S713: How Mothers can Build or Destroy their Daughters’ life? (also of Son In Law, Grandchild and others lives too). GRP+A.I Aided.

Dedicated to both kinds of Mothers of the World. Diversity in Maternity (Motherhood) & DivorceCity in Matronity (Grandmotherhood).

Content:

1. Mothers who DESTROY by Interference. (Narc_MILs & their Puppet Daughters / Sons /Daughsons /Sonters).
2. Mothers who BUILD by Interventions. (Empath_MILs & their Proper Daughters/Sons).

Sanskrit & Tamil Sayings: Matru devo Bhava, Pitru Devo Bhava & Acharya Devo Bhava. (Sanskrit)

Matha, Pitha, Guru, Daivam.(Tamizh)

Q: What’s reason Mother is placed first in this adage even before father or teachers or even god?

A: Its due to the importance of Mothers Role & Responsibility in not only a child’s but also both family’s life. What Happens to a Nation’s Borders, Farms & Industry may depend more on the masculinity(Yin) of the Citizens & what happens to a nation’s Homes, Streets & ancestry may depend more on the feminity(Yang) of Citizens.

a mother has an upper hand over others as primary birther & caregiver, if they use under hand techniques it can make matrilineal advantage as MadTrivial disadvantages for father & other relatives.A

Fathers Role in Child life listed here..(A.I Aided Writing) https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2025/02/07/s715-how-fathers-can-build-or-destroy-their-sons-life-along-with-daughter-in-law-grandchild-others/

Gender Influence Ratio if unbalanced at a place or in families it will lead to Deviances eg.. Femolic_Kerala & Maleolic_Haryana.

ABs Vs CDs (Adroit-Blessed_Brides Vs Corrupt-Damned_Damsels) one Helps Families to Thrive & other Hurts families to Threat.

Blessed_Brides Build Families  While Damned_Damsels Destroy Families.. How to identify is the marital problem?..

An Ode to Odd Mothers & Code to Cool Mothers. (Bio-Logical Verses).

A Mother is a child’s first touch,

before they were wrigling in a father’s pouch.

a zygote is first created in games of gametes,

its a dot, got at the arena of womb & by test of testes,

naturally after genus meets venus.

consequently a child forms as a fetus,

like every coin has two sides,

every society has two brides,

ones the heads that helped braid, bread, breed & brood.

ones the tails that helled brash, break, greed & bleed.

Ones that take their lives troth professional, marital & parental roles adrotily.

Ones that fake as wives in professional, familial or detrimental roles secretly.

its not a child but Society that is born by wider hips of one gender,

and its the future that is borne by wider shoulders of other  gender,

Odd mothers are like Kaikesi or Kaikeyi that lead to Existing of Ravana or Exiling of Rama.

Cool Mothers are like KUNTI & SuMitra that lead to Reforms of Pandavas or Resolves of Lakshmana.

This is an Ode to Odd Mothers let there be less deviated,

this also is the Code to Cool Mothers let they be more emulated.

An Odd mother though provides she isolates & divides. Two-Faced.

A Cool mother though nurtures she integrates & delights. True-Faced.

Ack: Created below with help of Meta A.I.

Narcissistic mothers may employ various tactics to destroy their daughter’s married life, often subtly or covertly. Here are some common methods:

Interfering in the Marriage

1. Constant criticism of the son-in-law: Finding fault in the husband’s behavior, appearance, or accomplishments.
2. Meddling in marital decisions: Inserting herself into the couple’s decision-making process, often causing tension.
3. Creating conflict: Stirring up arguments or disagreements between the couple. Usually Speaking and controlling Daughters 5Ms = Mind, Movement, Masks, Money, Morals and Marriage.

Undermining the Daughter’s Relationship

1. Gaslighting: Denying or distorting reality to make the daughter doubt her husband’s intentions or behavior.
2. Emotional manipulation: Using emotional distress or self-pity to control the daughter’s perceptions of her husband.
3. Triangulation: Inserting herself into the couple’s relationship, creating a sense of loyalty conflict.

Causing Financial Stress

1. Financial dependence: Encouraging the daughter to rely on her financially or Vice-Versa (Pun Intented) and not integrate finances with Spouse, creating tension in the marriage & Marital House. Taking Daughters Money & Resources for own family use instead of her marital home.
2. Financial manipulation: Using money as a means of control or leverage, causing financial stress in the marriage.
3. Financial criticism: Criticizing the couple’s financial decisions or management.

Creating Emotional Distance

1. Playing the victim: Portraying herself as a victim to garner sympathy and attention from the daughter.
2. Guilt-tripping: Making the daughter feel guilty for prioritizing her marriage over her relationship with her mother.
3. Emotional blackmail: Using emotional distress or self-pity to control the daughter’s emotions and actions.

Destroying the Daughter’s Self-Esteem

1. Constant criticism: Finding fault in the daughter’s behavior, appearance, or accomplishments.
2. Belittling: Minimizing the daughter’s achievements or opinions.
3. Comparison: Comparing the daughter unfavorably to others.

Impact on the Daughter’s Marriage

1. Marital tension: The daughter’s relationship with her mother can create tension and conflict in the marriage.
2. Emotional distress: The daughter may feel anxious, stressed, or depressed due to her mother’s behavior.
3. Difficulty setting boundaries: The daughter may struggle to establish and maintain healthy boundaries with her mother.

It’s essential for the daughter to recognize these destructive behaviors and develop strategies to protect her marriage and maintain her emotional well-being.

More# of Victims of Reverse Genders Abuse in India..

Here’s an updated version of the text with information on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS):

Empathic Mothers: Building a Strong Foundation

Empathic mothers play a vital role in fostering a positive and supportive relationship with their daughters and sons-in-law. By employing empathic strategies, mothers can help build a strong foundation for their daughters’ married lives.

Encouraging Open Communication

Empathic mothers:

Create a safe space for open and honest communication

Listen actively to their daughters’ concerns and feelings

Validate their emotions, avoiding judgment or criticism

Fostering Emotional Intelligence

Empathic mothers:

Model healthy emotional expression and regulation

Teach their daughters to recognize, understand, and manage their emotions

Encourage empathy and compassion towards others

Supporting Boundaries

Empathic mothers:

Respect their daughters’ boundaries and individuality

Encourage their daughters to establish and maintain healthy boundaries

Avoid overstepping or controlling behavior

Promoting Independence

Empathic mothers:

Encourage their daughters to develop independence and autonomy

Support their daughters’ decision-making processes

Foster a sense of self-reliance and confidence

Nurturing a Positive Relationship

Empathic mothers:

Foster a positive and loving relationship with their daughters and sons-in-law

Show appreciation and gratitude towards their sons-in-law

Encourage teamwork and collaboration between their daughters and sons-in-law

Embracing Change and Growth

Empathic mothers:

Embrace changes and growth in their daughters’ lives

Support their daughters’ personal and professional development

Celebrate milestones and achievements

The Dangers of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

In contrast, some mothers may exhibit behaviors that can lead to Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). PAS occurs when one parent manipulates their child to reject the other parent, often resulting in significant emotional distress and long-term damage to the child’s relationships.

Signs of PAS

Some common signs of PAS include:

Constant criticism or belittling of the other parent

Encouraging the child to reject or distrust the other parent

Using the child as a messenger or spy

Making false accusations against the other parent

Limiting or restricting contact between the child and the other parent

Consequences of PAS

The consequences of PAS can be severe and long-lasting, including:

Emotional distress and anxiety

Damage to the child’s relationships with both parents

Increased risk of depression, substance abuse, and other mental health issues

Difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships in adulthood

Prevention and Intervention

Preventing and intervening in PAS requires a comprehensive approach, including:

Education and awareness about PAS and its signs

Encouraging healthy communication and co-parenting practices

Providing support and resources for families affected by PAS

Encouraging empathy and understanding between parents and children

By recognizing the signs of PAS and taking steps to prevent and intervene, mothers can help protect their children from the damaging effects of parental alienation.

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