1. Inquiry/Information: https://m.youtube.com/live/8NSKoAKroM0?feature=share
2. Discussions
3. Adaptation
S262: Neo “Narczis”? & World War 3.0 happening under our noses and in our Houses?
#New DigitalEpidemic of Narcissism & few Solutions & Remedies. Narc-selfishness Vs the Empathic-SELFishness.
the #Modern-Narcification Vs Indigenous-Empathification. #OvertEmpowermentVsCovertEntitlement. Post 1960s.. Pro-Invidualistic & immoraled Anti-Family and Anti-ethics Ideological Generations. Cultural Invaders of Homes and India.
Narcification of Society & Re_Empathification of Society.
The Narcs’ Truth & favourite phrase “I dont care” I care about myself only this is the only truth they can say (Me and only Mine thinking), The Empaths’ Truth say “I Do Care for You and others” while I Care for myself too.(We and Ours Thinking).
Critical Awareness to the global Narczis; the WMDs weapons of mass dis-empowerment.. & the World War 3.0 that is happening how we can stay safer in India.
Modern Children, families and institutions(even marriages) are being flooded with Narcified and BrainWashed Individuals.. who may be zombified and Cultified.
+ve Cultural Vs -ve Cultical.
Narcically Deluded Individusls Vs Naturally Rationalized Individuals.
The Narc_Epidemic Problem:
Few Solutions to Narcification of Society. Is 2 steps Re-Rationalization & Re-Empathification of Individuals, Ideologies and Institutions.
1. Better Cultural(RE-al) Education: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/05/02/s293-d-for-darwin-other-abcds-of-life-grp/
2. Better Systems & Relationship Education and Lifestyle. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/02/06/s264-reelationships-vs-realationships-which-is-which/
2. Awareness of Tools of Love-Recruitmenting to prevent malafide Head_Hunting. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/02/07/s266-phenom-of-love-recruitment-and-marital-conversions/
There are resourceful Threads and Tools provided in this blog for every human to be empowered. Please go through other posts.
Let’s prevent and fight the world war 2.5 and 3 by Awareness, Grit, Reason and with Peer groups.
Live Life, Love Life.
1. Narcs_Systems can be identified by their toxic relationship-cycle which is Idealize-Devalue-Discard. In one word Narcs=Entrapment.
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/idealize-devalue-discard-the-dizzying-cycle-of-narcissism-0325154
2. Empaths_Systems can be identified by their tonic relationship cycle which is Idealize-Revalue-Retain. In one word Empaths=Empowerment.
Narcifying_Ganging(Cato) Vs EmPathifying_Parenting(Dogo: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/23/s257-parenting-triad-most-important-tri-factors/
How Parents and Teachers are creating Narcified Narcisstic Kids. All it takes is one Narc-Injury or a Narc-Relative or environment to create a Narc-Child while it takes a village and whole world to create or rather preserve a empathic-child.
Cat Vs Dog Parenting Styles.
S257: Cat & Dogs Parenting: Triads of Important-factors.
Cultural Subversion of Families and Indian-Root systems.
S261: Citeable Cases for Good Causes: @2023
Contents
1. For India.
2. For Indian Families.
3. For Indian Men (Higher Testosteronic Buddies).
4. For Indian Women (Higher Estrogenic Buddies).
5. For Indian Trans (Testrogenic bodies).(LGBTQueer)
6. For Indian Neutro-humans (Non-Gonadic No Testosterone or estrogen)
1. For India.
A. Adani-Hindenburg Case: https://thenewzindia.com/fraud-cannot-be-obfuscated-by-nationalism-hindenburg-hits-back-at-adani-after-the-group-fails-to-answer-62-of-88-questions/
2. For Indian Families.
A. Family Laws Awareness: https://www.scoopwhoop.com/inothernews/laws-indians-should-know/
B. Delayed and Denied Justice system:
Impact of Irrationality & corruption in civic Systems.
https://www.deccanherald.com/elections/delhi/pestering-son-in-law-to-abandon-parents-asking-him-to-live-with-in-laws-as-ghar-jamai-amounts-to-cruelty-hc-2661331
Many legally innocent citizens & Families are prone to False cases since 2005 as the Supremacistic Legal system Misguides and coerces Narc Families to initiate Malicious litigation on targeted individuals & families instead of ADRS or family counselling mediation and no fault mutual Divorce for greed of bigger alimony by legal extortion for dragging years in court. Justice done after 21years.. #JusticeDelayedis…JusticeCrucified. beware of Narc-litigants. NEED FOR PUBLIC DEMAND for good REFORMS like Pre-nups in UCC family Conjugal laws.
https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/12/02/s87-project-manav_mitras-connect-heart2heart-for-universal-brotherhood-fraternal-culture-friendships-group-prasad/
3. For Indian Men (Higher Testosteronic Buddies).
A. Divorcee Tries to trap a married Man legally. https://www.livelaw.in/top-stories/every-breach-of-promise-to-marry-is-not-rape-supreme-court-acquits-man-sentenced-to-10-years-imprisonment-220238
B. Google-Guy Harrassed by female-boss case: https://www.ndtv.com/world-news/google-executive-claims-he-was-fired-after-he-rejected-female-boss-advances-report-3736549
References:
Family Life in India: An Epitome of Culture and Tradition
259: Maninizers, Womanizers, Digititzers & more embodiments of hyper-Sexuality & Hypergamy.
Exploring the Reality of Gendero-Sheres…Spectrum from Maninizers to Asexualisers…
The word Womanizers many may know and it’s easily accessible thanks to hyper-sexism & Toxic-genderisms, but others genderizers are to be know from genders-informed Positive Activism. Here below are lot more similar types or embodiments that an aware society needs to know to be a “Genders-informed Safer-Society.” Darkness to light, from unknown to be known. #DextersLabFreezer #GF/BF/TF in Freezer /CopyCat Crimes…
These below concepts are the phenomenon that are going to cause more stresses on monogamy and marriages as the options to devalue the partnership opens up wider. These also may lead to higher incel-singles, never-marrieds, live-ins, sexual-traumatised/abused, separated, alienated, trafficked, divorced, jailed and relationally-suicided or Homicided population globally.
To create a rationally safer and Familially prosperous society people need to be aware of these risks and take preventive measures for the younger generations to not self-destruct in this evil path.
General formatically- a “Gender-Sexualiser” may be termed as a person who has multiple and promiscuous relationship with multiple partners or entities.
Like a politiciser is a person who gives a political character to ” politicize the discussion”.
Womiser may be interpreted as a person who makes something like a woman. Where as Womanizer may be a person who takes up multiple woman as sexual or emotional partners like in polygamy unlike monogamizer.
When romance or flirting and simultaneous-sexuality is with multiple woman it’s called a womanizer, when woman has sexual relationships with multiple men it’s a “maninizer” like in polyandry, when phenomenon is with Transgender its Transizer. If accepted do move on out.
If you are just a legal-adult(18+) then also dont read below this line.
If you are a legal & sexually active adult age 21+yrs & not able to understand and want to know many things that may be suppressed and repressed by the tabloid media and society then only read below to be more deeply-aware and widely-informed.
and when its with a sex-objects(sex-toys) or A.I robots or dolls or Necromania.. then it’s a Digititizer.(Note spelling different from Digitaliser make something digital or Digitsiser Making something into digits.) Eg. of a Digititiser this can with ill-consent like in case of hunkhands https://www.thequint.com/news/law/man-gets-life-imprisonment-for-digital-rape-in-noida-what-does-it-mean-law-explained
1. Eg of Womaniser: https://mumsaffairs.com/signs-he-has-multiple-partners/ #Identify The Phenomenon. This can be Nomenclatured Male Poly-Hypergamy if unmarried and Polygyny if married. Eg: Gehlot-Yadav Copycat Murder Gfs Body in Fridge.. https://www.freepressjournal.in/india/who-is-sahil-gehlot-delhi-man-who-murdered-girlfriend-stuffed-body-parts-in-fridge-and-married-another-woman-the-same-day
2. Eg of Maninizers: A woman who is a serial seducer of men and seductress.
Lesboiser: A woman who is simultaneously seductress of multiple women..
https://nypost.com/2022/08/23/women-are-more-likely-to-cheat-than-men-heres-why/
Whats the Phenomenon of a Female taking advantage of multiple Males.. #NameThePhenomenon. https://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-trending-37754565.. it can be called-out Female Poly-Hypergamy or Polyandry if polygamous-married. Similar to womanizing Male Poly-Hypergamy.
3. Eg of Transisers:
Resources
4. Eg of Digititisers: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/man-who-married-sex-doll-24895898?int_source=amp_continue_reading&int_medium=amp&int_campaign=continue_reading_button#amp-readmore-target
5. Eg of Polygamisers: https://edition.cnn.com/2020/01/28/health/polyamorous-relationship-meaning-wellness/index.html
6. The most dangerous is the pedo-iser or Pedophilic Abuser and also the Bestial-iser or the animal abusers.
1. https://nypost.com/2020/11/04/mom-who-sexually-abused-kids-sentenced-to-723-years-in-prison/
2.https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x4sdt0r
Conclusion: How these embodiments effects or harm society: This above message is for awareness of the spectrum of risks, problems & issues in already morality-depraved societies so that it can be prevented in India and Our healthier societies.
https://davidwilber.com/articles/polygamy-harms-men-women-and-children
S260: Republic Day Oaths and Pledges for Good Indian Citizens & Patriots.
A Citizens and Patriots List of Pledges and Oaths that can guide us towards better Citizenry of India, Bharat and also the World.
1. Indian-National Pledge: National Pledge (India) – Wikipedia
2. Preamble and other Gov Pledges: https://pledge.mygov.in/
3. Voters Day Oath:
4. Oath by Indian Govt/Public Servants:
5. Oath as a Human : Un Declaration of Human Rights:
https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights
Conclusion: These Oaths reminds us of our republic day as Indians and Global Citizens.
Jai Hind/ Bharat.
Jai Dharthi_Bhoomi.
Hail the World/Humanity.
Resources for Bettering India:
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Which is the best -ism for practice? Is it Religionism, Buddhism, Jainism, Minimalism, Rationalism, Nationalism or any other-ism..? Which Systemism can get you only positive discretion and avoid discrimination? Its Constitutionalism..
The Patriots Keep and follow the Constitution-Book over the books of Bible, Gita, Quran, zvendavasta, guru granth or any other religious or ideological texts.. because for Patriots its always Nation-First, Religions-next. Where as Non-Patriots & Traitors keep their own Accounts-Book, Face-book, lusty-books or CrimeCase-books over Constitution or every other book. Citizens who value nation above all are Patriotic-Citizens(Givers-Harmonisers) and those who devalue national values for other things (Identities Religion, Money, Caste, gender, language.. etc are Traitoric-Citizens (Takers-Polarizers).
S258: Voters’ Resources India: Useful Info for Wiser-Electors /GRP.
Smart-Electers @India 2023.. Superficially(Topical) can created by Smart-Cities, Smart Villages & Smart-Tech.. fundamentally(Intrinsic) at core its about creation of 3 Smart-Cs, Smart-Citizens, Smart-Constitution & Smart-Communities. Until this is done whatever it will be done topical its like polishing a smooth skin on a worm infested rotting apple.
Voters-Empowerment 3-IdeaLinks to make us “Wiser-Electors.”
Voters-India2030 by “InDiA Method Of Voting.” UnderEducated in Voting-Methods, time to change it with Mission Better InDiA-Voting Process. People/Systems change with Process/Critical Change.
Discriminative Vs Discretionary Voting Methods.
Poka-Yoke(Japanese idea-model) or Mistake-proofing is one of the fundamental duties of a designer of any system.
We applying this in Voting.. we can achieve lesser Voting, Dating, Mating & Recruiting Mistakes. By developing better Voting-Strategies.
Voters Helpline Place: https://eci.gov.in/eci-mobile-app/records/voter-helpline-app-r1/ Phone : calling toll free 1950
A. Discriminative/Nonsensible Voting Methods & Criteria: “Voting-Biases kick our Collective Asses”.. Pancha Maha-Lotas to andh-voters.(Blind-Voters), (Chombu to Janata). Tenga and Mehenga Voting.
1. Historical Party Dynastic loyality: my Granpa, fathers & family voted for ‘X’party . I will vote for X-Party and grandchild. Dynastic nasty politics.
2. RRR-Bias: Religion-Region-Race.. by name identifying religion, classte and language or race, by face identifying colorism, racism, ageism, genderism..etc. people are biased to vote/mate/recruit for people who seem to “look” similar like them.. this is optical illusion leads to judging the book by its cover. Dont be biased by names, be based on the game (just/unjust by Constitutional Standards).
3. Classte-Bias: Candidate is of our class, caste, or area (Mohala, Agraharam, church.. etc).. Rich or dominant groups reserve their dominance by voting for their own caste or class.
4. Bribe Bias: Bribing voters, vote for note(Money for Vote), or other freebies like alcohol, food-biryani, products like TV, washing machine..etc (AiDMK).. services like free electricity,..etc(AAP) are not a healthy trend.
5. Polarized Power Bias: Identity-biased politics, Idealogy of polarizing people based on some identity and marginalizing or excluding minorities there by MOBilizing the Majority against the divided minorities.. This is winning in short term but may prove harmful/risky in the longterm for Irrationality, immorality & injustices. Booth capturing and EVM fraud voting.
B. Discretionary/Sensible Voting Methods & Criteria:
“Voting-Basis stick to our Collective Assets”.. Pancha Maha-dhootas to SatChitAnanda-voters.(Aware/Informed-Voters), (anbu to Janata). Rasta for grihasta Voting.
1. Quality/Qualifications of the candidature: Is the MP/MLA candidate qualified for Job (Graduate of Political Studies Science, Constitutional-Laws, Management Studies or any other Politics Related subjects), What are his Qualities. Is he/she empathic, with no criminal or corrupt or dynastic background.
2. What is hirs personal and party Agenda or Manifesto for this election. And does it have points for public good, have they delivered previous year manifestos without corruption or scams or tyranny(incumbents). What us their political performance and governance history are they safe & trustable to be given Vote/Date/Genes-Genitals/or Job/seat Offer Letter(Admission/Recruitment/Visa/Citizenship).
Rational Voters-Discretion(Basis) is applied and amplified against Irrational Voters-Discrimination(Biases).
What may be Best Practices for Indian Voters creating the Next Government of Public Servants/Representatives??
As Indian Citizen what’s the most important Constitutional-Power/Right to all citizens.. That we get as equal to the PM, CMs, Richest/Dominant Group Indians or from the Poorest/Marginalized/Vulnerable group of Indians..
The theme for the 13th NVD (2023) is “Nothing Like Voting, Vote for Sure”. As evident, the theme is such that it can capture the imagination of the voters. When citizens take pride in being a voter, as part of their civic duty, its impact on the level of governance is sure to be felt.
1. Election Commission National-Resources Access: https://eci.gov.in/voter/voter/
2. Voters Education, (International Resource) Indians maybe Educated but very few are Voter-Educated.. most of India has lack of Voter Education. It’s not only How to vote but what are better and Best Ways to Vote. https://aceproject.org/main/english/ve/ve10.htm
3. InDiA Method to Vote:
1. Inquire about Constituency-, 2. Decide-Interview/m after you Investigate about Candidates.
3. Appoint by Vote Your Candidate/Choice(NOTA Too). (Note Candidate is one who is supposed to be accountable to you and can be held accountable by your first not the party or other partymen. The contract he has with you is the constituency/candidate-manifesto and party-manifesto.
Bonus Method/Resources for Voters..
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S256: Netaji Bose & 5 Big BOSSes of India.(23/1/23) PanchaMANtras of India.
Today we Indian’s Celebrate Big.B The-Boss Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose‘s 126th Birthday.
Bose’s Indo-German Daughter’s Statement this year. https://thewire.in/history/netaji-birth-anniversary-daughter-anita-bose
The 5 Greats Big-B’s of India.
i.e Bose, Buddha, Babasaheb, Bapu & BodhiDharman (Dhamu).
1. Bose Subhash Chandra.. Netaji Founder-Leader of INA..(Indian National Army), Azaad Hind Fauj. & Bhagat Singh Socialist Martyrs of Indian Freedom Fighting.
Learning from ‘Bose the Boss‘ of INA and Indian Freedom Fighters (Radical-Nationalists).. (More Rational & Left wing Ideology..)
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DjlgfPeHnek
2. Buddha /Basavanna (Reformers & Founders of Religious movement.) The great Buddha created the 3rd largest and most rational religion in Asia. (More Centerist Middle Path)
3. Bapu Gandhiji (Leader of Non-Violent Movement). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi (More Right Wing Ideology)
4. Babasaheb (Law Minister, Constituent assembly chairman for making Indian-Constitution) and Babaji, the guru of Paramahamsa yogananda and RajniKanth. (More Neo-Centerist Ideology)
5. Bodhidharman: A Tamil Buddhist royal who went and preached taught and founded the Great Shoalin school of China and created Zen Buddhism.
There were Path finders, Pact Makers & Prefects with large visions and missions for nation & humanity.. our Tributes to the Great Bearers of Indic_Values and Hopes.
Any More Indian Big Bs in the list you can suggest in the comments.. thanks for reading
More about Bose.
Bose freed India, not Gandhi. 👇
The declassification of the Netaji files sparked off a massive debate on the need to rewrite modern Indian history. Former British prime minister Clement Atlee said that, the role played by Netaji’s Indian National Army (INA) was paramount in India being granted Independence, while the non-violent movement led by Gandhi was dismissed as having had “minimal effect”. British were compelled to grant independence to India, due to the erosion of loyalty to the British crown among the Indian Army and Navy personnel, as a result of the atrocities inflicted on the soldiers of the defeated Azad Hind Fauj (a.k.a. INA).
In India, officers of INA were put on trial for treason, torture, murder. This series of court martials, came to be known as the “Red Fort Trials”. Indians serving in the British armed forces were inflamed by the Red Fort Trials.
In February 1946, almost 20,000 sailors of the Royal Indian Navy serving on 78 ships mutinied (revolted) against the Empire. They went around Mumbai with portraits of Netaji and forced the British to shout Jai Hind and other INA slogans. The rebels brought down the Union Jack on their ships and refused to obey their British masters. This mutiny was followed by similar rebellions in the Royal Indian Air Force and also in the British Indian Army units in Jabalpur.
Eventually the British were terrified. After the Second World War, 2.5 million Indian soldiers were de-commissioned from the British Army. In 1946 the Indian soldiers were inflamed and could not be relied upon to obey their British officers. There were only 40,000 British troops in India at the time. They couldn’t fight the millions of battle hardened Indian soldiers who rose against the Empire. It was under these circumstances that the British decided to grant independence to India.
Read the web pages at the below mentioned URLs to know more,
http://www.indiatoday.in/amp/mail-today/story/who-freed-india-gandhi-or-bose-305525-2016-01-26
http://www.myindiamyglory.com/2017/01/22/netaji-not-gandhi-got-india-freedom-claims-gd-bakshis-book
http://www.sundayguardianlive.com/news/netaji-expedited-indias-freedom
swarajyamag.com/ideas/yes-a-mahatma-got-us-independence-his-name-was-subhas-chandra-bose
S257: Cat & Dogs Parenting Styles: Parent-Child Spectrums.
3 Types of Parenting & Partnering Styles: Cat, Cuckoo and Dogs Parenting & Partnering Styles.
Diff of Nuclear and Molecular Families? Cat-Mindset & Feline-Familyset vs the Dog-Mindset & Canine_Familyset. FelineVsCanine. CatsVsDogs, Billi Aur Kuttha. Free-radicals Vs Free-Rationals.
#Parenting_Styles_Spectrum.
Why Radicalized Crimes, Dysfunctional family & broken_childhood Rates are increasing? How to reduce them and create more Happy, Harmonic and Integrated Members, Families, Communities & Societies? Family Sub-Atomization of Nuclear families Vs Integrative_Molecularization of Nuclear families.
We at the 4G’s Family had a group Discussion on what are the top 3 Basic factors in Parenting and Family.. (Btw this was an after effect as yesterday we watched a movie called Varisu/Successor). The War for a befitting Varisu by Vijay(Tamizh Movie).
We came up with 3 Factors as the “CAT Parenting Triad.”
Keywords; Nuclear-family & Sub-Atomic_Family, Electronic/String family.. Vs Molecular and Latticed family.
Parenting styles can be Catly or Dogly? What do you see more Caty or Dogy parents in society. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/23/s257-parenting-triad-most-important-tri-factors/
CAT Parenting style (for Nuclear Isolated Families) vs DOG Parenting style (For Joint/ Semi-joint Integrated Families) what’s your required style?
The top 3 Factors we see in a happy parent-child relation and intergenerational family-making are..
1. Care: To care for the child & family member by BiParental-care, medi-care, emotional-care, resource-care.. etc. Most current parenting is limited to providing money to school, daycare or nannies giving indirect care where the locality and parental bonding is built towards third party and hence we see emotionally depressed kids. Less-Direct BiParental Cared kids become CareLess Teens and Dysfunctional Adults in Later Life.
2. Attention: To attend to the needs and give attention (focused dedicated quality time at frequent intervals) to the child and family members. Money can buy Indirect-Care, but BiParental-Attention is irreplaceable and invaluable.
3. Timed-Teaching. To nurture our children with knowledge and train the child by awareness, right culture and values.. most current parents are able to give Indirect-Care (through non-parents) and Delegated-Attention (through nannies and Technology supervision and parental control) but seldom can parental-teaching be replaced by the best teacher in the world. BiParental-Teaching(Both Bio-Socio Parents) is the most important input a child can get in its healthy upbringing and making for an upright life.
Bonus share is other factor like CATL (Care,Attention,Teaching & Love).
The difference between cats and dogs are.. the Felines(Cat-Lions Pride) and the Canines(Dog-Wolfs Pack).
1. Cats, CAT-family & Cat-Societies are more secretive, more individualistic, independent or non-collective, less bigger familial or un-social and neo-philic (attracted to new things like curious & highly explorative & experimentative). May be posted near ultraliberal on the political-compass spectrum.
Hence parenting style required is for nuclear isolated families where very few isolative care-takers and care-givers and the focus is on power polarization and accumulation, survival and individuality. One parent or grandparent is or are the authoritarian and breeds co-dependency between the parent and child without any other social or extended familial influence.
CAT-parenting creates more Electron-ic-family (orphaned or single parented) & Nuclear-family I.e money-oriented and less Intergenerational Molecular-families.
MORE Outcomes and results of more ultra-catty CAT-parenting is more Individualistic-individuals & Isolative-groups, individually excelling, elite & exclusive-mindsets, more emotional factoring (operative negative emotions are higher fear, anger distrust & hate) of presumptions, Suspicions, bias, assumptions and superstitions, Polarization with less rationality (Black n White thinking) & Narcification of children and teens, socially-irresponsible, highly-supremacistic, Toxic_Competitive & less Collaborative/Cooperative, high risk taking, uncaring for public consensus or defences. My way or the highway kind of personalities and cultic groups or systems.
2. Dogs, Dog-families & Dog-societies are more social inter connected, open, collectivistic, inter-dependent on the pack are more conservative and neo-phobhic, maybe close to the Conservative traditional side of the spectrum.
More integrated & loyal to the family pack and family traditions and practices.
Hence parenting style required is for non-nuclear joint integrated and intergenerational families where there are more integrated care-takers and care-givers and the focus is on empowerment sharing and distribution, survival+ thrival collaboration and collectivity is encouraged. Both side of parents or grandparents and relatives are supportive and breeds more inter-dependency between the parenya and children with more engagement with other social or extended familial influences.
DOG Parenting involves. Diversity-distribution, Opportunity and Groomping.(Grooming+Grouping).
1. Diversity in family with both contributions of balanced integration of Feminine energies from mother and maternal relatives side (Nurturing & Nourishing) & Masculine energies from father and paternal relatives side (Providing and Protecting).
2. Opportunity Giving-Sharing: This style gives opportunity of relational loyalty to the parents, grandparents & larger family and not only to the controlling individuals or ideologies like in cat parenting.
3. Grouping: there is more happiness in groups collective excellence is encouraged. The individuals are less self-centered or selfish about my god, my religion, my ideology etc. And more group-oriented having the collective mindset of our family, homes, our people, our nation, our world..etc..
More DOG-Parenting creates more Intergenerational families and less nuclear and atomic-families. These families and members are more Group Harmony oriented and less individual money oriented.
MORE Outcomes and results of more ultra-doggy DOG-parenting is more Socialistic-individuals & Integrative_groups, collectivelly excelling, teamic & inclusive-mindsets, Empathification of children & teens (with emotional factors of gratitude, respect, love, affection, care & sharing), more rational-outlook with scientific and civic patriotic temper, socially-Responsive & responsible highly-Collaborative Egalitarian-Healthy Competition & less –Dominative or supremacistic toxic-competitions, calculated and informed risk taking, more caring for public consensus or defences. OUR way and the higher purpose evolved-way kind of personalities and culturic groups or systems. As more people engaged more trusting, trustable and trustworthy truths-based (not lies-biased) minds, individuals, networks & organisNations can be created.
An example of Dog-Parenting Father Abraham-Lincoln.
Disclaimer and Note: This post is a creative expression of the observation of parenting style spectrum, human beings are an outcome of the existent mammal animalistic parenting I.e to say parenting is not exclusive to human our earlier species like Primates, Cats and Dogs had evolved it millions of years ago. And Other parenting styles of mammals Chimps-family and Elephant-family also of Whales and smaller fauna can be explored for analogies and inspirations for parenting.
These two are more popular and simple to understand.
Conclusion: It maybe observed how an individuals life and mindset is shapes by the parenting styles they are exposed too. This is also an opportunity for parents to see which parenting style they are applying to thier kids is it the CAT or the DOG Parenting style..Ideal is that parents, guardians and grandparents engage in the Cat’s style of parenting in the initial 5 to 6 years and move to the DOG Parenting style as it is said ” It takes a village to raise a healthy kid.” A marital red flag for new family creation is when one spouse is a cat-parented/mindseted bride or groom marrying a dog-parented/Mindset spouse. This leads to parenting conflicts, more dysfunctional- broken families, and maladaptive children with Parental Alienation Syndrome(one of root of misgendery or hate towards one gender usually targetted and later the targetive-abusive parent). Beware of psuedo-Cat/Dog families who may intially project as the other during intial courtships this can lead to later Court-shops by Depression-medications & Oppressive-litigations.
More Indian families were DOG-Parented until 1950s and 80s (Indian Marital System 1.0 to 2.0). Now since 30years 90s more trends are towards CAT-Parenting (Indian Maritals 3.0+) which is copying the Non-Indian colonial Euro-AmericanSystems this risks are also being copied as seen below.
Some Solutions for Caty Parents:
Acknowledgements: I dedicate this blog to all four of my Godly and Molecular Grandparents who used the DOGly parenting & Grandparenting styles. Which lead to my MaPa(Dad-Mom) to exhibit the More DOG-parenting style as they are trusting and open with troth side (Maternal, Pattern and Professional) of my circles.. I have got lot of love and care (also risks, threats & betrayals) from my parents, family, relatives, friends and community). I am grateful to all the great elders who have made me who I am today.
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Risks of Caty parenting: the mind voice is This is MY-child I will do whatever I want with him..nobody has any rights to tell me what to do. I am the best parent in the world whatever anyone tells “I DONT CARE” so does my Child.. because he/she is Me only.
1. Effect of Family-Nuclearization/Polarisation/Radicalization in Australia: https://www.news.com.au/world/asia/depraved-aussie-child-predator-smiles-as-he-gets-life/news-story/e93f97493efb1c8ec09e9872405f7b63.
2. More Divided Atomic & Nuclear_families more commercial childcare high risk to child abuses, more Integrated Molecular_families more Intergenerational grandparental-chilcare less risk of Child-Abuses. Need for Family-Molecularization.
Perception shapes Reality.
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There is no such thing as reality. There are only perceptions which shape our individual reality.
Here is a simple example.
If we write down the letter ‘W’.
We will probably only see the letter ‘W’, because of the angle at which we are looking at it.
If we turn it upside down, we will suddenly see the letter, ‘M’;
If we look from the right side, it appears as the number, ‘3’,
and looking at it from the left side, we see the letter, ‘E’.
Just because someone else has a perception which shapes their reality is different from our perception, does not make them wrong or us right.
If one accepts that everyone has their own perspective and reality, we will not only be tolerant but more respectful of others. This in turn will help us achieve success and realise happiness.
I am grateful to my friend Bahram Shahmardaan, for this lesson.
Extracted from my proposed book: ‘Achieving Success and Realising Happiness’
Written and posted : July 2023: Gurvinder Singh
I queried in my alumni group thus..
I understand this Perception shapes Reality..
We have a deeper query next..
*Then what Shapes Perception?*
Answer for this by M-ji was Subconscious mind.
BOK short for https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_of_knowledge
I think if Conscious Mind is the RAM.. Subconscious Mind maybe something like the ROM in the Background.
And this ROM is scripted by hard coded Genetics and SoftCoded memetics..
Both scripting of Genetics and Memetics of our childhood is done my our parents and families.. hence i see our roots biological and ideological are from our education at home and schools.
As I see it our collective Reality = Perceptions encoded in our Brains and Physicality by Nature (Parental-Genes)+Nurture (Familial/Educational_Memes)+Flexure (GeoPoliticoSocial_Games).
Like in physics the Reality is the Summation of Work Done= Force × Displacement and Force= Mass × Acceleration. This Work of Reality = Mass (of Nature) × Acceleration (of Nurture) × Distance (Flexure).
Thoughtings (Dynamic-Structures) = Forms (Natures) + Forces (Nurtures) + Transformations (Flexures).
An Analogy to it is the reality of Car Journey.
CarJourney(In Reality) Is a Function of the make of the Car/fuel (Nature) and motivation of the Driver/A.I+Passengers (Nurture) and matter of the Path (Flexure).
More explorations on this line here..
https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/23/s257-parenting-triad-most-important-tri-factors/
There is a Sanskrit Saying.. Repeated in India.. I wish people to rethink about it. Hence in the form of Fill in the Blanks. Do share ur ideas.
1. _ _ A _ _gam Purusha Lakshanam, __B__ is a good quality of men.
2. _ _ C _ _gam Mahila Lakshanam. ___D__is a good quality of women.
3. _ _ _E _ _gam NarNari Lakshanam. __F____is a good quality of a Transgenders.
4. __G_ Manushya Lakshanam. ___H___ is sign of Humans.
Which Parenting Stereotypes these above ideas into your psyche your answers will depend on the geneology, idealogy and morphoflowgy.
1. For Fathers Day. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/06/18/s308-ideal-indian-fatherhood/
2. For Mothers day. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/08/s132-how-many-kinds-of-mothers-are-in-mankind-memorable-happy-mothers-day-2022/
3. 5 Stages Of Women: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/03/08/s109-the-5-stages-of-a-w-o-m-e-ns-life/
4. The Neo-Narcification: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/30/s262-who-are-the-narczis-and-how-world-war-3-0-is-happening-under-our-noses/
5. Preventing Narcification with Hithashala https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/07/15/nep-school-reforms-by-prjct-hithashala/
A Cuckoo-Parenting is leaving or abondoning the young underaged child under the care of a non-parent/relative and leaving them in schools or creche for keeping their bi-parental caretime as low priority.
Cuckoo-Mindset Spouse & Parents: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/05/30/s59-the-cuckoos-2-secrets-exposed-with-human-links-enjoy-enjaami/
S255: Well_Informed Decisions = More_Safety & Ill_Informed Decisions = More_Risks. #4Ms for Safer-Life.
#Medical-Science_NeglectRisks #Alternate-Therapy_Threats.
UnInformed-LifeDecisions_Risks Vs Well-Informed LifeDecisions_Benefits.
I dedicate this blog-post in the memory of a soul-sister Meghala Akka, a Toastmaster, a Tamizhichi, a Grouper (a collaborator in Sharing-Jobs Group), a good_giver & a superb-soul. Today morning (19-Jan 23 8am) we got the sad news of her sudden demise at an young age(near 40), it disturbed me emotionally and I am expressing my grief here in this post with moist eyes and sad feelings (Known her since 2017 as an Office-Bearer (Vice-President) from Dhwani Toastmasters club @ JP Nagar, Bengaluru city in India). Hope to share in this written tributes; about her presence, her attributes and positive influence that she was to me & us as a community.
I mourn the loss of My sister and many like her, I have suffered loss of men, material and morale due to my own and many times others Ill-informed, Ill-Presumed life- decisions. I aim to change this for Well-informed choices & decision making protocols in life for global welfare.
Tamasoma Jyothirgamaya (Sanskrit from Darkness to Light.. Mark of Gurutva Guru+Tatva), From Bias to Basis, Higher Objective is to move From Materiality to Morality through Right Methodality. From Entrapment of Illness to Empowerment of Wellness.
Life can get dark & Cloudy at stormy times, this is when we can reach out to the crowd-source and can be more equipped to make clearer health & Life-decisions. #Tool for making Better Life-Decisions. #MeghamJeevaPragnyam.(Cloud-LifeSense).
She connected us in a Parents Network group(Source of my news and other fellow members’ Homages to her), she got us to a health awareness session she organized at her home with Indic-herbs and native millets and cereals in 2018, we benefitted from her Tamizh Siddha networks & knowledge sharing, she served us Mulakathan Kerai(Siddha-Herb) Soup. We also picked up the herbs roots from the neighborhood, she had swollen feets that week but she hosted us all(about 30 Members) well like a true Host-master. From then onwards we(my Home) started eating varities of red rices (Rajamudi, mapilla Samba, Red Boiled rice.. etc) at home instead of plain white polished (high calorific_low fibered) rice. THIS SESSION BENEFITTED ME AND MY FAMILY A GREAT DEAL FOR HEALTH & Wellness. She had a unique high pitch voice, a good sense of humor and a giggley unforgettable laugh that spread through the room and still remains in our memories now.
I am happy with her sisterliness, I tried to reflect & understand what did I/She/we missed out on that may have prevented this eventuality and helped her and her family away from such decision dependent life-risks.
We got the below message as reference forwarded in group “She was not able to take any food for the past few days and was hospitalized. In Apollo Greams Road Hospital, they advised to dialysis but ‘she did not agree (Patient’s Right to Consent-Italic is authors Interpreting an inner-voice) because of the fact it would be painful.’ Later she was taken to the Tamilnadu Multispeciality Hospital(Chennai) where gradually her hemoglobin went down and then water accumulation happened on her lungs , that led to an organ failure taking her off from all of us!!!!.”
I feel sorry for her, hubby, kids and family, I am sure they have done their best to save her life. They way we as parent group-friends feel the Loss of a sister.. says a lot about her values and care towards her kid, family & relatives.
We had spoken once about creation of Jobs msgs group like one below she had created for freshers. She was an ever empathic model friendly person and grouper friend.
There may be a regret in this situation as: what if she had taken an alternate decision to agree/comply and go with the Medical-advise of Dialysis, could her life pathway been different, could her life and her presence have been better? I feel this may need to be expressed and make people aware of alt-consequences of our well-informed consent and choosing at crossroads to paths of life.
Presenting here Voila!! the “Meghala-Matrix Model” for Choosing, Living, Giving & Thriving a better or Good_Life.
An Understanding with ways of better-decision making methods
In our life we are always in every moment at crossroads and the decisions we make at those crossroads or circles of decisions can affect us and the whole world around us.
There are few paths which have good roads and with U-Turns and few major Junctions or crossroads which can change the direction of our lives majorly.
What are the yopmost critical life-decision cross-roads where we have to make well informed decisions not only for our sake but on behalf of ourselves families, communities and the world.. these personal-private decisions have a major cascading impacts for our family and society. What are the major decisions we choose to take in life..??
They are the “4-Ms that matter for a Good Life“.
1. MORALITY (Schools/Spirtuality) of Society and Us.
2. MEDICALITY (Hospitals) of Society and Us.
3. MARITALITY (Residential_Beds) + MARTIALITY (National_Borders) of society.
4. METHODALITY (Minds & Thinking) used by individuals and collective to achieve their needs by noble-deeds & without greeds.
1. Our Morality (Spiritual-Religion-Intellectual-Ideology-Cult) Family-Community ethics and Religio-social commitments. Our Profession and Industry for right livelihood. Our Rationalism, Patriotism, Politics, Communalism, Casteism, Discriminations, Religionsism.. all-isms, our ways of life, nations and world depends on this critical-M. The Dharma or the Dutifulness. Our Spiritual_Social Health, Wealth and Stealth depends on the quality of decisions of morality.
2. Our Medicality (DailyCare, Health, MediCare, Modalities, Work, Food Security, Insurance, Family support, Health System Awareness, misguidance of Psuedo-Scientific alternative med-systems vs True-guidance of rational medical systems and the genuine Health and wellness Network, access to right information, places & our Finances.. etc.. Our and family Health wholly depends on this factor around us of medicality.
3. Our Maritality. (legal marital status,(Single, Unmarried, Monkhood, committed, married Seperated(legal,illegal), Divorced, Widowed) Our Romantic, Dates, Spouse, Divorce, Affairs,.. etc). A relationship with the right ethical mate-partner can make a hell of a life converted to heaven like an angelic, whereas a wrong relationship-decision can bring in trouble make a heaven of a life to hell by demonic-spouse or Inlaws aided by unethical socio-legal systems that dont support but create more hellishness in Maritality. This is more so in India with British-colonialic marital laws and systems.
4. The most important of the M.. which defines all the above Ms.. is the Methodality.. This is the power of Discretion to arrive at the right-decision, healthy-better-decision methods.
How do we choose our Morality, Medicality and Maritality depends on the Methodality we operate with. The decision making model especially for big life-decisions that can cost or benefit us a life time of value.
When taking any life decision it’s better to take personally or with power of authority given to a trusted-nominee a second advise or third opinion with the right sources and experienced-experts in that field. There may be coercion, hurrying or suppression by a bad faith Actors(3Ms) who maybe in conflict of interest(Direct/Indirect) with your decision. Eg.. beneficiaries of your decision in their favour. This is why a consultation_review of your Situations, choices and decision options with trusted-group is very important in the decision making process. Which can help you take Informed and Rationalized Decisions. Which one may not be in a capacity to take at a moment of stress or ill health. This is when the Attenders, Wellwishers or experts in that areas need to give their honest unbiased inputs that can help the situation and life.
We unknown to our conscious mind many methodalities, the way we decide to sit in a room, the persons we speak with or ignore, all acts they may be Based or biased on certain patterns or facts which may create for us a project impact.
The issue where I see what is lacking is the methods to get to the right valid-facts, that can set out acts/Life-Decisions into right paths and bring right impacts in life.
I dont know Its too late I could make Sister Meghala more equipped to take more better life decisions.. but I wish good health to other sisters and brothers who may benefit to have better Methodalities in life-decisions, it can make a very huge difference in our and others lives.
There are 3-Methodalities I have come across and sharing below for your use..
1. The InDIA-Method of Selecting. (Linked) Note, Vote, Date, Mate & Fate Selection. Eg. Shiv-Parvathi’s way..
2. The ViVeKa Method of Actions.
3. The SAINTians Narc-Empath/ method. (Linked)
These 3 methods are to reduce the personal-biases (Irrationality+-veEmotionality) and improve the humaniversal_bases (Rationality+Ethics+veEmotionality).
Do note current Society, Political parties are leader (Person)centric.. eg (Three PM/CM Candidates)
& less or not manifesto (Purpose) centric.. (This is in the background)
This is what brings Personal-Toxic politics and not Missional-Positive politics.
Nation First(Destination) & Mission First(Journey), missionaries are coincidental.. (Not Christian or any Religious-ideological mission but a Social/Public mission for Public Welfare).
WiseElecters is proposing an alt model of politics to focus on mission and purpose. With less interference of personality biases.
I learnt many things from Sisters and brothers like Meghala (means Cloud in Indic-Language) whom I am indebted to, that’s why I feel the Morality in me to share the important life-lessons their lives as message conveyed me.
I and we as group pray for Megahala’s daughter, husband and family, may they get the strength to cope with this huge loss. It’s a loss for the communities she created and built. I’m a beneficiary of the associations and connections she built and nurtured. Here impact for other life shall live on as her legacy.
The impact of a person is less known when they are present, and most know when the are absent (especially-suddenly). Let us not take people for granted do keep inquiry into our close people’s health and wellbeing.
How are You today, Hope all is good, is your day going well..
Not jus superficial but really concerned please do reach out to empathic-others if in high stress or distress. People do need you in life and can come of some assistance in making and supporting life-decisions.
I am writing this in an emotional state of mind, so if there may be some logical or typo errors, if you find some that may be of any concern to her or her family kindly let me know I can change it.
Thanks- G.R Prasad.
Further Helpful Related Posts Below for better Indian-Lifeology:
1. Your Child may be trapped in these 3 Ways, Beware. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/24/s142-3-traps-of-a-students_life-money-traps-honey-traps-winey-traps/
2. How to Co-Create Safe Environments of Excellence: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/11/22/the-10rd-pointers-for-co-creating-resourceful-groups/
3. Raksha Bandhan Vs Rakshasa Bandhan: 1 Unique RB Day Gift & Protection for all Indian Sisters & Brothers also redeemable by global Siblings: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/08/12/s183-an-open-letter-to-my-dear-indian-sisters-brothers-on-rakshabandhan-2022-remembering-a-sisters-love/
4. 60 Helplines in India: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/07/s241-top-50-indian-helplines-for-you/
5. About close Childhood_Friendships. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/02/04/s49-my-friend-simon-our-30-years-of-friendship/
6. About InDiA Selection Model: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/08/s243-india-3step-method-for-candidate-selection-how-to-choose-the-right-person-for-the-right-placement/
7. About genuine group-sourced Healthy Place.
Judicial Thinking and Temperament advances our collective just life.
S254: Genius of Jordan Peterson.
It’s not Horrorscope Compatibility, its not Sexual Compatibility..
What is the Core Compatibility ??
How to have Strong and not wrong marriages??
It’s may not be Horrorscope Compatibility, its may not be caste Compatibility or any other compatibility.
What is the main Core Compatibility that strong marriages are based on?? Marrying without knowing this is like playing with fire.
MY Ans: Idealogical(Prevents Inquests) & Genealogical(Prevents Incest) Compatibility
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