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After seeing Beautiful butterflies in the garden near home, I returned home to enjoy Nutriful sweet honey-milk and wrote this post on bed Priked-bitten by mosquitoes in my room later turned Painful due to Dengue. All these thanks to 3-insects with different impacts. Why is it so? InSECTology_Answers.
Like Wolf in Sheeps Clothing, there are Blood sucking Mosquito with wings of Butterflies. Looking like Remedies for pain these are SugarCoated Bitter-Poison Pills(Metaphor for Narcs) that lead to tragedies (traps, injuries, disabilities or death). Narc-immunizing Red-pills that need to be understood by the placebo_bluepills. Matrix Analogy.
Guess which Insect is this? Mosquito or Butterfly?.
Its a Mohammed Ali Beeuttery- fly, that floats like a butterfly(Beauty) & stings like a mosquito(Beast) Beautiful-Beast.. Guess the insect? MosCuteor-fly.. Generic Modified cross between mosquitoes(narcs) and butterflies(empaths). like in analogy Ravana or Kamsa or gatotgacha.. hybrids (Intellectual_Materialistic Criminal) between an empath Tonic_father and Narc Toxic_Mother(or vice versa but effect is less due to mothers matrilineal advantages).
This is what narcs are appear like a friendly butterfly(in public) but sting like a densive-bee(as a frenemy) or worse prick like a deadly mosquito(as an enemy).
In Boxing-Rings/Courts those who float like a Butterfly and sting like a bee are honored, but at Wedding-Rings/Courtships for Those who Float like a butterfly and sting like a bee, The Minds cant fix(fit with), what the guys cant see(black-boxes)._GRP.
There is a fair-unfair spectrum between extremes at Beneficial to Bloodificial Insects & Entities in our eco-systems. Where in-Sect are you positioned matters where you will move.
We may Divide the Spectrum into 3 sectors as 1.Self-Beneficial 2.Social-Beneficial & 3.Social-Bloodificial. we can place any insect in these 3-categories. For ease of remembering we can take example of one commonly known insect for each sector. What would the representative of the 3 sectors be?. This question leads to below content.
1. The Beautiful Butterflies(Self-Beneficial): They live in the moment, live life colorfully on their own. Feeding off the nectar shared by the flowers in life. They are active in the light, are solitary feeders but may flock together at certain places. They are symbiotic with plants and self-sustainedBiotic with their own kind, no social structures independent. Others insects in the category could be colorful dragonflies, fireflies(nocturnal), etc.. can you list down in comments below if you find others or know more?
Nectar sucking Individualistic Beautiful Butterflies. Its My life, Me, & Mine matters only for me.
In human nature these are are the people and sheeple who seek for their-self fame, status & social power. To show their lives colorfully & richly with visual pride of peacocks & voices of cuckoo’s. They value only themselves highly and nothing else in reality is of any concern to them, they may do for some PR or brand management exercise. They create a highly individualistic environment. Me & mine only matters, I need nothing else. These can be termed as the Swayam-mitras or only self-carers. They may be in mode of ignorance(tamas) and spread mostly beauty.(Kama-Khamma).
The inner-scores of their heartset may range in the average sector of the Empathy Spectrum or EQ-Test. They(80% Bystanders) may enjoy their own Ignorant-world of the Narc-Empath conflicts. Ignoring Other’s cries & crisis until they or their Dearones get caught in the web of spider or preying mantis some may not realize just like the Butterfly their ignorance is their bliss.
2. The Dutiful Bees (Social-Beneficial): They are the best social insects where they take nectar & pollen from flowers and convert into complex honey to be saved for generations to come. They work in the day (dawn to dusk) in teams and organizational structure. They are most Symbiotic in nature. They work in the daylight but are exposed to darkness interiors too. Other insects in this category could be Ants, Termites, etc..
Nectar Transformer to Honey Bees.. Its Our Lives(Cultures), We create Our Hives(Structures).
In human nature can see this category in people who seek for self, peers & others value in social work and welfare. They value the communities they are part of highly & They create a collaborative and safe environment(Sheepdogs). We(Self+Others) & ours matters. These can be termed as Priya-mitras: Thosewho care to empower self & others(ApatmeMitras) too. They may be in mode of goodness (Satva & urdha Satva) they spread more Duty & Devotion (Dharma-Dhamma & Moksha). They(Pro-active-Empaths) form the BEE-Hives (Mutally Beneficial & More Empathic-World).
The inner-scores of their heartset may range in the 10% above average sector of the Empathy Spectrum or EQ-Test. They are very aware Narc-Empath conflicts. They attend to Self & Other’s cries & crisis they help in creating the Beehive or anthill by nurturing the vulnerable inner world and protecting from predators their knowledge-spreading is their Power & Bliss. Ignorance is not bliss but curse that’s why they hold the light unto themselves for others too.
3. The Crueltiful Mosquitoes (Social-Bloodificial): They have the ability to feed survive on the nectar of flowers and plant sap, but still they suck blood of other animals too, they are parasitic & also vector for diseases(Zika virus, dengue etc). They hate coming into light they love to be in the dark themselves and their host-victims to be in the dark as well. Others in this categories include Bedbugs, leeches, spiders, Preying Mantis. etc
Blood sucker, Disease Spreaders Mosquitos most dangerous In-Sect. Viral vector.
In human nature these are the narcisstic peeple who live of taking advantage of others(Sheeple+Sheepdogs) ignorance and power dynamics. They value only money, power & fame for self and devalue fairness or relationships. They create a highly competitive and unsafe environment for others(Wolves). Me & My narc supply only matters even at cost of others. These can be termed as Apat-mitras, Swartha-mitras Apat-Shatrus: Those who care to empower only their selves & disempower others(ApatmeMitras). They may be dominantly in mode of passion (Rajas) and like to see and spread Cruelty(SW-Artha, Artham)..
The inner-scores of their heartset & mindset may range in the 10% below-average sector of the Empathy Spectrum or EQ-Test. They may enjoy their own Arrogant-world of the Narc-Empire built on conflicts, Domination and victimization. Being the reason for Other’s cries & crisis. They(Oppressors) are at the roots of creating an unfair narcissistic-world. Others Ignorance is their Bliss.
These above insects in nature dont have a choice or abilities to go out of their animal-behaviour, but human beings endowed with more neural-abilities can read, study these entities in nature and human-nature. Take inspiration, precautions and lead a life based on the lessons and insights they can teach us.
Our Personal & Societies-Happiness may depend on.. Who are we Close associates related with more of Butterflies (Mineral Rich States with Energy-rich Indians, Gives as much as it takes (Systemic Net Zero), the Bees (hardworking states in India higher GDP in state pays taxes and contributes multi-ways, Gives more, Takes less Abundance-Mindset (Net Positive) or the mosquitoes (Criminal-rich parasitic States of India, Gives Less & Takes more Scarecity mindset (Net Negative). W.r.t Impacts on Humans and humanity.
Nature-Mitra Prasad.
GRP(10/7/21)
Acknowledge conversation with Architect-Venkatesh for the content & context.
Unaware Misinformed Humans Assume that All of Nature is good and naturally just. Reality is it’s not so Innocent, there is Criminality (Actus Rea) in nature & Natural-Laws too.
Here are the proofs for this less known Arguements.
Our India/Bharats roots of most problems can be seen in two places.. one in the silencing of the aware-innocents and secondly the non-questioning silence of the unaware-ignorants: Answer Key here.
Do you think all Birds are loving and innocent?.. think again, there is criminality in Nature too..
Yesterday I spotted a black bird in the trees near home, Crows are normal to be spotted around here in Bengaluru, but strangely its eyes were red, and its beak & tail was different from the common Indian crow. And what made it identifiable was its typical call of the cuckoo(Asian Koel).
Here is the photo that was clicked, the light being from behind, the bird was hard to spot too..
Cuckoo(Asian Koel) on a Champak tree.
Here is the video of its calls..
Calls of a cuckoo (Asian Koel)
What’s the 2 secrets of cuckoos? Very unique in the Animal Kindom that no other birds do? You may if curious to know can write your answer in comments and return to read the answer here.
Ans: Many will be surprised like me, it was 2 years ago in 2019 when I saw few videos- documentaries..
Secret-#1. The cuckoo lays its egg in the nest of other birds.
Brood Parasitism: The cuckoo doesn’t build it’s own nest nor takes care of its hatchlings. Other birds are manipulated to become foster parents. Its linked to Indian culture as favored by Kamadeva. Refer: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckoo
Cuckoo Secret #2 is not usually known is that the Cuckoo as soon as it hatches in its Hosts-Nest, Pushes out & Kills other eggs of the host bird. Its unbelievable but true.. see this video. And the real color and difference in size of the bird is seen but unrecognizable by foster birds very late after all damage is done.
Cuckoo Secret #3: The aggressive and ungrateful cuckoo chick not only abuses/kills its siblings, but the bigger cuckoo chick also it bullies/ pressurizes and attacks the poor smaller foster bird parents to feed it more and more greedily.
Now Coming to human connections of modern days are these relate like:
1. Few Babies/kids born out of illegal-Love affairs before marriage or extra-marital affairs are abandoned by their Cuckold-mothers/parents to foster homes or in hospitals. Or live under the care of a non-biological parent mostly an unaware father.
2. The cuckoo-offsprings disturb and manipulate the host houses and show their real color & characters later in teen life when the true personality of the Biological parents emerges after puberty with Personality Disorders & immoral behaviours which may create havoc for the adopting/accommodative family.
3. Another human version is the Cuckoo-families send thier members for impregnation (Semen Stealth) to another home. After a kid or kids are formed break the marriage or relationship contracts and keeps the child alienated from their parent and family(mostly Paternal side) to take advantage of the innocence of the BrainWashed children and acquire it in their selfish Cuckoo-Cunning brood/clan(like LoveChild-Jihad). This is Brood head hunting. Which employs double standards of behaviour with two sides of their family most take advantage of the concept of “matrlineal-advantage.”
Lessons from the cuckoo-ing for Human being and their Families’ well-being.
1. Identify cuckoos, individuals, couples and their Offsprings early in our interactions to prevent-abuse of yourself & our dear ones’ families to becoming a Host-Victim of the parasites(Narcs) & their enablers(Flying-Monkey).
2. Take special care and keep filters and high selection standards with multi-background checks during adoption or marriage selection to prevent getting involved with cuckoos(Narcs), their family, extended family & friends-Sockiety.
Cuckoos are Criminals in nature, cuckoo-like people are un-seen & un-known criminals hiding in the dark shades of our societies. This post may provide the light which can help spot them like we spotted in Tree(picture), They can be spotted in the family-tree too, if family members not careful to avoid such relationships.
Because opposite attract strongly, Robbers Strike the wealthy. Similarly the Negative-Narcs Target to victimize the Egalitarian-Empaths.
MWe personally have identified & know 4 cuckoo-Personalities & 3 Cuckoo Familes. There are many more in our friends & relatives circles (Save Indian Families), For our safety one needs to identify them. They are ones, gangs & groups who will take & keep-away (Money, Property, People, power, Opportunites, time energy, progeny.. etc) from the Innocent-families leaving them helpless and give-back or do nothing in return, even if they can they wont. Keep away from such Cuckoos. Theres calls may be sweet to the ears in begining, but their actions are poison not to be neared or reared. Beware DearOnes will realize only later in life their impact!!
In a single line the Narc-cuckoos disintegrate, divide & rule, while Empathic-Doves integrate, unite & serve.
Instead of the Cuckoos Realize the importance of other birds, the Beautiful Green Parrot, The Hamsa Graceful Swan, The Intelligent Crow or Owl, the Peace-loving Doves.. there are many Beneficial Birds which take and give back more in return.. do share what birds do you like to flock with? Can you/we spot the Cuckoos & Vultures around you do share in comments below may help other chickens to turn out to be Peacocks or all seeing Eagles in future by seeing ur comments.
Cuckoo-Abuse or Narc-abuse is preventable and healable.. for more read our transformation journey from abuse to awakening.
7. The ultimate tactic of violence is not in the louder voice/verbal abuse of the abusers, but its in the silence of the victim & witnesses. Hence Share and make aware.
Kannada: Kogileya haadu kivige madura,
Adara vichara obba kavige sundara,
Aadare adara satya yellarigu ondu guttu,
E baraha vannu odiri swami dayavittu,
Agadu nimma jeevanake e-darode,
Thorisuthana e-prasada ondu munnode.
-Guru Prasad.G
Tamizh:
Kuyil paatu keetu varum oru talattu,
Anaazl adan varalaru kaatum oru kutra saatu.
Ethanai inmayana kural irikirado,
athanai bayangira karthu irikiradu.
Soluran indha gaja keekum kaadu eamatru kudukum,
Nalla Sollu, nalla natpu, nalla kaduvul endre endrum kaakum.
Muyarchi, Peyarchi, Vetri-atchi.
-Guru Prasadh Gajendran.
Telugu:
Cuckolding in Illegal_sexuality, aided by Legal India.
We ask and are asked a multiple times during our interactions standard questions like “Hey, How are you?” And generally answers exchanged are superficial like “im Fine”, “Ok, Good”, may be few enthusiastic people may go to “awesome”, but few receive negative phrase like “Not bad”, “surviving” or “holding on”. Is’nt it? How helpful are these interactions?
On world health day, Today I think we can make this to-fro Inter-Humane communication a little more meaningful and useful.
Proposing on using a more open ended Positively loaded question or query system which like Easter eggs can receive more relevant and useful information when asked and shared.
There are 2 options.
1.”Hey, Hows The J.O.S.H ? (Inspired from Indian movie- Uri)
Here J.O.S.H stands for the four very important Critical-Factors in our lives.(on a scale of 1-5, 5 Being happily fullfilled.)
1.Joy (Emotional),
2. Occupation-Education (Professional),
3. Surroundings (Social) &
4. Home (Personal).
Ideal is JOSH-20(5555) feeble JOSH-4(1111).
A sample conversation between Sharath, Joshua and Anvita.
Anvita: Hey Sharath, Hows the JOSH?
Sharath: Overall Good. Its 3/5 Joy4, Office3, Social2 & Home3.
Anvita: oh I see, Is ur social life is weak do you need any support from me, why not you join us for in our health club to improve it.
This Query format can help In sharing complete critical information for understanding and creating right connections for help between individuals. So any good outcomes can be generated from this conversation.
2. “Hi, How’s Your S.T.R.E.S.S Index Today?
This format of Personal Greeting & querying can be really useful. This makes the well wishers (PriyaMitra/DearAlly) really aware of the Overall state of queried-others (Dearones/ApatMitra)
STRESS Index is the acronym for the most vital parameters of health. There is a spectrum from Distress(10), Eustress(5) to ZeroStress(0) states. Our ideal state would be in Eu or good stress level(4-6) between threshold extremes of 0 & 10.
S: Sleep (Adequate Quality(Deep)-Quantity(6-8))
T: Thoughts (Positive-Helpful or Negative-Harmful)
R: Relationships (More Strengthening, Less Weakening)
E: Eating/Environment (Energy Providing not saping)
S: Systemic Demands met (Self+Others Expectations and any other Pain points)
S: Support Systems (Crisis and coping resources having Gain points)
Sharath: Hi Anvita, Hows your STRESS Index?
Anvita: Thanks for asking Sharath, aboutOverall about 3of 5: Sleep3, Thoughts2, Relations4, Eating1, SNeeds3, Support3.
Sharath: Oh I see, How may we help you in improving ur eating score its low. Are u not getting gud nutrition?
Anvita: yes I’m not having time to cook.
Sharath: Oh I See, I know a good cook in our neighborhood shall connect with you.
So as we may see, in this mode of formatted mutually understood conversations can help us exchange our Stress index to understand at deeper levels and also increase the possibility of Vital support and information to be shared in our partnerships and social interactions.
So our JOSH levels can be higher and STRESS levels under control where its interpersonally Monitored by or Dear allys(Family+Friends) so we have Eustress(good stress/pleasure) and less distress(Pain). By this we can help our situations and also be able to better help others too.
Dear G-eaders, Hows your JOSH?
Do share about your STRESS index?. (In comments)
These are ideas for improved communication formats on world health day.
Can experiment and improve it as we go further and grow further the idea for a Happy, Healthy & FriendlyWorld. Please do share your response to these ideas. How do you take care of your loved ones and better ways do let know in comments here. We share and we grow together that’s the idea of the blog we dare to care about ideals and dare to bare the ideas to make it realistic in reality.
Casting out the ghosts of Color, Caste & Class; In me, my families & communities.
GR Guru Prasad, is a 2nd Generation educated Bahujan_Dalit Researcher based in Bengaluru India. A trained Architect, a Product Designer from Indias Top most University, Worked for 7 Years in an Indian MNC, Is currently pursuing his PhD. He is a group space designer, passionate about connecting people, purpose and principles. He has created more than 50 Succesful WhatsApp communities which are thriving to be environments of egalitarian excellence (EoE-Groups). He is nick named Group Prasad due to the utilitarian diversity of his group systems. He is a blogger who’s blogpost are informative and have readers reaching about 20+ countries. He aims and works for a better world and life for all.
1.”What inspires me” to write is the pure utilitarianism of writings. The black texts on white brings so much clarity and understanding to higher ideas and abstract concepts, that it may defy the saying ‘a picture paints a thousand words” and make it so that a word can paint a thousand pictures”. There is Truth, Beauty and Utility in words which can seldom be replaced fully by images or videos or even AI in future. Words make our world, and writings create the workings of the worlds. 2. “Who inspire me” are greatest change makers who have done so by their power of expression who have changed the course of mankind in the Write Directions in their Rightings. I am a reader of Ambedkar, Gandhi, Vivekanda, Buddhists, rationalists, Marshall Greenberg similar non-fiction writers and philosophers. What I have gone through in my personal, professional and social life has been a tale of contrasting cultures, regions and polarities.. I have been to the four corners of India physically and 4 corners of the world metaphorically. I being a Sensitive empath have experienced the harshest of un-principled minds and also the warmest of principles hearts.
I have many ideas, experiences, stories of failures, successes and learnings to share with my communities in multi spheres. This has helped many in the past, is helping many and in future it’s going to positively impact the world and global citizens in a unique way. My USP unique serving Purpose is Communification of the world. By which I mean to groupify Not a communist perspective but a CommUNITY perspective. I believe there is power In unity, and only when there is a sense of belonging as a shared community of citizenship or fraternity. It’s my endeavour to connect principles in the groups and communities we create.
1.”What inspires me” to write is the pure utilitarianism of writings. The black texts on white brings so much clarity and understanding to higher ideas and abstract concepts, that it may defy the saying ‘a picture paints a thousand words” and make it so that a word can paint a thousand pictures”. There is Truth, Beauty and Utility in words which can seldom be replaced fully by images or videos or even AI in future. Words make our world, and writings create the workings of the worlds.
2. “Who inspire me” are greatest change makers who have done so by their power of expression who have changed the course of mankind in the Write Directions in their Rightings. I am a reader of Ambedkar, Gandhi, Vivekanda, Buddhists, rationalists, Marshall Greenberg similar non-fiction writers and philosophers. What I have gone through in my personal, professional and social life has been a tale of contrasting cultures, regions and polarities.. I have been to the four corners of India physically and 4 corners of the world metaphorically. I being a Sensitive empath have experienced the harshest of un-principled minds and also the warmest of principles hearts. I have many ideas, experiences, stories of failures, successes and learnings to share with my communities in multi spheres. This has helped many in the past, is helping many and in future it’s going to positively impact the world and global citizens in a unique way. My USP unique serving Purpose is Communification of the world. By which I mean to groupify Not a communist perspective but a CommUNITY perspective. I believe there is power In unity, and only when there is a sense of belonging as a shared community of citizenship or fraternity. It’s my endeavour to connect principles in the groups and communities we create.
We have created and connected all Indian Institutes (IIT,IIM, IISc etc Pan Indian Institutes at PAN(IIX) group.. We have connected Bahujan Ambedkarite Researchers in BARI-Group, where have connected Ambedkar Study Circles in Bengaluru. It’s a privilege to be of service to the principles that Egalitarianism and Anti-casteism that was pioneered by likes of Buddha Phule, Ambedkar, Kanshiramji and neo-ambedkarites.. I wish to make such contributions to cast out Class divides, caste Atrocities and colorism in our society with pragmatism, Proactivism and pioneering rationalism and humanism.
This is a sample of the work.. here is an privileged dominant caste character(Sushant Singh) in focus, more worse it is for a person belonging to an underprivileged Caste (Rohit, Payal and my silent brother, sisters also me having faced discrimination and dejection for being a part of my community) I have written about my grandpa who was a menial job worker https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/07/05/s7-sri-p-n-raman-1910-1-7-1996-a-grandson-remembers/
I want my writings to be a tribute to his efforts and dreams which my father and me are realizing for our families and communities.
elimination of a complex by bringing it to consciousness and affording it expression.
A Complex/Wicked problem may have multiple simple solutions or a Complex solution.
Here we are trying to collect and give access to information and resources which may empower us to respond in an informed and alert way to prevent Depression and suicides.
Some are dog people and some cat people.. similarly some have a dog’s loyalty and some a cat’s royalty.
In India and global english world, humans use abusive, slang or cuss words of “dog” or “bitch” for other unfriendly humans. but it’s not an insult to humans but an insult to dogs. As the loyality, friendship and partnership that dogs provide human are unparalleled in a symbiotic mammalian relationship.
No wonder these characteristics of dogs are valued as domestic pets, bomb squad members, Rescue team, blind assist dogs.. etc.. and they are rights termed a man’s best friend.
Why isnt it said to cats, why no one is referred as a cat when abusing?
Discover the 7 Possibilities of Relationships in Families. Know to see the #Marital-Spectrum or #Relational-Spectrum From (Red_Black/-5) Materialistic-Risky to Spiritualistic-Safer Maritals(Violet_White/+5).
#Marital-Rainbow #RelationalSpectrum.
How to Gain knowledge & ability to Check & Identify what are the histories, presents & futures of our Relationships, Marital-Contracts & Families. Marriage is about 5 Ps of Marital_Parameters I.e
1.Puberty(Parental Pressures)
2.Proximity(Physical-Pleasures)
3.Prosperity (Professional-Measures),
4. Property (Public-Treasures/ Spiritual-Treasures) and
0. In animalistic society there were no marriages as there is zero civility, it can be opportunistic & incestuous.
1. Ancient Tribal-Marriages were for naturalism, community & practicality,
2. Current Modern-Global Marriages are tending towards Materialism, Power-Status, Dominance and control, &
3. Golden Civic-Cultural Marriages are to Empower, Serve and Contribute Sustainance to Self & Society.
Key-Concepts: #Marriage-Spectrum, Weddings Vs Marriages, Romantic-Love Vs Spousal-Love, Marital-RainBow, Weddings is a start given by Venus(Love), Marriages is a journey through Mars(War). Marital-Rationality, Knowledge-Gap in Home-Science. Good(White) to Bad(Black) Marriage Spectrum. #Marital-Compatibility Mapping. Violet-Spiritual Vs Red-Material-Marriages. #Marital-Sciences, #Marital-ColorCoding, #Marital-Safety.
Most Basic education lacks concept-awareness of difference between Love Vs Lust, Love-Marriage Vs Arranged-Marriage Vs Fraud-Marriage. This post is to help the Knowledge-Gap.
What are Basic Essentials & Ingredients of a Valid_Proper Marriages?
Above Factors with Matching & Compatibility. Different Combinations, permutations & intensities of these factors produce different Colours and Shades of Marriages_Relationships . Like the Marital Spectral Color Wheel.
What are The 7- kinds /types of Marital-Relationships?
Most Indians are aware of only 3 kinds of Marriage Arranged-Marriages, Love-Marriages & Deranged-Marriages. But there are More 7+ kinds of Marriages which are listed here.
Based on the way the marriages start there are 2 classifications I.e:
Initial Coupling & weddings pre-determined, proposed, fixed and executed mainly by the Spouses individually themselves with lesser involvement of their families-friends its termed as 1. Love marriage eg: shown in Bollywood films Maine pyar kiya, Dilwale Dulhaniya le Jayenge & Families: Hritik Roshan, Shah Rukh Khan etc..(Essential Ingredient: Prior Acquaintance & 121 proposal relationship of spouses before marriage),
& Marriage-weddings proposed, fixed, executed and supported with prior and higher involvement of Spousal-families before spouse it can be termed as 2. Arranged marriage (There is no Prior relations between spouses before marriage). And within Arranged there are
A. Wisely Arranged Marriage (Better & Full Process & Right Marital Standards I.e less Risky & more safe) Violetish-Marriages and
B. Badly Arranged Marriage ( less M.Q and incomplete process and procedures with low marital-standards, more risky & less safe) Reddish-Marriages.
Whats the Real deep Difference between Love, Lust, Wedding & Marriage?
1. Love is more engagement of higher-desires of belonging to people and places for collective-excellence (Pre frontal Cortex function Upper 3-Chakras), Love for ideals, culture, people, person etc.(more We & Ours-ism) More of Serotonin, Endorphin & Oxytocin Driven (Long term Relationships). Foundation of love is in truer perceptions & open-receptions.
2. Lust is engagement of lower desires of longing for procurement of things & procreation of selfish-excellence (only Me & Mine-ism). Biochemically Driven by Sex hormones (Testosterone-Estrogen) & Dopamine-Cortisol(Illegal Illicit Sex) (Short term flings & affairs). Foundations of lust is in false presumptions and hidden deceptions.
3. Wedding socially is an event committed on 1 or 2 days & legally its Acceptance & Signing and mark of shake hand of the Marital-Contract between the spouse. This may have pre-nuptial agreements (Implied-unexpressed, Expressed Oral or Written and registered). Register marriages have wedding in the register office. With photography as declaration of the Contractees and social Eye witnesses.
4. Marriage is a life-long commitment and performance of the unknown, unwritten & unsigned but morally understood Socio-legal Contract. Wedding is a One-day Event a milestone, Bonafide-Marriage is a one-life commitment a journey towards Mutual Prosperity (for the loyal) & for the disloyal seeMala fide-Marriage it’s a way to more property, progeny and resource for exploitation of spouse/spouses.
Malafide Marriages are subset of Risky-Red and unpredictable are the Marriages.More Bona Fide Verified the Spouses/Clan/Marriages the more Safer & predictable can be the marriages.
By using Principle of Reasonable_Classifications found 7 Categories of Marital Relationships are possible. If more are perceivable plz post in comment. Each marriage is dynamic and like a sapling and tree needs constant care and efforts.. the colors can change depending on many factors.
For example in Ramayan RamSita Marriage started as Violet-Marriage @Ayodhya, Became Blue in Forests, then Red with Intervention by A Marital-Invader, then became Green when Rescued later it became a white-marriage.
What Color is your Marriage-State right now?
Like Seven Colours on a Rainbow, these are the 7 Seven Colours of the Marital-Vow.. Color-Coding of Marriages. Violet spectrum closer to Light-White & Red spectrum closer to Dark-Black.
An attempt to view and recognize all the halves in the world in one page. Vasudaiva Kutumbakam, Whole world is a Family.. yes but what kind of family?.. These are the categories by chance for some and by choice for some.
(We can observe the full Spectrum at the same place in socially ultra liberal & legally polygamous Communities & countries). As most of the modern marito-legal world is subscribing to the Monogamous and criminalized- Bigamous-Marital System the other systems are also seen as marital-minorities.
In the English language and common societies’ at many times/places we may have come across a phrase ‘Better-Half’. We may have for various reasons superficially accepted and moved on with the meaning and understanding. By personal-Assumptions and social-prejudices. Have you heard and introspected on the phrase and it’s implications for your parenting, Marrying and Procreating?
We can observe that there is a Spectrum of Categories to be seen here between the extremes of Better-Halves (High Collaborations(Benefit), Lower Competitions(Risks) and Bitter-halves (Zero Collaborations, Higher Competitions) this post intends to shine some light on this dark area of ‘Home-science’ or Couples-art or “Inter-genders Symbiosis”. Do leave your ideas for others in comments to help in improving the collective understanding of this phenomena of marital-coupling (Secretive-Couplings too).
3 Critical Factors of Modern Marital Couples-Systems.
1. Better Halfs (Violet-Indigo Luxury Marriage)(Near to Whiter area): (High Coopertability, Low Conflictability), When each spouse is relatively better (cumulatively -Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Ethically, Financially, Familially, Socially, Spiritually.. etc) than the other in a relationship thus complementarily making the sum of both better than the individuality of two. When the match maybe made for heaven for creating heaven on earth. With the spirit of collaboration and better future for all. Eg. The Kenned ys, MK Gandhi-Kasturba, The Obama-couple and other couples like them do leave your ideal-couple list in comments.
2. Equal Half (Orange&Pink-Marriage): (High Cooperation, High Competition) When the Spouse Is same as the other in all aspects even biological. Homosexual Partners. Eg. Freddie mercury & his partner, Queen Singer lesbian or gay or Intersex partners of same gender and orientation type. Match made in alternate-Eden made for instead of Adams & Eves but for Adam and Steve, or Ada and Eve, or Adma and Even(Trans-Couple). Also Narcicuss-Marriage or Sologamy, one Indian example married to self..
3. Equitable Half (Cool Blue-Green Marriage):(High Compatibility, Low Conflictability), When the spouse though are different (compatible-gender.. etc) they complement(Male-Female) each other in most aspects physically, emotionally, socially, Financially, Morally & spiritually. It’s a match made on earth with spirit of Cooperation. Eg. The Curies, Madam Curie, NarayanaMurthy & Sudha Murthy and Couple-people like them who are less competing/conflicting, and more Mutually-cooperating/collaborative in family & Socially-Contributive . Longest married couples:
4. Seperated/Departed Halves(Yellow): These are couples who may have been together for sometime eventually they have been seperated by Mutual Consent Divorce or Deaths or Religious Renunciation (Sanyasa) by various reasons (incompatibility, conflicting personal demands, affairs, imprisonment, mental issues, death, etc): EG: Bill & Melinda Gates(2021), (High Compatabilty changes to High Conflictability but resolvable later in relationship).
5. Sweet and Sour marriage(Orangish-Brown). Like hypothetical LaxMan-Surpannakha marriage in Ramayana. Surpanakha was a shape-shifter an ugly-personality in a beautiful-body, similarly modern cosmetics and use of silicone to increase the 2BPs(Boobs, Butts & Penis enlargements) are done to visually attract victims for trapping. Happy couples with 4 kids and gud life with bitter sour divorce can be Orange marriage. Eg. https://newsingermany.com/kim-kardashian-and-kanye-west-agree-to-200000-in-alimony-after-divorce/
7. Buttered Halves (UltraViolet-Marriage): These are individuals/couples who are pampered due to access to contributing social systems and resources. Eg Ziona and his 39 wives: & For women in free Ultra-liberal communities coupling in few countries. This may not recommended as it may cause socio-biological(genetic) issues in long term with unhealthy genes downstream. Situation with higher Gender-Imbalance in Demographics.. Higher Male Ratio in population can tend to PolyAndrous-Maritals(Haryana) and Higher Female Ratio can tend towards Polygynous-Maritals(NE States).
8. Non-Halves or Full-Halves (Colorless-Marriage) i.e Singles married with Life/God, Singles with no need or opportunity to mingle: These are Celebate-souls or Celebrated-Souls who are wholesome & complete by themself, not needing any other half or quarter to complete their lives. They are free souls, unbound and unrestricted by Marital vows or voes and vices. They may be asexual or amaritals or renunciates, Eg. Vivekananda, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Modi, Rahul Gandhi, Kamaraj, Mother Theresa, Sister Nivedita, Monks, Nuns.. etc
They are Singles in a Relationship who have no need for halves but may marry for external/Family/societal pressures and not necessarily for internal/personal/Social pleasures.
There is a perceivable Normal Distribution curve in every group dynamics. Many in the popular media and literature may have been exposed to the brighter or darker side of things, knowing the spectrum of grey areas and dark risks can help one in their journey of relational life.
The spectrum can be a positively balanced or imbalanced depending on the Bitter to better halves ratio of our society. There is a need for *Relational Education* not only Sex or gender education which is to be upgraded in our humanities education systems. This education can reduce the civil mismatches & Marital Discords while it can prolong the Societies average marital success stories & marital/family happiness index of the nation.
The spousal relation is not static it has dynamic phases dependant on Internal-Factor of the Individual and External Factors of both spouses & families.
If you are a bachelor looking for a bride or you are looking for a bride for your son , for God’s sake please be informed about IPC section 498a which can be used toloot you & your family. Please follow the below checklist to make sure you are not getting a 498a wife or daughter in law. It would be better if you can hire a detective to gather the informations mentioned below. This would save you from the huge humilation, harassment that you & your family may face in police custody/jail, Courts & Mental-Hospitals.
Check whether someone from the girl’s father’s family or mother’s family has ditched her husband for trivial reasons and staying in her parent’s house. Separated and Alienating Pseudo-Single Parents.
Know If the girl or entity that you are going to marry is currently having a full fledged relationship with someone who is a frequent visitor to the girl’s house – stay away
If the girl is having a relationship affairs with her brother in law or her close relative or colleagues on tinder- stay away she is in union already wants you to just be a social-face so as to save here darker-face.
Check whether the girl’s family is in deep debt (lot of home loans, car loans) and their income is less than their spending. They are morally-bankrupt.
If both the girl’s parent are working , be double cautious , girls with lot of freedoms can really be troublesome
Make sure there is not much difference in economic status between your family and girl’s family
Make sure the girl is a good match to you physically. (example if she is fat and you are too thin, think again, do try Bi-change, wait see change and marry)
If the girl starts saying things like “I love you ,etc.” before marriage trying to court and seduce you, just do not get melted or erected, 90% of the time she may be just acting as told by her parent to trap you, so check for true-deeper intentions to marry-YOU.
if the girl has got a close lawyer relative and the lawyer is not earning much from his practice, be extra cautious. Verify whether the lawyer is ready to fight a fake 498a case against men.
If the girl/fiancee is very hot(High Demand/Sexy+Risky) and hot tempered(Difficult-Emotional-Toxic), better to check & avoid if you don’t have resources to defend your home-family from marital-invaders.. eg. Of cases of Padmavati of Rajasthan, Sita of Ayodha, Royals of Troy, Prince of British Royal Family.
If you believe in astrology , for God’s sake get both of your kundali matched by a good astrologer
If you are not taking any dowry , better put in writing that “No dowry was exchanged in this marriage” in a stamp paper and get it signed by the girl and her parent
4. Marital-Rape Risk (mis-Solutions for help of Abused-Women, at hands of Narc-women can be turned as Problems for Abused-Men) if clauses of conswquences for Misuse undefined & unimplemented: https://youtu.be/2PFwCMOMmvk
We came here today at 10:30hrs for Dad (Dr.Gajendran) admitted a week back on 16/2/21(Tuesday) for heart problem. 1.Signs: Water Logging Swollen Foot, Tiredness, Sleep Difficulty due to arrhythmia. 2.Symptoms/Suffering: Excessive Urinary 3.Cause: Congestive Cardiac Failure, Multiple Distress Factors (@Home, Neighbhourhood & City).
Spoke with Co-Attenders asked them about their dearones health, also about the emergency patient who came in yesterday evening. They told the person passed away and the body taken by the family and friends at 19:00 hrs yesterday.
They shared that person was aged about 40yrs and was very physico-socially active as it was Sunday the person was at a game of football and had chest pain. Hse drove Hself by 2 wheeler to the hospital emergency with the heart attack pain(1). I/V had seen what happened after that too while waiting here. Hse Spouse & 2 Children & 9 Relatives-Friends were emotionally expressive of their sadness, fear-loss & grief in the Waiting area.
We were worried for them, and heard them pray and sit in contemplation for their dearone.
We saw this happen and more people arrive at for 3 hrs. The scene at the waiting room was of high octane emotions.
Other patients were trying to pacify the emotionally high 4 individuals.
But there was lot of Dissonance in the area. The resonance was provided by my mother too who was trying to get the 3 family members to the waiting/Wailing area from inside of the air screen/buffer area.
I and another attender were asking the security guard to ask the wailing attenders to move to another room as it was causing anxiety to the heart patients inside and attenders outside.
Space:CMH Cafeteria Energy(Gowri, Guru, Cashier, TeaMaker, Fellow staff and patient attenders & patients Lunch Time is 12:30 we came down to
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