S255: Well_Informed Decisions = More_Safety &  Ill_Informed Decisions = More_Risks. #4Ms for Safer-Life.

#Medical-Science_NeglectRisks #Alternate-Therapy_Threats.

UnInformed-LifeDecisions_Risks Vs Well-Informed LifeDecisions_Benefits.

I dedicate this blog-post in the memory of a soul-sister Meghala Akka, a Toastmaster, a Tamizhichi, a Grouper (a collaborator in Sharing-Jobs Group), a good_giver & a superb-soul. Today morning (19-Jan 23 8am) we got the sad news of her sudden demise at an young age(near 40), it disturbed me emotionally and I am expressing my grief here in this post with moist eyes and sad feelings (Known her since 2017 as an Office-Bearer (Vice-President) from Dhwani Toastmasters club @ JP Nagar, Bengaluru city in India). Hope to share in this written tributes; about her presence, her attributes and positive influence that she was to me & us as a community.

I mourn the loss of My sister and many like her, I have suffered loss of men, material and morale due to my own and many times others Ill-informed, Ill-Presumed life- decisions. I aim to change this for Well-informed choices & decision making protocols in life for global welfare.

Tamasoma Jyothirgamaya (Sanskrit from Darkness to Light.. Mark of Gurutva Guru+Tatva), From Bias to Basis, Higher Objective is to move From Materiality to Morality through Right Methodality. From Entrapment of Illness to Empowerment of Wellness.

Life can get dark & Cloudy at stormy times, this is when we can reach out to the crowd-source and can be more equipped to make clearer health & Life-decisions. #Tool for making Better Life-Decisions. #MeghamJeevaPragnyam.(Cloud-LifeSense).

She connected us in a Parents Network group(Source of my news and other fellow members’ Homages to her), she got us to a health awareness session she organized at her home with Indic-herbs and native millets and cereals in 2018, we benefitted from her Tamizh Siddha networks & knowledge sharing, she served us Mulakathan Kerai(Siddha-Herb) Soup. We also picked up the herbs roots from the neighborhood, she had swollen feets that week but she hosted us all(about 30 Members) well like a true Host-master. From then onwards we(my Home) started eating varities of red rices (Rajamudi, mapilla Samba, Red Boiled rice.. etc)  at home instead of plain white polished (high calorific_low fibered) rice. THIS SESSION BENEFITTED ME AND MY FAMILY A GREAT DEAL FOR HEALTH & Wellness. She had a unique high pitch voice, a good sense of humor and a giggley unforgettable laugh that spread through the room and still remains in our memories now.

I am happy with her sisterliness, I tried to reflect & understand what did I/She/we missed out on that may have prevented this eventuality and helped her and her family away from such decision dependent life-risks.

We got the below message as reference forwarded in group  “She was not able to take any food for the past few days and was hospitalized. In Apollo Greams Road Hospital, they advised to dialysis but ‘she did not agree (Patient’s Right to Consent-Italic is authors Interpreting an inner-voice) because of the fact it would be painful.’ Later she was taken to the Tamilnadu Multispeciality Hospital(Chennai) where gradually her hemoglobin went down and then water accumulation happened on her lungs , that led to an organ failure taking her off from all of us!!!!.”

I feel sorry for her, hubby, kids and family, I am sure they have done their best to save her life. They way we as parent group-friends feel the Loss of a sister.. says a lot about her values and care towards her kid, family & relatives.

We had spoken once about creation of  Jobs msgs group like one below she had created for freshers. She was an ever empathic model friendly person and grouper friend.

https://t.me/JOYNgroup

There may be a regret in this situation as:  what if she had taken an alternate decision to agree/comply and go with the Medical-advise of Dialysis, could her life pathway been different, could her life and her presence have been better? I feel this may need to be expressed and make people aware of alt-consequences of our well-informed consent and choosing at crossroads to paths of life.

Presenting here Voila!! the “Meghala-Matrix Model” for Choosing, Living, Giving & Thriving a better or Good_Life.

An Understanding with ways of better-decision making methods

In our life we are always in every moment at crossroads and the decisions we make at those crossroads or circles of decisions can affect us and the whole world around us.

There are few paths which have good roads and with U-Turns and few major Junctions or crossroads which can change the direction of our lives majorly.

What are the yopmost critical life-decision cross-roads where we have to make well informed decisions not only for our sake but on behalf of ourselves families, communities and the world.. these personal-private decisions have a major cascading impacts for our family and society. What are the major decisions we choose to take in life..??

They are the “4-Ms that matter for a Good Life“.

1. MORALITY (Schools/Spirtuality) of Society and Us.

2. MEDICALITY (Hospitals) of Society and Us.

3. MARITALITY (Residential_Beds) + MARTIALITY (National_Borders) of society.

4. METHODALITY (Minds & Thinking) used by individuals and collective to achieve their needs by noble-deeds & without greeds.

1. Our Morality (Spiritual-Religion-Intellectual-Ideology-Cult) Family-Community ethics and Religio-social commitments. Our Profession and Industry for right livelihood. Our Rationalism, Patriotism, Politics, Communalism, Casteism, Discriminations, Religionsism.. all-isms, our ways of life, nations and world depends on this critical-M. The Dharma or the Dutifulness. Our Spiritual_Social Health, Wealth and Stealth depends on the quality of decisions of morality.

2. Our Medicality (DailyCare, Health, MediCare, Modalities, Work, Food Security, Insurance, Family support, Health System Awareness, misguidance of Psuedo-Scientific alternative med-systems vs True-guidance of rational medical systems and the genuine Health and wellness Network, access to right information, places & our Finances.. etc.. Our and family Health wholly depends on this factor around us of medicality.

3. Our Maritality. (legal marital status,(Single, Unmarried, Monkhood, committed, married Seperated(legal,illegal), Divorced, Widowed) Our Romantic, Dates, Spouse, Divorce, Affairs,.. etc). A relationship with the right ethical mate-partner can make a hell of a life converted to heaven like an angelic, whereas a wrong relationship-decision can bring in trouble make a heaven of a life to hell by demonic-spouse or Inlaws aided by unethical socio-legal systems that dont support but create more hellishness in Maritality. This is more so in India with British-colonialic marital laws and systems.

4. The most important of the M.. which defines all the above Ms.. is the Methodality.. This is the power of Discretion to arrive at the right-decision, healthy-better-decision methods.

How do we choose our Morality, Medicality and Maritality depends on the Methodality we operate with. The decision making model especially for big life-decisions that can cost or benefit us a life time of value.

When taking any life decision it’s better to take personally or with power of authority given to a trusted-nominee a second advise or third opinion with the right sources and experienced-experts in that field. There may be coercion, hurrying or suppression by a bad faith Actors(3Ms) who maybe in conflict of interest(Direct/Indirect) with your decision. Eg.. beneficiaries of your decision in their favour. This is why a consultation_review of your Situations, choices and decision options with trusted-group is very important in the decision making process. Which can help you take Informed and Rationalized Decisions. Which one may not be in a capacity to take at a moment of stress or ill health. This is when the Attenders, Wellwishers or experts in that areas need to give their honest unbiased inputs that can help the situation and life.

We unknown to our conscious mind many methodalities, the way we decide to sit in a room, the persons we speak with or ignore, all acts they may be Based or biased on certain patterns or facts which may create for us a project impact.

The issue where I see what is lacking is the methods to get to the right valid-facts, that can set out acts/Life-Decisions into right paths and bring right impacts in life.

I dont know Its too late I could make Sister Meghala more equipped to take more better life decisions.. but I wish good health to other sisters and brothers who may benefit to have better Methodalities in life-decisions, it can make a very huge difference in our and others lives.

There are 3-Methodalities I have come across and sharing below for your use..

1. The InDIA-Method of Selecting. (Linked) Note, Vote, Date, Mate & Fate Selection. Eg. Shiv-Parvathi’s way..

2. The ViVeKa Method of Actions.

3. The SAINTians Narc-Empath/ method. (Linked)

These 3 methods are to reduce the personal-biases (Irrationality+-veEmotionality) and improve the humaniversal_bases (Rationality+Ethics+veEmotionality).

Do note current Society, Political parties are leader (Person)centric.. eg (Three PM/CM Candidates)

& less or not manifesto (Purpose) centric.. (This is in the background)

This is what brings Personal-Toxic politics and not Missional-Positive politics.

Nation First(Destination) & Mission First(Journey), missionaries are coincidental.. (Not Christian or any Religious-ideological mission but a Social/Public mission for Public Welfare).

WiseElecters is proposing an alt model of politics to focus on mission and purpose. With less interference of personality biases.

I learnt many things from Sisters and brothers like Meghala (means Cloud in Indic-Language) whom I am indebted to, that’s why I feel the Morality in me to share the important life-lessons their lives as message conveyed me.

I and we as group pray for Megahala’s daughter, husband and family, may they get the strength to cope with this huge loss. It’s a loss for the communities she created and built. I’m a beneficiary of the associations and connections she built and nurtured. Here impact for other life shall live on as her legacy.

The impact of a person is less known when they are present, and most know when the are absent (especially-suddenly). Let us not take people for granted do keep inquiry into our close people’s health and wellbeing.

How are You today, Hope all is good, is your day going well..

Not jus superficial but really concerned please do reach out to empathic-others if in high stress or distress. People do need you in life and can come of some assistance in making and supporting life-decisions.

I am writing this in an emotional state of mind, so if there may be some logical or typo errors, if you find some that may be of any concern to her or her family kindly let me know I can change it.

Thanks- G.R Prasad.

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1. Your Child may be trapped in these 3 Ways, Beware. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/24/s142-3-traps-of-a-students_life-money-traps-honey-traps-winey-traps/

2. How to Co-Create Safe Environments of Excellence: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2020/11/22/the-10rd-pointers-for-co-creating-resourceful-groups/

3. Raksha Bandhan Vs Rakshasa Bandhan: 1 Unique RB Day Gift & Protection for all Indian Sisters & Brothers also redeemable by global Siblings: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/08/12/s183-an-open-letter-to-my-dear-indian-sisters-brothers-on-rakshabandhan-2022-remembering-a-sisters-love/

4. 60 Helplines in India: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/07/s241-top-50-indian-helplines-for-you/

5. About close Childhood_Friendships. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/02/04/s49-my-friend-simon-our-30-years-of-friendship/

6. About InDiA Selection Model: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2023/01/08/s243-india-3step-method-for-candidate-selection-how-to-choose-the-right-person-for-the-right-placement/

7. About genuine group-sourced Healthy Place.

Judicial Thinking and Temperament advances our collective just life.