For Humanism, Indians, Bengalureans & IIScians: We Grow Resourceful Purpose_SpAces: Collaborate with Mitrallys wanting to know, Grow & Help Futureones Grow.
Material_Growth & Altruistic_Growth. Smarter_Stuffism Vs Smarter_Humanism.
What matters is to Identify & EmpowerHarmonious Principles in places, people, personalities & Identities, with right purposes, passions with Perseverance-Presence in Spaces and Social Systems.
‘A.’ Holistic Architecture/Adminstration/ Army/Artistry: Conceive, Plan & project the vision, policies & projects to protect & provide for the home, clan, groups & nation.
‘B.’ Holistic Builders/Bankers/Bureaucrats/Barristers: Arrange for funds and finance flow of the projects, mission and policies.
‘C.’ Holistic Civil Engineers/Constructors/ Citizens/Communicators/ Councilors/ Counselors/ Contributors: Do and Execute the project and aid translations & Transmission of programmes.
‘D.’ Holistic Developers/Dwellers/ Drivers/ Donors: Roles to Facilitate transactions, Live in it and sustain with support.
‘E.’ Holistic Engagers/Evolvers/ Enablers/ Eco-Environmentalists/Empowerors: Engage with it and empower the evolution process making it better for the Environments in the Eco-Systems.
These First 5 letters of the English alphabets and their representation to the Legislative(Politics), Judicial(Legal) & Executive(Officials), Communicative(Media), Commercial(Buisness Products & Service), Productive-Civil(Agri-Food-KnowledgeWorkers) & Consumers-Client(General Public).
A Smart-Nation & Smart-Cities can be virtually-smart with smart digital technology, but we can be achieving real-smartness with Smart-Citizenry only. Do click this see how Smart Phones make People dumber and riskier.
Other devices are going to increase the intellectual inequity gap between the very few smart elites and more dumb controlled people. Making the smart more smarter and the less smart even dumber.
we are envisioning creation of Smart-Citizenship in Wise-Electers/Voters group who play role of Citizen-Mitras.
*DemocraticResourceGrp4*: Political-Scientists, Voters, Politicians, Law/PolicyMakers, NGOs, Public Service(IAS, IPS.. etc)
Sadathatha is my mothers lovable father, my fathers respected father-in-law(He had a reciprocation relationship of love and honor) and a dear knowledgeable grandpa to me( I like to think he liked me too as a Grandson) and a dear respected loved soul to our family members. Today 14/2/21 we remember him on his death anniversary. Dedicating my 50th Blog post to him and his fond memories.
He used to be slim and fit tall personality, I used to find him most times deeply engrossed in reading or in spiritual rituals, he had a complementary character to my Paternal Grandpa Raman Thatha(You may click to find his memories here).
While Raman Thatha was less educated, my maternal grandpa was highly regarded graduate from his family. He loved to read and write he was multilingual (Could Read,Write & speak in English, Hindi, Urdu, Telugu & Tamil too). I hear many stories about him from my parents and relatives. He had a band of brothers and they used to perform devotional songs in events.
He was sort of a polyglot, he was an officer in the railways and was self taught musician playing the Harmonium and violin may be Tabla too.
I loved to be in his presence even when he and my grandma visited us at Bangalore(Bengaluru now) he used to go through my books and have a discussion with me regarding them. His favourite book in our library was the oxford pocket dictionary. I still have his image etched in my memories of him sitting in my room sitting on the bed holding the book reading and playing a rhythm with his fingers on his balding head. It was amusing to observe him. His smile & also his false dentures he used to remove and keep it out while eating. He had certain rituals with his shaving set box and also his praying style I remember the bright white conch & black lingam at the altar he used to worship.
Actually my cousins, uncles/aunts and parents may know more about him than me, but here I would like to share a few memories I cherish of him.
I remember about him from the old black/white photos and sepia like photos of him as an young man. He was also a football player a captain in team too. May be the early training helped him to stay slim and fit all his life.
He was a teetotaler and never a smoker too. A highly disciplined and soft spoken character.
I remember tours with him to Kesara Gutta, Dharmasthala, Nandi Hills & places around Bengaluru & Hyderabad. He used to be a silent but observant leader. My mom has a record of the annual family trips to holy places around India that the family visited, it amounts to about 30 plus in 10 years.
He was a well travelled, well read person, he was a subscriber to the divine life society of Swami Sivananda and was a avid follower of Gandhi and practitioner of Gandhian principles too. I remember he owned a foldable charaka at Secunderabad.
I loved to visit him and my uncle aunt and cousins at Hyderabad, it was a second home to me. Though I love Bangalore and our people here. Hyderabad is my maternal hometown. A place of caring souls who have been the closest to my & my parents hearts even though far away by distance, we are always welcome there and showered with love and affection by one & all.
Used to look forward to the Diwali and Christmas holidays to go on a rail trip to Hyd-Secunderabad to visit my Grandparents and relatives.
My Grandpa on their visit here used to pick me up from school too, and on our walk back home we used to chat a lot. Once I asked him about a lake called Bande and he was so informed and knowledgeable he told me about the Ground water table and also we spoke about plants.
I observed while walking he had a peculiar habit. If he found a stone on the road he used to kick it aside, I asked him why when people just let the stone be on road why was he clearing it. I can remember he told me someone coming behind us may trip on it, isn’t it good that we make the road safe for others too. This created a deep impression in me about his altruistic nature. Here was a soul who genuinely cared about others in his community, I think he was a volunteer a person also to operate on the street lights in his area and neighborhood during his walks.
We also had a discussion about meditation and siddhis. I think in my closest circle he was a man of honor and respect. I miss his presence. He has given us a lot, me very much the memories, the wisdom, the guidance and his blessings. I tried to emulate him by reading his books, trying to read on Gandhi( Grandpa used to specially celebrate Gandhi Jayanthi at Home) and Swami Sivananda also trying to learn music to play Violin like him.. Its tough to follow him.
He inspires me to be like him a volunteer, a reader, a leader, an empath and a good character(Time Sense, Planning, Care(Scorpion Bite Help, Letter Writing for other illiterates, Tour and travel management, relationship building across Space-Time etc), for his family and communities.
Dear Grandpa,
You have been a wonderful grandpa, who loved us, I am very grateful to all that you taught us and shared with us.
I value all those wonderful times and journeys we shared together. You were a dear friend, Thank You, Thank you.
Your Grandson,
Guru
A Poem for Sada-Thatha.
Your slim frame and the house name I remember still today,
Your reclining hammock chair was my favorite place to play,
The environment you created for us around you Thatha,
The safer roads, the well lit streets for us & others’ ratha,
We may have spent very little time with you but you made it count,
The books & lives you touched may be huge in your karmic account.
I am grateful that you lived a life of example for us,
The Gandhian you were, I had never heard you cuss,
The legacy you left behind with us as our grandfather we cherish,
Your footsteps in time beside ours are ones we shall ever nourish.
I wish we had spent more time with each other,
You had raised us even me, dint my naughtiness bother?
I salute your character and soul that was there for us all,
We remember you when we see some like you fit and tall,
Wishing to treasure your memories that you had written,
With your toothless smile and bold forehead I’m smitten,
I love you grandpa this I never knew until we lost you physically.
Thankful that you survive in us emotionally and spiritually
Friends & Family are real co-passengers in the train on journey of life. Today is Simon my childhood best Friend’s Birthday and I felt like writing this Post for Him, my friends & our friendships.
Sharing here snapshots from this journey of friendship with a dear friend Simon. We are childhood friends since 1991 its 30yrs this year 2021. When I joined Lowry Memorial(SDA) an ICSE school in 4th Standard little did I know the “memorial’ in its name meant so many ‘memories’ for us. Its a good school next to the Iconic K.R Puram Bridge in Bengaluru and we as kids from school knew how small the old bridge was, We as teens saw the construction of the bridge from the bus stop.
I was a thin kid, Simon was my polar opposite a chubby kid. It was like friendship of Laurel and Hardy. And in life too we both got our own shares of laurels and hard times. some relationships are special time tested they shine like diamonds after being under pressure.
Being a new student in class I at start made few friends like Somu and Kulothungan.. as we sat nearby at desk. Simon I dont remember where he used to sit. I remember the 4th std was a moment of coping with new school as there were bullies and strict teachers to be scared about too.
The School was a big campus with lot of trees, gardens, Open grounds, Diary Bakery and agricultural lands too. It was one of a kind school in the area well respected for its education and facilities its school with Saturday Sabbath Holidays too. We had something called recess time, a Bio break, funny to imagine as the bell rang.. all guys rushed out to the outdoor toilet and since it was full and not maintained well guys used to piss in the fields too, and have competitions on who can piss the furthest or highest(Hahaha Boys will be boys) Our champ was D.S. (Talk about Fertilizing Urea to fields with Urine),(Only gross thing in post dont be scared to read on:)).
As I started to get accompanied with the routes to school via main road a high way, I dont remember how exactly it came that I got acquainted with Simon as one of the sub group of friends. Coincidentally his home too was on the way back to my home via the “bande‘” a huge quarry hole it had become a big pond, a risky road. My dad used to drop me to school and So we started to walk back home together. I used to accompany him to his home and then walk towsrds my home through narrow lanes of Andhra Colony of Tin Factory area.
I remember in middle school we started to have lunch together Simon, me and other friends(Mohmmed Miraj, Sunil & Sanjay Mishra) we used to have a designated place near the bell tree next to the mulberry plants and High school complex. Later we shifted to near the Chapel Corner outside Simon’s friends house. We had excellent Computer lab and science lab facilities. Also PU, TCH and Hostels with NE children from Meghalaya, Mizoram etc. It was really a multi-regional school.
I got introduced to his wonderful grandma we called her Ammachi(90+ yrs God bless her- she’s a retired Teacher from TN) and his parents and sister. They all are really good friendly people. I am grateful to the love and wonderful moments shared at their home & Movies(King Kong & Anniyan @ Pushpanjali). The times sitting on Mats on the warm roof together on their terrace looking at the moon & stars. Was a feeling of belonging and friendship I cherish, also the intricate glass items at his place. His grandma used to teach us like in a tuition(my first Tuition Teacher) where Simon and me used to do our homework together. While she used to listen to a Tamil Radio on a silvery Radio, they used to have a money plant at the window-door too..
We used to play together also watch TV & movies together too (Bro I Got to return you CDs that I Borrowed 10 yrs back), he used to come home too to play games and spend time together as friends, as our house was lonely with no neighbhours on either side and 2 instance of burglary in it so we had a dog, an untrained mongrel usually we used to tie it on the stairs. It used to be acquainted with our regular house guests but when its mood is bad, it used to get aggresive suddenly even with me(got bitten twice) and my dad. We had a difficult time to control it(I wish some Dog whisperer was there for us) it used to climb on people friendly and scare them. Once when Simon came home, I Instead of taking the dog away by mistake told Simon to come thinking its acquainted with him, he also trusted and walked near door, it jumped on him I remember him getting scared and he walked away. I think it was a hurtful thing for our friendship. Once Simon also was bullied by a Senior in school for having stood up and complained about a cheater(Copying chits) in exam, a friends elder brother was threatening him. I was a mock spectator of this threatening I dint know what to do as a friend. I wish I had known about the bystander intervention and supported my friend. I too was punched in my eye, previously held up by the scrotum by bullies in my school so was scared myself and wasn’t aware. (BAD EFFECTS OF watching WWF on TV replication). At that One time I regret I could have been a better and stronger friend and stood up for him against the bullying.
In school together we had seen through A friend loosing his dad at an young age, another losing his young brother to kidnap & killing found on KR puram lake, love struck friends, accidental death by swing, kid drowning in bucket, 2 friends loosing their sibling to suicide, Nalle Ba urban legend, Cycling and playing cricket at ITI, Final 10th exams at Mahadevapura Govt school, etc we had done many crazy & unique things as kids.
May be it triggered another fight, I dont remember how it started during the lunch time, my version is my lunch box got accidentally dropped some carelessness and I was blaming him for it was so petty thing I could have let it go, but we were angry at eachother. And we broke our friendship for over a year when we dint talk with each other.
The peacemaker for us was ammachi(his grandma), may be when I was in 7th or 8th. She told me to let go and be friends again. I said ok but I dint know how to rebuild the friendship. We were in 2 different sections of class now in high school 8-9th . I cudnt meet him in school and I dint go to his home too.. And then it happened a magical moment as I was walking back home I remember near New Light hotel at corner of K.R Station Simon was walking ahead and I approached him from the right put my left arm on his shoulder and said “Hi Simon“. He turned and just smiled and we chatted & walked back together and rebuilt our broken friendship, one step at a time home wards.
We have been keeping track of each others journeys and also may have played some part in it too, though I studied in a different school SDA in Tenth I was one of top 5 in class @ Spencer rd branch, We were lucky enough to study in the same Pre-university college CATS though he & HRehman were from a different class(PCMB) I made many friends thanks to J & R (Shanawaz, Diwakar etc) and me in PCMC (Sam, Vinodh, Sandeep, Prasad, Ashwin etc)
We travelled in Bus together boarding at Railway Station getting down at B Station and boarding at MayoHall.
And friends used to come home as it was on the way, they were prompt on time.. as I developed some kind of IBS at those stressful teenage years, I used to get delayed in the mornings and my friends used to wait for me, it was awkward (Sorry brothers if I made u wait it’s due to irregular nature’s call, Now I think I would have advised my younger self to eat earlier and wake up early to be on time). I got bullied in college for topping good Marks in GAT(Galaxy Aptitude Test)(forced to go sit in back bench by a nexus of dominant group of boys) & English test by some Competitive nerds (Peer Jealousy) too..and once crossing the road from school I told Simon i dont want to top in class and this was my self fulfilling prophecy my motivation to excel had dropped and I struggled in my final exams. (Tip to friends: dont talk critical matters on road, it’s a deep discussion talk in private where we get good acoustics and comfortable environment, There is less scope for misunderstandings and more chances of right resolution)
I had visited most of Simon’s Education(Mission college & GCC) & workplaces like ITC-infotech(later in time)(BBM) where he worked hard to fund for his MBA, Aditya Birla(Near Spencer rd Internship), Bhoruka Gas(Mahadevapura), MaFoi(Anjaneya Complex), Wipro(Ecity)(Coincidentally we arranged for a lunch meetup(2011) together near his office we ordered food and I received a shocking call that shattered me, he was there at such crucial moments beside me by Gods grace) and recent company I met him by luck on the road near his office on Ring road(Serendipity).
I used to remember his landline phone number, I have heard his gym and back slip story it pained me too scary, I remember it when I go to gym lucky he cured it naturally just like his eyesight(He was nicknamed Dumma(Fatty), Dadiya and Soda butti(Wearing Thick Glass) I disliked why people called him so (Luckily by his will power and long walks he maintained his slimness later). His liking for Indian Trains( The Push & Pull train we used to watch from School also was visible then was ITPL which was called Singapore Complex, coincidentally our school was near rail coach factory & a Rail Station.
We(Rehman & me) used to go on long walks initiated by him to Nekkundi lake, Byappanahalli & ITI colony on weekends, it was really fun thing to do. Theres so many memories associated at SDA school If I share it may take 100 pages, I shall focus here for Simon’s Stories.
Simon is a special friend, a best friend who has stood by me in times of victory & loss..Life has been a roller coaster ride, and it’s really a reassuring to have people who understand us and care about us and sometimes much more than one does about themselves. This I learnt later in school when I read the play The Merchant of Venice by Shakespeare about loyal Friendship of Antonio & Bassanio (it increased my trust in friendships), while my brother & his friends in ICSE(2002) learnt about Julius Ceasar about betrayal (think negative topics should be avoided in impressionable minds without filters).
Friend in need is a Friend indeed,
I would like to acknowledge all my dear friends who like Simon have shared special friendships with list is big and in it especially Chronologically (Arun/Arvind-GuruMoorthy, Sandeep (Vasanthnagar), Kishan-Manjesh(Bsvngr), Sunil, Rehman, Joson , Sudesh & the Udaynagar Friends, Prafulla-Manju, Sam-Vinodh, Srikanth-Yohan, Venky-Lakshmi & archi gang, Santhosh, Gagan, Suraj & M.Des gang, Abhishek & IIScians, Ramachandra, Mathan, RR, MD, TK, P.I.. there are many more who I’m really grateful for their kindness and warmth during our shared time in journeys.. though many may not be in correspondence as much as before still the bonding and feeling remains as shared earlier.
Dear Simon,
Thank You for being such a good friend.. Happy Birthday Brother..
And I am lucky to have you as a dear caring friend. I am really grateful and thankful to you and your friendship bro, your family and our common friends too.. Thank you,
Yours from a loooong time.. and more longer future as friends.
Your Dear Friend,
Guru Prasad G.R.
Poem on Friendship.
We board a train thinking about the destination,
Similarly in life we hop into an instituition,
We may find others too in the compartment,
Diverse group of people strangers in this predicament,
Among them we may find neutrals, bullies, allies and mentors,
The more good allies we find the happier is the journey,
These friends have our life’s treasure chest’s golden key.
A friend In need is a friend indeed,
A friend who reads you right is also a friend we all need.
People are special who with their unconditional care give us hope,
Come what may on this journey they are ones who give us power to cope.
We can learn a lot from our fellows, search not far you will find some near,
If you are not finding some in your life, you can be the one for others dear.
-GRP
People may become acquaintances by chance, people who stay with the journey by choice are the friends.
Our School Batch in WA group. About 50 of us there. Gratitude to all here Thanks to Santosh and Suresh.
Today is our Family Foundation Day, the blessed day when our home company was formed 37 years back. On this happy occasion I wish them my MaPa a happy 37th Wedding Anniversary.
My parents are the founders of this home organization the Gaja-Gowri Group. I am the first recruit for our G-company.
I shall as a junior partner in creating this home let you know of the blessing this space and group has been for me, us & others . Our company is based in Bengaluru as headquarters and home quarters with allies, partners and shareholders all across globe, space and Time.
We thanks the VC(Venture Capitalist-Incubators)-Families they are our root funding- nurturing families The Raman-Ponnachi Clan & Subba-Sadda Clan who are listed on the BSE(Bangalore & Hyderabad Sitizen Exchange)
The Initial Incubation happened from Venture Capitalists my 4 Grandparents. The Buisness pitch was done at Hyderabad and all formality, MOUs & Joint Agreements were done in the Social Contract at our Maternal Side home as well as due diligence(BG Trustworthiness Check) was done on both sides formally. Though legal formalities were not considered mostly the Social and Spiritual(Customs) formalities were processed adequately thanks to the close helping relatives and extended Family-friends.
The G-family had an addition who was also named G– by his wise G-grandpa(M). The org-family has additions of degrees and achievements in its journey of almost 40 years also as is life had its share of setbacks and challenges.
Today the group celebrates their togetherness, the bonhomie and warmth they share with each other. They by the grace of god have overcome hurts, riot situation, deceptions, betrayals, accidents, trauma, health issues, financial issues, inter-family issues & global issues(pandemic) together supporting each other with love and care by Gods, others & self help too. At the same time they have been sharing their blessings of hope, friendship, loyalty, excellence, familial piety, growth, prosperity and positivity for God, self & others.
They have been to tip of India to the top of India, They are healthcare professional who like to serve good health to themselves and people all around them who care to consult and take their help they dont say No, always willing to help in anyway possible by them.
The G-Family on formation day today would like to thank its founders, its VCs and all its stakeholders(Family) and shareholders(Friends) from the bottom of its heart and hearth. Thanks for the warm heartedness shown to us in this journey we understand it’s been a roller coaster ride for us all and many have been part of this with us closely on the coaster and some have seen it from closeby waving at us, encouraging us and feeling for us with empathy and understanding, We honor and respect the care and mutual feelings.
It’s your presence and wishes that gives us lot of hope and strength to take it up. And look right back into the eyes of life(kaya) and the world(maya) to say without fear(abhaya) & with love(prema) ‘bring it on baby’, we are here to stay, we are here to pray, we are here to lead a good life, we are here for all souls in need.
Our Collective Dream is for All Families to be happy, sharing and prospering in this G-1, to be as service to this magic called Precious-Life.
Read Poem in Hindi Texted in English below.
Humara Ghar, Humara Pyar.
G-‘hO’ G-‘hO’ dil-barke G-‘hO’,
Jee ho, Jee ho hazaaro Saal aise kulke G-‘O’..
Translation
Live, Live Fully Live,
Let Life be, Let Life Be for 1000 years like this you live…
GRP(GetReasonablyPoetrick)
Ps: Synchronicity in our city This blogpost is 47 and our G-Cars number is 47 with Anniversary date too.. God Bless
Why do few people They many times lose G.R.P (GroupRelations/Gross things, Residential or Family things, Personal and private things). The greatest thing one may lose is hope/love for the future and maybe delusioned by Hoplessness/Fear for the present & future leading to loss in the will to live life.
2. CREATE AND HELP THEM TO POSITIVE G.R.Ps (Groups of close community, Residences with responsible relationships, & Private-Personal care as prescribed by Expert and experienced counselors & Medical Professionals in reputed institutions)
Local and Global resources for “Prevention & Recovery of “SuiciDepresTension” accessible here: #PRIYAMitraic Education for Life-Safety.
A Vision, Mission & Transfusion to Prevent Suicides Globally by acting Locally.
Mission & Group Places for healing Accessible here. The 3 Critical Issues: F1. Nature(Genes) (Invironmetal-Bio-EpiGenetic factors) and F2. Nurture(Memes) (Environmental-socio-life-memetic) factors of Hi-Stress-Trauma and F3. Conjunctures(Games) Mental-Socio-Financio-Emottional Tensions leads to Depression and prolonged untreated depression without adequate support healing and rehabilition leads to self-Sabotage, maladaptive addictions, mental illness, Suicidal ideations attempts..etc It can be mitigated, prevented and healed with Familial_Awareness, Peer_Support & Socio_infrastructures.
Flow (Life) = Function of (Nature+Nurture+Conjectures)
Pro(active)-Prevention & 🙂 Anti-Depression Initiative for Lifers 2030 to Improve India’s Happiness & Peace Indices & Lower Crime & Inequality Indices.
From Selfish_Individual_Happiness to Selfless_Group_Happiness. One’s happiness is doubled when our focus is to make & keep Others Happy too..#Priyamitraism.
This has S.O.S Pages.. (SOS means Save Our Souls/Save Our Selves)
Priyamitras’ Resources for Life, Sources for reliefs by “PREVENTING DEPRESSION by trained “PROACTIVE PEERs” Support Systems”.
10 Stages & 2 Paths of Societal Vulnerables, Marginals & Targets becoming Vials, Victims or Victors: 1. Differentiation, 2.Discrimination, 3. Disillusion/Dejection, 4.Depression, 5.Delusion-Isolation, 6.Negative-Ideation/Emotion/Sensations, Self-(Defence, Sabotage, Neglect, Numbing by Addictions/Fawn/flight, Harm..etc) 7. S.Ideation & Planning (s or Targeted_Individuals).
8.Path A. True External Support, +ve Discretion, Virtue-cycles, Recovery & ReHealth. Victors by positive systems.
9. Path B. Pseudo Support, Building Walls & Breaking Bridges to Hope & Health, – Ve Discriminative, Vicious Cycling, S.Ideation attempts & AMIS.Death. Victims of Negative Systems.
10. Impact on Friends, relatives & all Survivors.
Progression of Suicide-prevention: Awareness, Support-Systems, Socialization in Safer-Places, Safer-Environment & Succesful-Life.
Few Solutions for Problems related to Suicides & Unhappiness_in India. (proposed for & from few Empathic-IIScians’ & IITians’ Peer groups): This is Project-PriyaMitras. A vision for a “Suicide-less Bharat-India.”
Peers+Resilience/Transcendence Versus Silence+Violence/Materialistic-Consumerism.
Real Life National Problem: High Suicide Rates in Indian Campuses & Socities(Society+Cities). This is a Citizens Response to Happenings at Institute of Eminence and Emergency ( “IISc– Indian Institute of Survival_Care” to change from Indian Institute of Suicide Casualties).
Priyamitras Project-2021: is The Pro-Life & Anti-Suicides Campaign for “HaPeer India” 2030. Make us India more Happier and less Depressing. Every Indian has a role to play in life’s dramas of births, lives, (Resilience, silence or violence) & deaths.
Question is “Which role do you choose to play?” there are only 4 Sections/spectrums of choices in life:
1.Priyamitras (+ve Helpful-Defenders/allys), PeerSpecialists, Gatekeepers, Counselors, empathic-experts.. etc (They are the cognizant, integrating & empowering) Creators-Sustainers of Virtuous-Cycles.
2.Apatme-mitras (Harmed-Innocents/Vulnerables/Targets/Victims) Young Kids, students, employees, marginalised, knowledge workers.. etc (They maybe the neglected & disempowered). Need lot of multi-dimensional support to pull them to Safety.
SubTitle: Unite4Empathy Lets together Promote_Joy to Prevent_S.A.Dness: #Suicide_Preventers_4Mission. A step Towards #HolisticHelp by Socio-Medico-LegalAssistance. Positively Trigger Joy-Contagion to prevent Suicide-Contagion.
This Page has Info that can Save Our People from Depression and Suicide-loss. TAKE A Screening on the Behalf of a DearMitra. Problems are many and solutions are few.
Keywords: HappyMental Health & Wellbeing, emotional resilience & wellness, Peer-Empowerment Group, Depression-Prevention & recovery, Suicide Prevention Awareness. Intra-Group Therapy. Deep-Expression, Collective-joy. Sharing-Caring Relations, Suicide_Proofing Safe-Environments(Anti-Abusive(Narc, Child, Sexual, Gender, Caste, Religion etc). Healing-Relationships, “Grouping Gate-Keepers & Peer-Specialist at MissionSpaces“. Dedicated to Brothers & Sisters (Norain,Warshu, Wainshika Preeya & many more victims & attempters ) lost to Depression/Suicide and to Bro&Sis PRIYAMitras who helped us steer away from Depression & Negatives(Priya,PC,TK etc). Positive Vs Toxic Enculturations. Recent Celeb Suicide:
#TrendJoy2EndPain by Creating More PRIYAMitras (DearAlly’s) of Healthy-Joy in Life/Lives. Initiate the #PRIYAMitras_Effect in your Circles to counter the Suicide_Contagions. #Peer_Support & Prevention System.
How to know/Test if Anyone is Depressed & what’s the level of depression??
BINGO !! Best Grp Resource-Share We found yet(23/11/21): PHQ-9 test(Public Health Questionnaire) click link: https://www.phqscreeners.com/ (Priyamitraic Recommendation to Screen Self and Loved ones Annually or when needed in low phases)
A page written for PRIYAMitras Preventing Depression & Suicides with Peer Group-Sharing : https://metanoia.org/suicide/
Loka Samasta Jeevano bhavantu, Want the whole world to Live. -GRP(March 2021) #GRPQuestion: What can one(mWe) do to prevent Depression & Suicides around us?
Reading this hearticle will help you Save-Lives by addressing the pains and having access to healing-Resources. Dedicated to the Dearones lost to DepresSuicide and their Survivors.
This page is less about who/what is responsible for the Problems of Depression or Suicides, but more about Who/What can be responsible for the solutions towards positive outcomes in our lives. And this Project-Page is one of the forces of Anti-Suicide Awareness, Prevention & Healing. Suicides Rates need to stop and it is up to us ‘Priyamitras’ to help here.
This page intends to be a helpful Peer-response in Covid-Crisis Times the “Immunity booster for Depression” for Indians. For development of “Anti-Depression Vaccine” developing call for “GRP’s Anti-Suicide Vaccine“. Read it for Herd-immunity to strengthen our community & Peer-Mental Health. Our Emotional Resilience needs 1. Helpful-Resources(People &Links), 2. Peer-Support (Caring Connections) & 3. Recovery-Spaces(Places) in such times of unseen-vulnerabilities & unsupported-Risks.
Project-Motto: We(PRIYAMitras) aim to Save lives & livelihoods by preventing Depression & Suicides?”- GRP. Empower the Disempowered(Apatmitras) & the Empowering-Allies (PRIYAmitras).
Dear Reader Who are you of the below 4 categories?
1. If you are in a space/place/city/country or belong to a community or social group with high Depression & suicide rates you need to read this and share with your significantothers. You are a ‘semi-insider’ to the socio-mental Depression & Suicides phenomenon. Eg: Academia, MarginalizedMinorities, Buisness/Entrepreneur, High Risk Jobs and sectors.
2. If you are a Mental Health worker, a psychologist, Psychiatrist, doctor, trained counselor or a lay counselor, peer specialists, Depression-suicide Survivor, or an-Ally, *Suicide-Victim Survivor(Family& Friend)* you definitely need to read this. You are a ‘deep-insider‘ to the Depression Induced suicide phenomenon. Please medically critic this post. So we can improve it.
3. If you have only heard about depression & suicide as a third person far from it, or maybe written or reported it as a mediaperson; you are an ‘outsider-bye stander’ to the suicide phenomenon/Contagion, your awareness & understanding by reading this page may help you to save your own life, your familes & friends, public or readers life.. (A pre-prophesy any person may read this page till here, only an Empath(higher mirror neurons in brain and with relevant life experiences) may attempt to read beyond this point to take & share the values in this post as a PriyaMitra. This In my assessment is currently 0.001% of our communities or society. (Stats based on the reads, reach and sharing of this page and this Anti-Suicide Message.)
4. If you or your dear friend is socio-emotionally-vulnerable, depressed, a Depression Survivor or a Suicide-Attempter, linked to the suicide attempter, or a suicide-planner, experiencing self-sabotage, suicidal thoughts or ideation/history of self harm, Trauma or ACE(Adverse Childhood Experiences), plz click2go to the Anti-Suicide Linkpage immediately: i.e #1. https://metanoia.org/suicide/ or call accessible Helplines or physically reach/visit a GovtPublic Hospital or Mental Health care Center or personal nearby accessible to you. Like a MentalHealth-Ambulance.
5. Have you or friend lost a loved one recently due to covid or any crisis and facing Grief. Then Read this and be with the Dearone as a DearAlly or ‘PRIYAMitra’. Support grieving process.
Critical Words & Concepts in this post: Depression-Recovery, Suicide-RescuePlan, Mental-Emergency First Aid, Peer-Specialist, Self-Rescue Plan. Anti-Suicide Vaccine.
I-GRP am a Depression Survivor(2018-19) & A friend of a Depression-Victim, more importantly I am suicide-victim survivor of3+ people(N,V & P). Thriving on after these Traumatic Life-experiences, Now(2020) I am a peer specialist(PRIYAMitra) and a Thrivour(DearAlly). My crisis ridden journey’s insights and drives I present it here for you to save your bUtts and other Innocent-Naive Souls (Our- Dearones) and also stranger ass-souls from S.A.Dness(Stress-Anxiety-Depression) .
ProjectPage for PRIYAmitras Prevent Regressive Incidents-in Your Areas Mindfully. (P.R.I.Y.A.M) people, groups and Orgs practicing this proactively are the PRIYAMitras by Promoting Resilience In Your Areas Mindfully.
Source: Metanoia.org Aware-PRIYAmitras are Coping Resources.
On International Day of Happiness 20 March 2021, we propose to bring in change to the depression-spreading systems around us to make it more Deeply Expressive and conducive for creating & sharing Joy-happiness for us and our fellow PRIYAMitras(DearAlly-Globally)+ApatMitras. To improve Indian score of happiness index from 144 to top 50 happiest nations by 2030. The problem right now is the lack of 1.empathy and 2.moral Reasoning in Indian citizens, only a low(<0.01%) of Indians are empathetic “PRIYAMitras & Globally DearAllys” with ability to recognize & proactively preventDepression in SelFamily+Others, hence the increased sadness, Anger, Loneliness.. etc (Non-Happiness) in our communities & society.
This Project-Idea is dedicated to DearAllys the late Dr.Priya & lively Dr.Mitra they are the inspirations for this Indian Project-PRIYAMitra.(Priya in sanskrit is Dear, and Mitra is an Ally/friend) that’s the Idea behind the Global Project-DearAllys too.
When we have more empathic PRIYAMitras/DearlAllys of high quality and more quantity reaching CriticalMass(20%) of community/society then we can see a perceivable social change-transformation. It’s possible to create a Happy Priyamitraic-India & More Happy DearAllys-world in our lifetime maybe within a short time too(Viral Positivity).
Are you, your HR person or your company a ‘PRIYAMitra’ and connected with the PRIYAMitra Principles & Philosophy? If not-yet touched by this IDEA-of-Priyamitra inviting you to read, Share and Spread about PRIYAMitras Depression/Suicide Prevention Proactiveness Initiatives within your communities to reduce our Suicide Losses for Depression-Proofing our Societies.
This is A Depression Prevention Awareness Initiative for Academia & Society (4m IIScians & PRIYAMitras).
Why are We Doing this?: We are primarily Family, Relatives, Friends & Acquaintances of Suicide Victims& Survivors PeerSupported by PeerSpecialists & SubjectMatterExperts. We PRIYAMitras empathize with personal crises-traumas, loss experiences, different griefs & understand the pain to be healed and the preventive steps that needs to be shared to process the associated Stress-Responses.
You & other PMTs may introduce and initiate Project PRIYAMitra in your groups (Family, Clan, Office, Alumni spaces etc) & communities you are part of like Residential Complex, Wards, Companies etc..
Lets Progress-together ReachingOut In Your Areas/Academia Mindfully.
Let me ASK you first-upfront have you or your dearone had/having Sudical thoughts or speeches recently.. Please get trained here on Prevention and later return & read this page:
There are severe Social & Mental Health Issues to be addressed as an urgent need in our Communities & Society. This post is dedicated to “The life of P.I.” Suicide is not Hirs problem, it’s not their(family/office-group) problem only.. Suicide is a Community Problem and can be solved being involved by the community only.
On top is the vulnerability of Knowledge workers(Researchers, Academics, Entreprenuers.. etc) to Complex-Risks of Regressive(negative) Incidents like from Depression, Self-harm, Isolation, Suicides and Self sabotage.
PriyaMitras Motto: Depression is Curable, Suicide is Preventable. HEALING IS POSSIBLE.
Our PRIYAMitra Approach: We are PRIYAMitras, Being Proactive for Depression & Suicide Prevention in our Community. (LIKE ERT(Emergency Response Team) Members in a corporate for Fire Emergency Response. The more Aware and helping individuals volunteer as a PRIYAMitra the more Support System we create for the Depressed & Suicidal members in our society. SHARING Hope, Helping to Cope .
Just like a injured Immobile person at an accident spot cant reach the hospital or even call the emergency number, other members around him call for the ambulance and ambulance reaches them for Physical Care, Similarly a depressed and Suicidal person needs proactive members to reach out to them for Emotional & Social care and medical counselling. This is where an Depression-Aware PRIYAMitra is the bridge of safety.
As Students of Art or Science and life, achieve many things being Bachelors of X and Masters of Y.. but what we need the most is a degree like “M.Life” or ‘Masters of Life’.
People in Academics and research are always on lookout for new knowledge/ideas and various areas of Interests.
And we being like our stereotypical absent-minded professors forget to study what’s happening with our near and dearones also our own selves. Many are gullible and few are guilty to these errors in judgement. We are running more after monetary or momentary pursuits so single-mindedly that “i think maybe..” we are neglecting our personal, social and spiritual needs.
A strong and scientific or political mind can work alone but it also needs strong and empathic hearts around to keep it going. We are seeking research gaps and miss out the gaps in our selfs and our fellow friends and communities. We need to pay little more attention to these tensions too.
We see people with high IQ(Mental Ability) get to high degrees, places and jobs, and ppl with higher PQ(Physical Quotient) may perform well in sports and games, but it’s time we realise together, we(as a community) also need a necessary level of EQ(Emotional Intelligence) & SQ(Social/Spiritual Intelligence) to complement in our lives.
As the saying goes if you want to go fast travel alone, if you want to go far travel together. It’s also to be added if you want to travel safe go heartily with caring others.
There are many Campaigns for *Suicide Prevention Awareness* like the ; Semicolon project.. etc
Project PRIYAM (Envisions to Prevent Regressive Incidents In Your Areas Mindfully @(Office, Homes, Schools,& Public spaces).
And this project PRIYAM (PreventRegressiveIncidentsinYourAcademia/Areas Mindfully) is a rememberance to Priyams (Beloved Friend) who stood and worked for preventing regressions indeed. She was more than a friend, she was a mentor & a guide to many lives she touched. ‘PRIYA’ in Indian languages means pleasing or beloved. We can sense from the meaning that human beings like to be-loved and be a beloved. All of us may need to connect with dearones to fill our ten love tanks and keep the levels in check for our self & others too.
PRIYA; A good hearted helpful post doctoral fellow, who is remembered by many for her intellectual contributions and healing personality.
Please have multiple open-hearted empathetic discussion/support spaces in your academia, where people can have a community support a sense of belonging a circle of close friendships and healthy relationships. To make people know that each soul is precious and irreplaceable. We have empowered communities with access to unrestricted discussions group called GD3 and Wewadh(I have experienced this in supportive spaces like toastmasters). Also mens and womens only spaces called as MHT(MensHeartsTalks) & WHT(WomensHeartsTalk). People can reachout either ways to heal the synapse and gaps in these EoE-grps (Environments of Excellence).
This isnt first time some dearones has left us suddenly in this unfortunate way, but with this Project PRIYAM, it can be the last time it goes un-addressed by the community members. All it takes is an empathic heart to care for Self & Others Selves too. Also the right healthy education we are trying to achieve through an allied Project Hithashala.
This Challenge is multi-factorial & systemic in nature, there may not be only one reason for depressuicide but many piled up adverse causes(ACE +CSA+SocialTrauma+EcoDistress) for the state of depression leading up to SADness Self-harm, Anxiety, Depression & attempts at suicide.
So the Priyamitraic solutions need to be multi layered and multi pronged.. Need to have Expertises-Empaths-Environments involved in a positive eco-system as detailed in Abuse to Awakening blog post. Know it, Own it, Prevent it, Heal it.
1. Suicide Prevention like Cancer cure is possible when detected and treated at any stage, with Awareness in the individual and his environment.
2. Implement Project PRIYAM by creating empathic Peer-supporting systems, where people can openly create closer circles or triad/duos of communication in all our communities.(Refer Project Quest(Blue lotus group) & Semicolon). Make Sure atleast there is one & more PriyaMitras in a community like ERT(Emergency Response Team) Member in each building floor.
3. The root causes has multiple spread roots that’s why its complex & complicated, and it starts we believe with healthy schools/colleges and childhoods. We are working on creating resiliency through Project Hithashala HealthySchooling.
4. Connectedness -Collaborations and suggestions for improvement and problem solving are welcome in comments here or directly to the author PriyaMitra Prasad.. Constructive-feedbacks are welcome.
5. Create PRIYAM(x) like PRIYAM(IIT) groups where people can collaborate towards Resilience Building groups and suicide Prevention in their communities, where people can in two-ways reachout or connect with peers, experts, peer-specialists and other coping resources. Access PRIYAMitras(4HappyIndia). Our stats out of 1000 invited 10 join(currently project group has 120 Sharing-Priyamitras. So plz share this with the most empathic-persons you may know, if you dont know or can’t spot any such PRIYAMitra in your social-circles.. it maybe a sign that you can/need to be one. WELCOME PRIYAMitra.. the India’s Depressed-Minds & Hopeless-Hearts need help and SocioMoral-support are counting on ‘yous’ (you+us) for their and our empathetic future towards HappyIndia or JeevithBharath.
The first time we met at a meeting I dint know in such a short person was a giant at heart,
You were so humble to be seated on the floor and I dint know you got a PhD from Stanford,
You had shown me around labs and spoke about the fish tanks so knowledgeably,
You carried yourself with such flair and presence, students or profs your heart dint see any difference,
You have a sharp intellect, we looked up to you for your wise words of support,
I have so many questions I wanted to ask, surely they may have been answered as you always do,
You knew things really well, clear in communication, I wonder what happened, where did the thoughts slip?
I do see as physical workers have injuries which can be seen and healed,
Similarly we knowledge workers may have intellectual or emotional injuries unseen, needing care and healing.
I shall always remember your kindness and grace, your gummy smile and peculiar laughter,
My phone wants to receive your call and the familiar voice which repeats with “I think maybe….”
We spoke of our common interests the terrace gardens, I knew you were from CES, I read it as Centre for Ethical Students,
I wonder who will the flowers on your garden bloom for now, I wonder who is going to water them..
Were did we fail as fellow students, as friends, as citizens of the same republic(26/1/21),
It’s a loss for us all, we are heart broken to have heard this news,
You always stood for Intellectual discussions & inclusion, just like in a school of fish, you jelled well in any group.
I think you would have agreed fishes of same scales swim together also with other scaled fishes when sharks attack.
This is going to be a turning point for us all this republic day 2021,
The battle is not new, but the resolution is strengthened that it has to be won.
You have created good memories which we will ever cherish, I know the principles and ideas you stood for will never perish.
Because you lived as a giver among your friends and family,
Your essence will live on among us all like the flowers you watered.
I thank you whole heartedly for being the being you were; one we revered.
Like quicksand is to the body, I understand that Depression is to the mind-body.
In your name we are going to challenge this blame-game,
Changing this EnvIRONment with emPATHic_empowerment.
Yours gratefully,
(One of the Flowers you may have watered with your wisdom):I-GRP.
We are Survivors & Thrivivors for Innocent Victims of (Suicide(2), Elopement(2), Narc-Abuse(3), PAS(1), BullyMobbing(3)
Please do collaborate with Project_Priyamitras, let’s take Preemptive,Preventive and protective actions together, leave your personal comments this may be cathartic & also may help other G-ders gain from your perspectives and experience. SHARING IS CARING.
A quote from Bhagavad geeta about Satyam-Priyam-Hitam. PriyaMitras aim to be the Gold Standard for SatyaMitra(SAINTs-Grp), PriyaMitras(PRIYAM-Grp) & HithaMitras(Maargadarsi-Rihab Grp)
We have modeled life as a trivium of 3 elements…Genes that form life, Memes that grooms & norms life & Games that Charms or Harms life.. A human Form of life depends on Akruthi=
I AN INDIAN CITIZEN, Am grateful and indebted to the citizenship granted to me by birth in India by it’s/our people and it’s/our great constitution.
I want to choose to be not only an Indian by chance but also an Indian by practice. WHAT IS IT BEING AN INDIAN?
I have been produced in and am sustaining by being of this holy homeland. I have been granted my parents, our family, relatives and friends from this great nation like Vishnusaharanama which is 1000 names of the lord.. Our nation too is loved to have many dear names Bharatvarsh/Hindustan/JambuDveepa etc there may be more in old tribal languages. But I would call it the most holy land, our Dharma & KarmaBhoomi.
I resolve on this day 26th January 2021 our nations republic day with these 5 vows. My “Indian Citizens Panchasheela” the 5 vows.
1. I shall abide by my/our nation’s constitution (Read, Know, Share & Practice it).
2. A True Indian Citizen/Patriot Lives by the Constitution of India not just by having an Indian Passport.
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