are looking for a bride for your son , for God’s sake please be informed about IPC section 498a which can be used toloot you & your family. Please follow the below checklist to make sure you are not getting a 498a wife or daughter in law. It would be better if you can hire a detective to gather the informations mentioned below. This would save you from the huge humilation, harassment that you & your family may face in police custody/jail, Courts & Mental-Hospitals.
Check whether someone from the girl’s father’s family or mother’s family has ditched her husband for trivial reasons and staying in her parent’s house. Separated and Alienating Pseudo-Single Parents.
Know If the girl or entity that you are going to marry is currently having a full fledged relationship with someone who is a frequent visitor to the girl’s house – stay away
If the girl is having a relationship affairs with her brother in law or her close relative or colleagues on tinder- stay away she is in union already wants you to just be a social-face so as to save here darker-face.
Check whether the girl’s family is in deep debt (lot of home loans, car loans) and their income is less than their spending. They are morally-bankrupt.
If both the girl’s parent are working , be double cautious , girls with lot of freedoms can really be troublesome
Make sure there is not much difference in economic status between your family and girl’s family
Make sure the girl is a good match to you physically. (example if she is fat and you are too thin, think again, do try Bi-change, wait see change and marry)
If the girl starts saying things like “I love you ,etc.” before marriage trying to court and seduce you, just do not get melted or erected, 90% of the time she may be just acting as told by her parent to trap you, so check for true-deeper intentions to marry-YOU.
if the girl has got a close lawyer relative and the lawyer is not earning much from his practice, be extra cautious. Verify whether the lawyer is ready to fight a fake 498a case against men.
If the girl/fiancee is very hot(High Demand/Sexy+Risky) and hot tempered(Difficult-Emotional-Toxic), better to check & avoid if you don’t have resources to defend your home-family from marital-invaders.. eg. Of cases of Padmavati of Rajasthan, Sita of Ayodha, Royals of Troy, Prince of British Royal Family.
If you believe in astrology , for God’s sake get both of your kundali matched by a good astrologer
If you are not taking any dowry , better put in writing that “No dowry was exchanged in this marriage” in a stamp paper and get it signed by the girl and her parent
4. Marital-Rape Risk (mis-Solutions for help of Abused-Women, at hands of Narc-women can be turned as Problems for Abused-Men) if clauses of conswquences for Misuse undefined & unimplemented: https://youtu.be/2PFwCMOMmvk
We came here today at 10:30hrs for Dad (Dr.Gajendran) admitted a week back on 16/2/21(Tuesday) for heart problem. 1.Signs: Water Logging Swollen Foot, Tiredness, Sleep Difficulty due to arrhythmia. 2.Symptoms/Suffering: Excessive Urinary 3.Cause: Congestive Cardiac Failure, Multiple Distress Factors (@Home, Neighbhourhood & City).
Spoke with Co-Attenders asked them about their dearones health, also about the emergency patient who came in yesterday evening. They told the person passed away and the body taken by the family and friends at 19:00 hrs yesterday.
They shared that person was aged about 40yrs and was very physico-socially active as it was Sunday the person was at a game of football and had chest pain. Hse drove Hself by 2 wheeler to the hospital emergency with the heart attack pain(1). I/V had seen what happened after that too while waiting here. Hse Spouse & 2 Children & 9 Relatives-Friends were emotionally expressive of their sadness, fear-loss & grief in the Waiting area.
We were worried for them, and heard them pray and sit in contemplation for their dearone.
We saw this happen and more people arrive at for 3 hrs. The scene at the waiting room was of high octane emotions.
Other patients were trying to pacify the emotionally high 4 individuals.
But there was lot of Dissonance in the area. The resonance was provided by my mother too who was trying to get the 3 family members to the waiting/Wailing area from inside of the air screen/buffer area.
I and another attender were asking the security guard to ask the wailing attenders to move to another room as it was causing anxiety to the heart patients inside and attenders outside.
Space:CMH Cafeteria Energy(Gowri, Guru, Cashier, TeaMaker, Fellow staff and patient attenders & patients Lunch Time is 12:30 we came down to
Material_Growth & Altruistic_Growth. Smarter_Stuffism Vs Smarter_Humanism.
What matters is to Identify & EmpowerHarmonious Principles in places, people, personalities & Identities, with right purposes, passions with Perseverance-Presence in Spaces and Social Systems.
‘A.’ Holistic Architecture/Adminstration/ Army/Artistry: Conceive, Plan & project the vision, policies & projects to protect & provide for the home, clan, groups & nation.
‘B.’ Holistic Builders/Bankers/Bureaucrats/Barristers: Arrange for funds and finance flow of the projects, mission and policies.
‘C.’ Holistic Civil Engineers/Constructors/ Citizens/Communicators/ Councilors/ Counselors/ Contributors: Do and Execute the project and aid translations & Transmission of programmes.
‘D.’ Holistic Developers/Dwellers/ Drivers/ Donors: Roles to Facilitate transactions, Live in it and sustain with support.
‘E.’ Holistic Engagers/Evolvers/ Enablers/ Eco-Environmentalists/Empowerors: Engage with it and empower the evolution process making it better for the Environments in the Eco-Systems.
These First 5 letters of the English alphabets and their representation to the Legislative(Politics), Judicial(Legal) & Executive(Officials), Communicative(Media), Commercial(Buisness Products & Service), Productive-Civil(Agri-Food-KnowledgeWorkers) & Consumers-Client(General Public).
A Smart-Nation & Smart-Cities can be virtually-smart with smart digital technology, but we can be achieving real-smartness with Smart-Citizenry only. Do click this see how Smart Phones make People dumber and riskier.
Other devices are going to increase the intellectual inequity gap between the very few smart elites and more dumb controlled people. Making the smart more smarter and the less smart even dumber.
we are envisioning creation of Smart-Citizenship in Wise-Electers/Voters group who play role of Citizen-Mitras.
*DemocraticResourceGrp4*: Political-Scientists, Voters, Politicians, Law/PolicyMakers, NGOs, Public Service(IAS, IPS.. etc)
Sadathatha is my mothers lovable father, my fathers respected father-in-law(He had a reciprocation relationship of love and honor) and a dear knowledgeable grandpa to me( I like to think he liked me too as a Grandson) and a dear respected loved soul to our family members. Today 14/2/21 we remember him on his death anniversary. Dedicating my 50th Blog post to him and his fond memories.
He used to be slim and fit tall personality, I used to find him most times deeply engrossed in reading or in spiritual rituals, he had a complementary character to my Paternal Grandpa Raman Thatha(You may click to find his memories here).
While Raman Thatha was less educated, my maternal grandpa was highly regarded graduate from his family. He loved to read and write he was multilingual (Could Read,Write & speak in English, Hindi, Urdu, Telugu & Tamil too). I hear many stories about him from my parents and relatives. He had a band of brothers and they used to perform devotional songs in events.
He was sort of a polyglot, he was an officer in the railways and was self taught musician playing the Harmonium and violin may be Tabla too.
I loved to be in his presence even when he and my grandma visited us at Bangalore(Bengaluru now) he used to go through my books and have a discussion with me regarding them. His favourite book in our library was the oxford pocket dictionary. I still have his image etched in my memories of him sitting in my room sitting on the bed holding the book reading and playing a rhythm with his fingers on his balding head. It was amusing to observe him. His smile & also his false dentures he used to remove and keep it out while eating. He had certain rituals with his shaving set box and also his praying style I remember the bright white conch & black lingam at the altar he used to worship.
Actually my cousins, uncles/aunts and parents may know more about him than me, but here I would like to share a few memories I cherish of him.
I remember about him from the old black/white photos and sepia like photos of him as an young man. He was also a football player a captain in team too. May be the early training helped him to stay slim and fit all his life.
He was a teetotaler and never a smoker too. A highly disciplined and soft spoken character.
I remember tours with him to Kesara Gutta, Dharmasthala, Nandi Hills & places around Bengaluru & Hyderabad. He used to be a silent but observant leader. My mom has a record of the annual family trips to holy places around India that the family visited, it amounts to about 30 plus in 10 years.
He was a well travelled, well read person, he was a subscriber to the divine life society of Swami Sivananda and was a avid follower of Gandhi and practitioner of Gandhian principles too. I remember he owned a foldable charaka at Secunderabad.
I loved to visit him and my uncle aunt and cousins at Hyderabad, it was a second home to me. Though I love Bangalore and our people here. Hyderabad is my maternal hometown. A place of caring souls who have been the closest to my & my parents hearts even though far away by distance, we are always welcome there and showered with love and affection by one & all.
Used to look forward to the Diwali and Christmas holidays to go on a rail trip to Hyd-Secunderabad to visit my Grandparents and relatives.
My Grandpa on their visit here used to pick me up from school too, and on our walk back home we used to chat a lot. Once I asked him about a lake called Bande and he was so informed and knowledgeable he told me about the Ground water table and also we spoke about plants.
I observed while walking he had a peculiar habit. If he found a stone on the road he used to kick it aside, I asked him why when people just let the stone be on road why was he clearing it. I can remember he told me someone coming behind us may trip on it, isn’t it good that we make the road safe for others too. This created a deep impression in me about his altruistic nature. Here was a soul who genuinely cared about others in his community, I think he was a volunteer a person also to operate on the street lights in his area and neighborhood during his walks.
We also had a discussion about meditation and siddhis. I think in my closest circle he was a man of honor and respect. I miss his presence. He has given us a lot, me very much the memories, the wisdom, the guidance and his blessings. I tried to emulate him by reading his books, trying to read on Gandhi( Grandpa used to specially celebrate Gandhi Jayanthi at Home) and Swami Sivananda also trying to learn music to play Violin like him.. Its tough to follow him.
He inspires me to be like him a volunteer, a reader, a leader, an empath and a good character(Time Sense, Planning, Care(Scorpion Bite Help, Letter Writing for other illiterates, Tour and travel management, relationship building across Space-Time etc), for his family and communities.
Dear Grandpa,
You have been a wonderful grandpa, who loved us, I am very grateful to all that you taught us and shared with us.
I value all those wonderful times and journeys we shared together. You were a dear friend, Thank You, Thank you.
Your Grandson,
Guru
A Poem for Sada-Thatha.
Your slim frame and the house name I remember still today,
Your reclining hammock chair was my favorite place to play,
The environment you created for us around you Thatha,
The safer roads, the well lit streets for us & others’ ratha,
We may have spent very little time with you but you made it count,
The books & lives you touched may be huge in your karmic account.
I am grateful that you lived a life of example for us,
The Gandhian you were, I had never heard you cuss,
The legacy you left behind with us as our grandfather we cherish,
Your footsteps in time beside ours are ones we shall ever nourish.
I wish we had spent more time with each other,
You had raised us even me, dint my naughtiness bother?
I salute your character and soul that was there for us all,
We remember you when we see some like you fit and tall,
Wishing to treasure your memories that you had written,
With your toothless smile and bold forehead I’m smitten,
I love you grandpa this I never knew until we lost you physically.
Thankful that you survive in us emotionally and spiritually
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