Parallels between Your private House & Our public Houses of Parliament.

Ballet Dance, Ballot Process or EVMs are tools for Humans.. both that can be fooled.. can lead to exchange of Bullets or induction of Bullies.

like how men can be fooled by Narc Spouses-families..  Voters can be fooled  by Narc-politicians and parties, 

One solution is in making *Processes not only FOOL-proof but also FOOLing-Proof*… Here is a Method We Deviced where 3 steps You/We can choose the right candidates or dates for Electoral partnership & Marital partnership.

S243: “InDiA_Method”of S’election & Decisive_Decisions:  Q1. How to Choose the Right Person for the Right Placement?

Safe Ballots & Safer Ballet: Parallels in Selection

Posted by G.R. Prasadh Gajendran, February 26, 2025

The processes of selecting a spouse and choosing a parliamentary candidate share profound similarities, both requiring meticulous discernment to ensure harmony and integrity. Just as ballet demands precision and grace to captivate an audience, ballots—whether cast through Electronic Voting Machines (EVMs) or paper—require robust systems to reflect the true will of the people. Both ballet and ballots, however, are vulnerable to manipulation. Narcissistic politicians can mislead voters, just as deceptive partners can fool individuals in personal relationships, leading to what we term “errorism”—a cycle of flawed decisions that breeds corruption in public institutions and discord in private homes. Such errors can escalate into conflict (“bullets”) or embolden manipulators (“bullies”). To counter this, we propose a three-step method for selecting candidates for both electoral and marital partnerships, designed to be fool-proof and resistant to deception, drawing on India’s rich traditions of spouse selection as a model for electoral reform.

The Indian Method of Spouse Selection

In India, spouse selection, particularly in arranged marriages, is a deeply rooted cultural practice that emphasizes compatibility, family harmony, and long-term stability. Historically, marriages were arranged by families, with little input from the prospective couple, prioritizing social, economic, and cultural alignment over romantic love. Key criteria include:

1. Family Background and Compatibility: The family’s social status, caste, religion, and cultural practices are paramount. Parents assess the prospective spouse’s family for shared values, language, and traditions, believing that a union of families is as crucial as the union of individuals.
2. Horoscope Matching: Many Hindu families consult astrologers to ensure compatibility between the couple’s horoscopes, predicting health, happiness, financial success, and progeny. This practice reflects a belief in predestined compatibility.
3. Education and Profession: Educational attainment and occupational stability, especially for men, are critical. Government jobs are often preferred for their security, while women’s education and professional status are increasingly valued in urban areas.

Modernization has introduced flexibility, with “semi-arranged” marriages gaining popularity. In these, families shortlist candidates, but the couple meets, interacts, and consents before finalizing the union, blending tradition with individual choice. Online matrimonial platforms like Shaadi.com have further modernized this process, allowing broader searches while maintaining traditional criteria like caste and religion. Despite these changes, the focus remains on ensuring long-term compatibility and family stability, with low divorce rates often attributed to this careful selection process.

Applying the Three-Step Method to Electoral and Marital Selection

Drawing on India’s spouse selection principles, we propose a three-step method to ensure robust, transparent, and deception-resistant selection for both parliamentary candidates and spouses:

1. Screening for Core Compatibility

• Marital: Families evaluate candidates based on shared values, cultural alignment, and long-term goals, often using Biodata, biography horroroscopes( and family reputation as initial filters.
• Electoral: Voters and parties should screen candidates for alignment with societal values, integrity, and a proven track record of public service. Background checks, including financial transparency and past performance, can serve as the electoral equivalent of horoscope matching, ensuring candidates are suited for leadership.

1. Engagement and Assessment

• Marital: In semi-arranged marriages, couples meet in chaperoned settings to assess compatibility through conversations and shared activities, ensuring mutual consent.
• Electoral: Candidates should engage with constituents through transparent forums, debates, and public records of their positions. This mirrors the modern Indian practice of allowing couples to interact, giving voters a chance to evaluate candidates’ competence and authenticity before casting ballots.

1. Validation and Commitment

• Marital: Families finalize the match after mutual consent, often with rituals like engagement ceremonies, cementing the union with societal approval.
• Electoral: Independent oversight bodies should validate candidates’ credentials and campaign promises, ensuring accountability. A formalized vetting process, akin to familial approval, can prevent manipulative or unqualified candidates from advancing.

Why It Matters

Flawed selection processes—whether in marriage or elections—lead to systemic failures. In India, where arranged marriages boast lower divorce rates due to rigorous vetting, applying similar principles to electoral selection could reduce corruption and enhance governance. By prioritizing transparency, accountability, and compatibility, this three-step method ensures that both personal and public partnerships are built on trust and shared goals. Just as ballet requires disciplined practice to avoid missteps, ballots demand disciplined processes to prevent manipulation, fostering a society free from the chaos of deceit and poor judgment.