For Empathic Individuals Families ideas of Adoption is Ancient, As seen in epics of Egyptian Moses or Indian Krishna, Karna & Sita. Adoptions have been common, casual or formal. But never even in modern times has it been studied, researched or theorized until later. eg. there is been Kamasutra or sex Manuals but not GodhSutra/ DuthSutra or Adoption manual due to which public is unaware of existing scientific studies and misinformed by Movies or Fictional Literature.
Topics of Parenting, Family, Marriage, Sex, Infertility, Artificial Insemination, progeny & “Adoption” needs Gender Sensibilities, Familial Responsibilities, Sexual Sensitivities, Marital reproductivity, Adoptional capabilities & Genealogical capacities’ understanding. Due to modern high radiation and pollution lifestyle Infertility and atomic single parent families and famililal insecurities & uncertainties are increasing.
Given the importance But there is less popular literature to help Adopters and adoptees to help in the adoption process. there are some dos and donts that are critical for safer-adoptions.
This post is to inform and help Empaths to make right adoptive choices & be protected from brooding over Narc Cuckoos Offspring into families.
Adoptions have their hidden cost & unknown risks. as Hereditary and genetic medical history of the Childs parents maynot be know. So Personality Disorder, AIDS and other genetic or neonatal diseases maybe in the child, which may manifest after adolescence & during reproduction.
Adoptions Risks can be reduced by better Intelligence, Due Diligence & Later Surveillance.
Do’s of Safer Adoption.
- If there is a way that Socio_Medical legal history of both parentage & gestational period is known then childs genetics can be known. eg if patents have criminal tendencies or ethical behaviours.
- Gestation(9months) & Neo-Natal Period(3years) care of child growth is very important for child as per the child attachment theory. make sure it is given due care without bring an unwanted and malnourushed or neglected abused parent or child. as it impacts childs nature.
- Have important due diligence of the primary caregivers or grandparents too. and know reason for child bring given away and abandoned by biological parent. Reasons can be many as below..
- 1. unplanned & Illegitimate child out of marriage or extramarital affair or prostitution/rape or incest sexual abuse or human trafficking .. etc
- 2. Born to an legally underage mother or one or both unsound mind parent.
- 3. Child observed with birth defects.. like albinoism, Transgenderism, blind, mute, downs syndrome.. etc
- Parent or child with Seen or unseen Disorders or diseases.
8. See biological parents & family character traits and also the capacity & character of the adoptive family for welfare of child.
9. Adoptive family also can be abusive eg. Lesbian or gay couples adopting child and abusing them later..
10. Safest Adoption, Do see if parents are in a legal & non-incestous marital relation with caring upbringing where Financial constraints or Multiple gender children eg many girls or boy child in low economic family hence giving for adoption.
11. Take all legal pathways for adoption for own and societal safety.
12. Adoption or Step parenting of Children from previous marriage in Second marriages (maybe due to divorce, desertion or death).
Donts of Adoption:
- Don’t assume all Children or all adoptive families are safe for adoption or families & society. there is a spectrum from safe to unsafe & highly risky.
- Don’t Adopt if parentage and initial care of the child has been done under trafficking or illegal conditions.
- Don’t buy or purchase child as it involves child trafficking.
Acknowledgements: I have close first hand information of adoption as born in a medical family of an Obstretician. Know of 3 generations of adoption since 1950s to (2010)… And 3 varieties of adoption from known Safe, known unsafe to unknown risky (there is no unknown-safe). my experience is with 6+ adoptees & adoptive families (identity safeguarded). these are deep personal observations and it can have some biases but ultimate intention is to share information for interest and welfare of individuals & society. so kindly do evaluate and do own further research to find more information on adoption safety protocols.
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