3 Types of Parenting & Partnering Styles: Cat, Cuckoo and Dogs Parenting & Partnering Styles.
Diff of Nuclear and Molecular Families? Cat-Mindset & Feline-Familyset vs the Dog-Mindset & Canine_Familyset. FelineVsCanine. CatsVsDogs, Billi Aur Kuttha. Free-radicals Vs Free-Rationals.
#Parenting_Styles_Spectrum.
Why Radicalized Crimes, Dysfunctional family & broken_childhood Rates are increasing? How to reduce them and create more Happy, Harmonic and Integrated Members, Families, Communities & Societies? Family Sub-Atomization of Nuclear families Vs Integrative_Molecularization of Nuclear families.
We at the 4G’s Family had a group Discussion on what are the top 3 Basic factors in Parenting and Family.. (Btw this was an after effect as yesterday we watched a movie called Varisu/Successor). The War for a befitting Varisu by Vijay(Tamizh Movie).
We came up with 3 Factors as the “CAT Parenting Triad.”
Keywords; Nuclear-family & Sub-Atomic_Family, Electronic/String family.. Vs Molecular and Latticed family.
Parenting styles can be Catly or Dogly? What do you see more Caty or Dogy parents in society. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/23/s257-parenting-triad-most-important-tri-factors/
CAT Parenting style (for Nuclear Isolated Families) vs DOG Parenting style (For Joint/ Semi-joint Integrated Families) what’s your required style?
The top 3 Factors we see in a happy parent-child relation and intergenerational family-making are..
1. Care: To care for the child & family member by BiParental-care, medi-care, emotional-care, resource-care.. etc. Most current parenting is limited to providing money to school, daycare or nannies giving indirect care where the locality and parental bonding is built towards third party and hence we see emotionally depressed kids. Less-Direct BiParental Cared kids become CareLess Teens and Dysfunctional Adults in Later Life.
2. Attention: To attend to the needs and give attention (focused dedicated quality time at frequent intervals) to the child and family members. Money can buy Indirect-Care, but BiParental-Attention is irreplaceable and invaluable.
3. Timed-Teaching. To nurture our children with knowledge and train the child by awareness, right culture and values.. most current parents are able to give Indirect-Care (through non-parents) and Delegated-Attention (through nannies and Technology supervision and parental control) but seldom can parental-teaching be replaced by the best teacher in the world. BiParental-Teaching(Both Bio-Socio Parents) is the most important input a child can get in its healthy upbringing and making for an upright life.
Bonus share is other factor like CATL (Care,Attention,Teaching & Love).
The difference between cats and dogs are.. the Felines(Cat-Lions Pride) and the Canines(Dog-Wolfs Pack).
1. Cats, CAT-family & Cat-Societies are more secretive, more individualistic, independent or non-collective, less bigger familial or un-social and neo-philic (attracted to new things like curious & highly explorative & experimentative). May be posted near ultraliberal on the political-compass spectrum.
Hence parenting style required is for nuclear isolated families where very few isolative care-takers and care-givers and the focus is on power polarization and accumulation, survival and individuality. One parent or grandparent is or are the authoritarian and breeds co-dependency between the parent and child without any other social or extended familial influence.
CAT-parenting creates more Electron-ic-family (orphaned or single parented) & Nuclear-family I.e money-oriented and less Intergenerational Molecular-families.
MORE Outcomes and results of more ultra-catty CAT-parenting is more Individualistic-individuals & Isolative-groups, individually excelling, elite & exclusive-mindsets, more emotional factoring (operative negative emotions are higher fear, anger distrust & hate) of presumptions, Suspicions, bias, assumptions and superstitions, Polarization with less rationality (Black n White thinking) & Narcification of children and teens, socially-irresponsible, highly-supremacistic, Toxic_Competitive & less Collaborative/Cooperative, high risk taking, uncaring for public consensus or defences. My way or the highway kind of personalities and cultic groups or systems.
2. Dogs, Dog-families & Dog-societies are more social inter connected, open, collectivistic, inter-dependent on the pack are more conservative and neo-phobhic, maybe close to the Conservative traditional side of the spectrum.
More integrated & loyal to the family pack and family traditions and practices.
Hence parenting style required is for non-nuclear joint integrated and intergenerational families where there are more integrated care-takers and care-givers and the focus is on empowerment sharing and distribution, survival+ thrival collaboration and collectivity is encouraged. Both side of parents or grandparents and relatives are supportive and breeds more inter-dependency between the parenya and children with more engagement with other social or extended familial influences.
DOG Parenting involves. Diversity-distribution, Opportunity and Groomping.(Grooming+Grouping).
1. Diversity in family with both contributions of balanced integration of Feminine energies from mother and maternal relatives side (Nurturing & Nourishing) & Masculine energies from father and paternal relatives side (Providing and Protecting).
2. Opportunity Giving-Sharing: This style gives opportunity of relational loyalty to the parents, grandparents & larger family and not only to the controlling individuals or ideologies like in cat parenting.
3. Grouping: there is more happiness in groups collective excellence is encouraged. The individuals are less self-centered or selfish about my god, my religion, my ideology etc. And more group-oriented having the collective mindset of our family, homes, our people, our nation, our world..etc..
More DOG-Parenting creates more Intergenerational families and less nuclear and atomic-families. These families and members are more Group Harmony oriented and less individual money oriented.
MORE Outcomes and results of more ultra-doggy DOG-parenting is more Socialistic-individuals & Integrative_groups, collectivelly excelling, teamic & inclusive-mindsets, Empathification of children & teens (with emotional factors of gratitude, respect, love, affection, care & sharing), more rational-outlook with scientific and civic patriotic temper, socially-Responsive & responsible highly-Collaborative Egalitarian-Healthy Competition & less –Dominative or supremacistic toxic-competitions, calculated and informed risk taking, more caring for public consensus or defences. OUR way and the higher purpose evolved-way kind of personalities and culturic groups or systems. As more people engaged more trusting, trustable and trustworthy truths-based (not lies-biased) minds, individuals, networks & organisNations can be created.
An example of Dog-Parenting Father Abraham-Lincoln.
Disclaimer and Note: This post is a creative expression of the observation of parenting style spectrum, human beings are an outcome of the existent mammal animalistic parenting I.e to say parenting is not exclusive to human our earlier species like Primates, Cats and Dogs had evolved it millions of years ago. And Other parenting styles of mammals Chimps-family and Elephant-family also of Whales and smaller fauna can be explored for analogies and inspirations for parenting.
These two are more popular and simple to understand.
Conclusion: It maybe observed how an individuals life and mindset is shapes by the parenting styles they are exposed too. This is also an opportunity for parents to see which parenting style they are applying to thier kids is it the CAT or the DOG Parenting style..Ideal is that parents, guardians and grandparents engage in the Cat’s style of parenting in the initial 5 to 6 years and move to the DOG Parenting style as it is said ” It takes a village to raise a healthy kid.” A marital red flag for new family creation is when one spouse is a cat-parented/mindseted bride or groom marrying a dog-parented/Mindset spouse. This leads to parenting conflicts, more dysfunctional- broken families, and maladaptive children with Parental Alienation Syndrome(one of root of misgendery or hate towards one gender usually targetted and later the targetive-abusive parent). Beware of psuedo-Cat/Dog families who may intially project as the other during intial courtships this can lead to later Court-shops by Depression-medications & Oppressive-litigations.
More Indian families were DOG-Parented until 1950s and 80s (Indian Marital System 1.0 to 2.0). Now since 30years 90s more trends are towards CAT-Parenting (Indian Maritals 3.0+) which is copying the Non-Indian colonial Euro-AmericanSystems this risks are also being copied as seen below.
Some Solutions for Caty Parents:
Acknowledgements: I dedicate this blog to all four of my Godly and Molecular Grandparents who used the DOGly parenting & Grandparenting styles. Which lead to my MaPa(Dad-Mom) to exhibit the More DOG-parenting style as they are trusting and open with troth side (Maternal, Pattern and Professional) of my circles.. I have got lot of love and care (also risks, threats & betrayals) from my parents, family, relatives, friends and community). I am grateful to all the great elders who have made me who I am today.
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Risks of Caty parenting: the mind voice is This is MY-child I will do whatever I want with him..nobody has any rights to tell me what to do. I am the best parent in the world whatever anyone tells “I DONT CARE” so does my Child.. because he/she is Me only.
1. Effect of Family-Nuclearization/Polarisation/Radicalization in Australia: https://www.news.com.au/world/asia/depraved-aussie-child-predator-smiles-as-he-gets-life/news-story/e93f97493efb1c8ec09e9872405f7b63.
2. More Divided Atomic & Nuclear_families more commercial childcare high risk to child abuses, more Integrated Molecular_families more Intergenerational grandparental-chilcare less risk of Child-Abuses. Need for Family-Molecularization.
Perception shapes Reality.
We me – j
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There is no such thing as reality. There are only perceptions which shape our individual reality.
Here is a simple example.
If we write down the letter ‘W’.
We will probably only see the letter ‘W’, because of the angle at which we are looking at it.
If we turn it upside down, we will suddenly see the letter, ‘M’;
If we look from the right side, it appears as the number, ‘3’,
and looking at it from the left side, we see the letter, ‘E’.
Just because someone else has a perception which shapes their reality is different from our perception, does not make them wrong or us right.
If one accepts that everyone has their own perspective and reality, we will not only be tolerant but more respectful of others. This in turn will help us achieve success and realise happiness.
I am grateful to my friend Bahram Shahmardaan, for this lesson.
Extracted from my proposed book: ‘Achieving Success and Realising Happiness’
Written and posted : July 2023: Gurvinder Singh
I queried in my alumni group thus..
I understand this Perception shapes Reality..
We have a deeper query next..
*Then what Shapes Perception?*
Answer for this by M-ji was Subconscious mind.
BOK short for https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_of_knowledge
I think if Conscious Mind is the RAM.. Subconscious Mind maybe something like the ROM in the Background.
And this ROM is scripted by hard coded Genetics and SoftCoded memetics..
Both scripting of Genetics and Memetics of our childhood is done my our parents and families.. hence i see our roots biological and ideological are from our education at home and schools.
As I see it our collective Reality = Perceptions encoded in our Brains and Physicality by Nature (Parental-Genes)+Nurture (Familial/Educational_Memes)+Flexure (GeoPoliticoSocial_Games).
Like in physics the Reality is the Summation of Work Done= Force × Displacement and Force= Mass × Acceleration. This Work of Reality = Mass (of Nature) × Acceleration (of Nurture) × Distance (Flexure).
Thoughtings (Dynamic-Structures) = Forms (Natures) + Forces (Nurtures) + Transformations (Flexures).
An Analogy to it is the reality of Car Journey.
CarJourney(In Reality) Is a Function of the make of the Car/fuel (Nature) and motivation of the Driver/A.I+Passengers (Nurture) and matter of the Path (Flexure).
More explorations on this line here..
https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/23/s257-parenting-triad-most-important-tri-factors/
There is a Sanskrit Saying.. Repeated in India.. I wish people to rethink about it. Hence in the form of Fill in the Blanks. Do share ur ideas.
1. _ _ A _ _gam Purusha Lakshanam, __B__ is a good quality of men.
2. _ _ C _ _gam Mahila Lakshanam. ___D__is a good quality of women.
3. _ _ _E _ _gam NarNari Lakshanam. __F____is a good quality of a Transgenders.
4. __G_ Manushya Lakshanam. ___H___ is sign of Humans.
Which Parenting Stereotypes these above ideas into your psyche your answers will depend on the geneology, idealogy and morphoflowgy.
1. For Fathers Day. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/06/18/s308-ideal-indian-fatherhood/
2. For Mothers day. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/08/s132-how-many-kinds-of-mothers-are-in-mankind-memorable-happy-mothers-day-2022/
3. 5 Stages Of Women: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/03/08/s109-the-5-stages-of-a-w-o-m-e-ns-life/
4. The Neo-Narcification: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/30/s262-who-are-the-narczis-and-how-world-war-3-0-is-happening-under-our-noses/
5. Preventing Narcification with Hithashala https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/07/15/nep-school-reforms-by-prjct-hithashala/
A Cuckoo-Parenting is leaving or abondoning the young underaged child under the care of a non-parent/relative and leaving them in schools or creche for keeping their bi-parental caretime as low priority.
Cuckoo-Mindset Spouse & Parents: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/05/30/s59-the-cuckoos-2-secrets-exposed-with-human-links-enjoy-enjaami/
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