Every Coin has 3 Major sides..
Similarly Every Fruit can be in 3 Phases or Modes..
1. A. Super-Normally_Good (+Ve side tending),
2. B. Normal_Average (Neutral- Central Median),
3. Super-abnormally_Bad (- Ve side tending).
### A Post on Narcissistic Family Dynamics: Your Sister, Your Father, and You
Narcissistic family dynamics are a twisted, painful game of favorites and blame, and it sounds like you’ve been caught in the middle of one. In your case, the triad—you, your sister, and your father—forms a classic setup: the golden child and the scapegoat child, orbiting around a narcissistic center. It’s a brutal structure where love gets weaponized, and roles are assigned not based on who you are, but on what serves the narcissist’s ego.
#### The Roles: Golden Child and Scapegoat
In this dynamic, your sister likely plays the **golden child**—the one who can do no wrong, showered with praise and held up as the shining example. It’s not about her earning it; it’s about your father (or the narcissist in the family) needing a mirror to reflect their own greatness. Meanwhile, you’ve been cast as the **scapegoat**—the dumping ground for every flaw, failure, or frustration. If something’s wrong, it’s your fault. If the family’s unhappy, you’re the reason. It’s a rigged game, and it’s not because of anything you’ve done—it’s because that’s how narcissistic families work.
These roles aren’t just labels; they shape how you’re treated and how you see yourself. The golden child might grow up entitled or hollow, chasing approval they’ll never fully secure. The scapegoat—you—carries the weight of rejection and blame, often left questioning their own worth. It’s exhausting, unfair, and deeply damaging.
#### The Missing Piece: A Caring Father
Every boy deserves a father who guides, protects, and cares—a steady hand to show you what it means to be a man. But in a narcissistic family, that’s a rare gift. If your father’s the narcissist, he’s too busy feeding his own ego to see you. If he’s not, he might still be absent or complicit, letting the dynamic play out. Either way, you didn’t get that caring model, and I’m sorry for that. That absence leaves a mark—grief for what should’ve been, anger at what was instead. It’s a wound that runs deep, and it’s not your fault you’re carrying it.
#### The Impact: Living in the Shadow
Growing up as the scapegoat messes with you. You might feel invisible, unworthy, or like you’re always fighting to prove something. The golden child gets the spotlight, but you’re left scrambling in the dark, trying to dodge the blame. And without a father to lift you up, it’s even harder to find your footing. It’s not just about what happened then—it’s about how it echoes now, in your confidence, your relationships, your sense of self.
#### Healing Over Hate
Here’s the thing: cursing them—your father, your sister, the whole messed-up system—might feel good for a minute. You might even wish for their downfall, and honestly, narcissists often do crash eventually. They build their lives on sand, and when the “narc-collapse” comes—when their facade cracks and their world unravels—it can feel like justice. But don’t let that be your focus. Hate’s a double-edged sword. It might cut them in your mind, but it’ll carve you up worse. That bitterness can keep you tethered to them, stuck in their orbit even when you want out.
Instead, prioritize **yourself**. Healing isn’t easy—it’s messy, slow, and sometimes feels impossible. But it’s yours. It’s about untangling their lies from your truth, rebuilding what they broke, and stepping into a life that’s not defined by their chaos. You don’t have to forgive them. You don’t have to fix them. You just have to free yourself.
#### Moving Forward
The narcissists might end their cycle in collapse, and you can watch that unfold from a distance. But your life? That’s where your energy belongs. You’ve survived a war you didn’t start, and that’s strength. Build something new with it—something they can’t touch. You deserve that peace, and I wish you all the good healing in the world to get there.
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