Why more modern Indian marriages are getting riskier & weaker now ?? (@2015-23) (Higher & Increasing Divorce Rates, Desertions, Alienation, Fake-Marital cases, Alimony_extortion legal-abuse, Abandonments, Breakup-Dates, Marital-Suicide/Homicide Fates in India & World) compared to previous generations (1950-80s or even 80-90s Born). How to create Socially Safer+Strong+Successful Marriages? (Surakshit, Shaktit aur Saksham Kalyan).

This is causing high Social_Stress & Marital_Corruptions with Alienated, Abused & Narcified Children, Broken & Dysfunctional Families and communities. There is a Tri-Ratio between Happy: Neutral: Bad Marriages.

and the trend of Bad marriages are increasing by year on year as “Marital Costs : Risks: Trust Benefit Ratio” is destabilized with Marital Cost and Risk increasing while Trust & Benefit is Decreasing for Young_Marriers(Spouses) and OldMarital_Carriers (Parents,Family-Friends). assets are being lost and liabilities are added which is defeating marital-objectives to increase safety and solidarity in society(Through Marital-bond, duty & Responsibility while reducing liabilities, conflicts and eventualities.

Short Answer: Since Ancient India the book Kama_Sutra was published for physical Sex-education, but none even in modern India published or promoted the “Kalyana-Sutra for Marital/Familial-education“. Till this page. #Marital_Manuals_First before Sex_manuals. TEACH #SexualEthics/Logics first not #SexualAntics/Politics. Sex-education Vs Familial-Education.

Accumulated_Errors lead to unexpected_Terrors. & Verifying  Err-ers now lead to preventing Tear-ers in Future _GRP

Trivia Question: What Type of Marriage-category can you/we identify if in pop-culture for eg.. Gandhi-Kasturba, Shiva-Parvathi, Vishrava-Kaikesi(Ramayana) & other popular couples? Answers to be reasoned with datapoints and logic Below..

Marital-Myth#1.  There are 2 kinds of marriage “Love or Arranged marriage“.. are there only 2 kinds ???

Marital-Myth#2.  There are 2 kinds of marriage “InterGroup (EndoGamy) or IntraGroup (Exogamy)” eg Inter-Faith/Religion, Inter-language, Inter-Caste, etc .. are there only 2 kinds ???

It doesnt matter who finds the spouse or match for you (Self, Other-people or Proper Systems(SOP) what matters at the end of day/wedding is whether the marriage was of below 4 kinds or classes based on SOPs (Standard Operating Procedures of Maritals):

Class-1: Safest-Marriages I.e Fully Verified/Discretioned Marriage (Well-Based & Zero-Biased). 90-100% Tested 10-0% Assumed. High Basis :Bias Ratio. Safe for both parties & families. With full Marital-discretion & Familial Due-diligence.

Class_2: Semi-Verified/Partial Discretion. 50% Trustested, 50% Assumed. Basis to Bias ratio is near to 1. Unsafe & risky for 1 side.

Class 3. Bilaterally-Unverified, Zero Due Diligence, Zero Marital_Discretions, 100% Gambling/Discrimination, Lower Basis:Bias (Ascertained:Assumed) Ratio. Risky for both. Codependency_marriages. Higher chance of undue-influence & external manipulation.

Class 4. Psuedo_Marriages:  Zero Social, Familial, Personal or Progenial Concern.. Its manipulated fake-marriage only purely for Sexual or Financial/Fraud Needs of ulterior intent.. eg. Devadasi or Muta_marriage, eloped_Incestous_Adulterous, Live-in, Prostitution,  Open Polygamous,..etc Riskiest for child, partners and society as a whole.

1. Bilaterally Fully-Verified Marriage (Safer-Double Due Diligence), Analogy is Driving car with Both Headlights in good condition also with fog lamps. (Its Fool-proof/ MistakeProofed Marital Like Intact-Condoms (both Male+Female +Contraceptive pill used).. No chance for Unplanned Pregnancy or Marital-errors/terrors.

2. Semi-verified partially or monolaterally verified. Like driving vehicle with one headlight only at night. Risk is higher or (Failed Contraceptives like late pills or Torn-Condoms)

3. Bilaterally unverified without Background checks or precaution, Due-Diligence with Traditional or Modern Methods by both error side.(High Risk Marriage eg (No Contraceptives, pre-Marital AIDS, no Condom unsafe Sex prone to STDs or unexpected consequences). Eg 15 yrs Teen Helloped-lovers.. https://m.timesofindia.com/city/bhopal/bhopal-teen-lovers-elope-boy-faces-rape-charge-death-rap/articleshow/75419498.cms

TrueVsFraud Maritals, Lively Vs Deadly Marriages.

Questions: What is the critical difference for a bitter or better life path?

Answer: Proper-planning is the difference between a bitter or better life path.

There are Two GDPs of a Nation.  One is elevated (Gross Domestic Product) other is neglected (Gross Divorces Potential) (Gross Domesticated Product)? Where many economists talk of the poverty-trap, few talk of the puberty-trap or the marital-honey-trapping (by troth genders)

One answer is there are less VVIP Vs LIE Marriages on the Justly-married to Unjustly-married spectrum.(Details Below). Writing this on 20/11/22 Post IMD 2022).

Many are Seeking marriage for Better Social, Financial & Narcial Status and want to be married superficially-legally (Rightfully show off signs of marriage like Ring, Thali, Sindoor, Toering, spouse surname and child.. etc) but they do not want to be liable with responsibilities and ethics of married-persons.

Synopsis

1. Introduction of Situation.

2. Explanation of Sophistication.

3. Proposal of Solutions.

Difference between VVIP-Marriage  Vs LIE-Marriage.

Domestic-Frauds, Domestic-Violence, Divorce, Relational-Murders, Dowry-Deaths & Marital-Suicides will Stop, once we Stop asking-stupidly If a Marriage is Love or Arranged & Start asking-rationally if it’s a VVIP or a LIE-Marriage for Better Marital Safety of Citizens.

A. VVIP Positive-Marital Process(a GRP Idea): Has 4 Steps I.e

1. Verify,

2. Validate,

3. Investigate-Integrate &

4. Project for Future.

(Rationality Based Maritalogy). Higher Benefits with lower Risks. Eg. Mukesh-Nita Ambani, Maduri Dixit and Nene, Abhishek-Aishwarya rai… etc (Marito-Scope Conpatibility). VVIP marriages can be well arranged or Verified-Love Marriages.

Indic-Cultural Eg.. Shiva-Parvathi: How Shiva Verifies with Tests and Trials the Suitability and Sincerity of the Spouse. https://www.hinduvision.com/post/shiv-parvati-love-affair-the-ultimate-divine-union

B. LIE Negative-Marital Process:

11. Look-Lust/Luck-Love(Face-Fake),

2. Interest, Interact, Induce/seduce-Influence-Isolate, Intercept, Interfere.

3. Entrap/Ensnare- Exploit- End.

(Irrationality/ Emotionality Based Maritalogy). Higher Risk with lower benefits. Eg. Aftab-Shradha Walker Luve, Isolate, Exploit. Fraud’Hororscope-Compatibility.

These CAN be Arranged-Lie Marriages or Love-Lie marriages. Eg.. in Indic Culture Vishwamitra-Menaka, Vishrava Lakshman-Shurpanakha attempted marriage, NikkiYadav-Sahil Fridge Copycat-Murder case..

Following Good Process brings Progress, No process brings gambling & Bad-Process brings Regress. The VVIP-process/Protocols can be done by an aware person/persons on either sides or both sides to create more safer marriages. Suitor-emptor (latin Legal Maxim Marriers Beware). Shaadi ki seediyan.

Marital_Fraud_Prevention_India.

TakeHome/Make-Home  Message: How To have a 4Step VVIP-Marriage Successful marriage & Avoid LIE-Marriages.

Verify The Past, Validate the Recent Past, Integrate the Present and Project the Futures. For 4 Main Areas in Acronym VVIP-Marriers are to Beware of “FeMaLeS-History”, I.e Marital Liabilities impact more than ASSets.

1.Finance-History (Illegal Transactions/ Tax Evasion, Debts, Black-Money, Corruption, Crime-compensation etc ),

2.Medical-History (Genetic-Disorders, Psycho-Trauma, STDs, ACE, HIV, Abortions, etc)

3. Legal History (Abuse, Torts, Family-Property, Civil & Criminal cases.. involved etc)

4. Social History (Romances, Affairs, Ex-Spouse, Children, workplace stress/security, Relative-Rivals, Socio-Political competitors..etc)

& Current-Status of Lover/Fiance/Spouse, Family and Friends.

1. Introduction of Situation.

Marital-Risks in the Indian-system have increased without increase in Marital-Safety/Insurance of the system. Hidden traps have increased where it’s easy to make risky-decisions while hard to make well-informed-decisions.

In the marital spectrum of Indian-Marriages best marriages can be considered proper VVIP marriages(Violet-Indigo-Blue(VIB) Marriage) I.e Very Very Important Persons marriages eg. Virat Kohli-Anushka Sharma, Narayana-SudhaMurthy, Aishwarya-Abhishek, Saif-Kareena,

Normal-Marriages are ok Marriages(of Green Yellow) and worst marriages(Of Orange, Red/Black(ORB) color ) are considered as improper VVIP Marriages i.e Aftab-Shraddha (36 piece tandoor case), Bill-Melinda, Brad-Jolie, Johnny Deep case, SSR-Chakraborthy, other Red-Black marriages.

Most of current Marital-Questions and Equations focus on Whom to marry?(Person) or Where to marry? (Place) or What Marriage it is arranged, love or random & accidental? (Parlance/Put in place).

And why more important questions of Why Marriage?(Purpose), What marriage? (Pact I.e Hindu MA, Special MA, CMA or Sharia Act, Covenant-Marriage) and How Marriage?  ARE NOT BEING PRIORITIZED.

Do notice globally India may have high divorce rate and more higher is the marital-separation-rates.

Why are we in this unhealthy relational marital situation? Not many Sources make the marriers aware or informed. This is reason for writing this article.

2. Explanation of Sophistication.

Though marriage maybe one of the most important life-decisions, Marriage is a complex institution without a standard agency or facilitator. As every other social-institution that’s to protect it is abusing the Marital-Institution there is the rape of the Marital-System by vested interests (Industries, Buisness, Civic Societies, Clans, Ideologies, Associations.. etc)

For an analogy, the economy of countries are taken care of by measure of GDP gross domestic product and other metrics. For the academics of nation there is the impact factor of knowledge and paper, what are the metrics for having safer families and relationships? The only metrics for institution of marriage are number of marriages and divorces. Other is Domestic Violence cases registered, but violence that’s happening covertly with emotional abuse goes undetected and under reported.

Thus as the focus of global attention is on economic and material growth(Science and Technology). The humanities and arts of life are being sidelined and taken for granted. This neglect of the most important Institutions of Society Marriage, Family & Culture is going to cost us in the future heavily in few years time.

In Institution of industries there are various quality control parameters, frameworks and agencies which streamline the process and aid progress of the institutions. For eg. ISO certifications, Lean Six Sigma, Agile methodology,.etc with Various Industry Safety and Security protocols followed and validated by civic authorities or civic societies(Industrial-Associations  & trade unions too make it safer for the employees and workmen)

In Institution of Marriage is there equivalent,similar quality control parameters, frameworks or agencies? Which make the institution safer, stronger and sustainable?. No there is a gap of social negligence.

Our solution for risky marriages is VVIP Marriage Protocols.

3. Proposal for solutions.

1. Verified, 2. Validated 3. Integrated & 4. Projected-Prosperous Marriage protocols.

1. Verified: It matters a lot to verify the credentials, claims and character of a Prospective-spouse and their 3 circles (inner-circle, Attached-circles and support/influence-circles). Eg. Trustworthiness, Civil/Cibil Scores of party to marital contract.

2. Validated: There needs to be a validation process by an unbiased third party to give validation to the verified parameters and factors. Eg. HR Background verification validation by company(Professional and personal integrity level).

3. Integrated: there needs to be an analysis of level of integration of both the parties by similar objectives, mission , vision and execution statements of the two parties before merger/marriage. Very different marital-cultures and marital-compatibility can have high complexities and complications due to the relational-interaction.

4. Projected: Like scope and plans of a startup and partnerships is projected in proposal, annual projections and periodic appraisals have KPI, KRAs and reports. Similarly marriage as a life-project needs to have risk-prevention and marital-management monitoring. This can help people and societies create more quality-marriages and safer relationships.

Conclusion:

Thus As reasoned above Shiva-Parvathi had a VVIP-Marriage type that’s why they have a strong unbreakable eternal bond.. where as other relations of Vishrava-Kaikesi, Laxman-Surpanekha, Ravana, may be categorized as a LIE Marriage-type. Finally a happy/sad marriage can happen by chance/luck (low Safety-High Risk-Gamble) but a proper VVIP Marriage(Safer maybe with Calculated Risks) can happen by Careful Plan, Choice, Design and Deliberate Intent only.

any institution to succeed and prosper needs a good vision, mission and execution plan..

When we fail to plan, we plan to fail.

When we fail to plan maritals as a society, we plan to fail maritally in societies.

The most Important of Marital/Relational/Familial Compatibilities is not Astrological or Hematological, Geneological, Race/Religion/Regional-lingual Compatibility or SocioEconomical.., The Most Important Compatibility for Safer Marriage is Ideological-Compatability.

Thus the concepts of  “Seven colors of marital-rainbow” if seen and also the “5M Marital Protocols” and the VVIP Marital Process if understood and followed instead of reading the outdated kama-sutra these can form the 3 chapters of the Mangalya-Sutra. Other marital-concepts like safer relational-Education are in blog search.

Thanks for reading and breeding to create the next generation of marriers.

GRP

Resources and References:

1. From Indian Tandoor to Fridge. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/11/20/s225-landmark-case-reports-links-between-the-sushil-tandoor-naina-case-and-aftab-shradhha-keema-case/

2. “5M Pre-Marital Fitness”.

S197: ‘5M- PreMarital Fitness Tests’ For Safer & Healthier Lives.

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