#Seven+ Colors of Marital-Life: Better Halves to Bitter Halves in Marriage-Spectrum.

#Marital-Relational Color Theory.

Discover the 7 Possibilities of Relationships in Families. Know to see the #Marital-Spectrum or #Relational-Spectrum From (Red_Black/-5) Materialistic-Risky to Spiritualistic-Safer Maritals(Violet_White/+5).

#Marital-Rainbow #RelationalSpectrum.

How to Gain knowledge & ability to Check & Identify what are the histories, presents & futures of our Relationships, Marital-Contracts & Families. Marriage is about 5 Ps of Marital_Parameters I.e

1.Puberty(Parental Pressures)

2.Proximity(Physical-Pleasures)

3.Prosperity (Professional-Measures),

4. Property (Public-Treasures/ Spiritual-Treasures) and

5. Progeny (Baton_Succesors, Planetary-Annexures).

By Time based classification

0. In animalistic society there were no marriages as there is zero civility, it can be opportunistic & incestuous.

1. Ancient Tribal-Marriages were for naturalism, community & practicality,

2. Current Modern-Global Marriages are tending towards Materialism, Power-Status, Dominance and control, &

3. Golden Civic-Cultural Marriages are to Empower, Serve and Contribute Sustainance to Self & Society.

Key-Concepts: #Marriage-Spectrum, Weddings Vs Marriages, Romantic-Love Vs Spousal-Love, Marital-RainBow, Weddings is a start given by Venus(Love), Marriages is a journey through Mars(War). Marital-Rationality, Knowledge-Gap in Home-Science. Good(White) to Bad(Black) Marriage Spectrum. #Marital-Compatibility Mapping. Violet-Spiritual Vs Red-Material-Marriages. #Marital-Sciences, #Marital-ColorCoding, #Marital-Safety.

Most Basic education lacks concept-awareness of difference between Love Vs Lust, Love-Marriage Vs Arranged-Marriage Vs Fraud-Marriage. This post is to help the Knowledge-Gap.

What are Basic Essentials & Ingredients of a Valid_Proper Marriages?

Factors impacting Marriage/Maritals/Relationship = (1.Biological+ 2.Social+ 3.Legal+ 4.Physical_Sexual+ 5.Psychological+ 6.Financial-Ecological +7.Religious +8.Cultural+ 9.Political+ 10. Environmental+ 11.SuperSystemics.)

Above Factors with Matching & Compatibility. Different Combinations, permutations & intensities of these factors produce different Colours and Shades of Marriages_Relationships . Like the Marital Spectral Color Wheel.

What are The 7- kinds /types of Marital-Relationships?

Most Indians are aware of only 3 kinds of Marriage Arranged-Marriages, Love-Marriages & Deranged-Marriages. But there are More 7+ kinds of Marriages which are listed here.

Based on the way the marriages start there are 2 classifications I.e:

Initial Coupling & weddings pre-determined, proposed, fixed and executed mainly by the Spouses individually themselves with lesser involvement of their families-friends its termed as 1. Love marriage eg: shown in Bollywood films Maine pyar kiya, Dilwale Dulhaniya le Jayenge & Families: Hritik Roshan, Shah Rukh Khan etc..(Essential Ingredient:  Prior Acquaintance & 121 proposal relationship of spouses before marriage),

& Marriage-weddings proposed, fixed, executed and supported with prior and higher involvement of Spousal-families before spouse it can be termed as 2. Arranged marriage (There is no Prior relations between spouses before marriage). And within Arranged there are

A. Wisely Arranged Marriage (Better & Full Process & Right Marital Standards I.e  less Risky & more safe) Violetish-Marriages and

B. Badly Arranged Marriage ( less M.Q and incomplete process and procedures with low marital-standards, more risky & less safe) Reddish-Marriages.

Whats the Real deep Difference between Love, Lust, Wedding & Marriage?

1. Love is more engagement of higher-desires of belonging to people and places for collective-excellence (Pre frontal Cortex function Upper 3-Chakras), Love for ideals, culture, people, person etc.(more We & Ours-ism) More of Serotonin, Endorphin & Oxytocin Driven (Long term Relationships). Foundation of love is in truer perceptions & open-receptions.

2. Lust is engagement of lower desires of longing for procurement of things & procreation of selfish-excellence (only Me & Mine-ism). Biochemically Driven by Sex hormones (Testosterone-Estrogen) & Dopamine-Cortisol(Illegal Illicit Sex) (Short term flings & affairs). Foundations of lust is in false presumptions and hidden deceptions.

3. Wedding socially is an event committed on 1 or 2 days & legally its Acceptance & Signing and mark of shake hand of the Marital-Contract between the spouse. This may have pre-nuptial agreements (Implied-unexpressed, Expressed Oral or Written and registered). Register marriages have wedding in the register office. With photography as declaration of the Contractees and social Eye witnesses.

4. Marriage is a life-long commitment and performance of the unknown, unwritten & unsigned but morally understood Socio-legal Contract. Wedding is a One-day Event a milestone, Bonafide-Marriage is a one-life commitment a journey towards Mutual Prosperity (for the loyal) & for the disloyal seeMala fide-Marriage it’s a way to more property, progeny and resource for exploitation of spouse/spouses.

By using Principle of Reasonable_Classifications found 7 Categories of Marital Relationships are possible. If more are perceivable plz post in comment. Each marriage is dynamic and like a sapling and tree needs constant care and efforts.. the colors can change depending on many factors.

For example in Ramayan RamSita Marriage started as Violet-Marriage @Ayodhya, Became Blue in Forests, then Red with Intervention by A Marital-Invader, then became Green when Rescued later it became a white-marriage.

What Color is your Marriage-State right now?

Like Seven Colours on a Rainbow, these are the 7 Seven Colours of the Marital-Vow.. Color-Coding of Marriages. Violet spectrum closer to Light-White & Red spectrum closer to Dark-Black.

An attempt to view and recognize all the halves in the world in one page. Vasudaiva Kutumbakam, Whole world is a Family.. yes but what kind of family?.. These are the categories by chance for some and by choice for some.

(We can observe the full Spectrum at the same place in socially ultra liberal & legally polygamous Communities & countries). As most of the modern marito-legal world is subscribing to the Monogamous and criminalized- Bigamous-Marital System the other systems are also seen as marital-minorities.

In the English language and common societies’ at many times/places we may have come across a phrase ‘Better-Half’. We may have for various reasons superficially accepted and moved on with the meaning and understanding. By personal-Assumptions and social-prejudices. Have you heard and introspected on the phrase and it’s implications for your parenting, Marrying and Procreating?

We can observe that there is a Spectrum of Categories to be seen here between the extremes of Better-Halves (High Collaborations(Benefit), Lower Competitions(Risks) and Bitter-halves (Zero Collaborations, Higher Competitions) this post intends to shine some light on this dark area of ‘Home-science’ or Couples-art or “Inter-genders Symbiosis”. Do leave your ideas for others in comments to help in improving the collective understanding of this phenomena of marital-coupling (Secretive-Couplings too).

Marital Compatibility= CoOperatibility (+ve Aligning-Factors) –Conflictability (-ve Alienating-Factors)

1. Better Halfs (Violet-Indigo Luxury Marriage)(Near to Whiter area): (High Coopertability, Low Conflictability), When each spouse is relatively better (cumulatively -Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Ethically, Financially, Familially, Socially, Spiritually.. etc) than the other in a relationship thus complementarily making the sum of both better than the individuality of two. When the match maybe made for heaven for creating heaven on earth. With the spirit of collaboration and better future for all. Eg. The Kenned ys, MK Gandhi-Kasturba, The Obama-couple and other couples like them do leave your ideal-couple list in comments.

2. Equal Half (Orange&Pink-Marriage): (High Cooperation, High Competition) When the Spouse Is same as the other in all aspects even biological. Homosexual Partners. Eg. Freddie mercury & his partner, Queen Singer lesbian or gay or Intersex partners of same gender and orientation type. Match made in alternate-Eden made for instead of Adams & Eves but for Adam and Steve, or Ada and Eve, or Adma and Even(Trans-Couple). Also Narcicuss-Marriage or Sologamy, one Indian example married to self..

3. Equitable Half (Cool Blue-Green Marriage):(High Compatibility, Low Conflictability), When the spouse though are different (compatible-gender.. etc) they complement(Male-Female) each other in most aspects physically, emotionally, socially, Financially, Morally & spiritually. It’s a match made on earth with spirit of Cooperation. Eg. The Curies, Madam Curie, NarayanaMurthy & Sudha Murthy and Couple-people like them who are less competing/conflicting, and more Mutually-cooperating/collaborative in family & Socially-Contributive . Longest married couples:

4. Seperated/Departed Halves(Yellow): These are couples who may have been together for sometime eventually they have been seperated by Mutual Consent Divorce or Deaths or Religious Renunciation (Sanyasa) by various reasons (incompatibility, conflicting personal demands, affairs, imprisonment, mental issues, death, etc): EG: Bill & Melinda Gates(2021), (High Compatabilty changes to High Conflictability but resolvable later in relationship).

5. Sweet and Sour marriage(Orangish-Brown). Like hypothetical LaxMan-Surpannakha marriage in Ramayana. Surpanakha was a shape-shifter an ugly-personality in a beautiful-body, similarly modern cosmetics and use of silicone to increase the 2BPs(Boobs, Butts & Penis enlargements) are done to visually attract victims for trapping. Happy couples with 4 kids and gud life with bitter sour divorce can be Orange marriage. Eg. https://newsingermany.com/kim-kardashian-and-kanye-west-agree-to-200000-in-alimony-after-divorce/

6. Bitter Halves(Red):(Low Compatibility, High Conflictability), When it’s a match made in hell, if spouse is incompatible, non-complementing and pro-conflicting in multiple aspects. When theres lot of friction and trauma within the relationship and the relationship is leading to turmoil and dark pit of Marital Discord. Eg. Bradpitt & Angelina Jolie(Branded Branjelina) and such troubled Couples: Shortest Married couples:(55 hours Britney Spears & Jason Alexandar), Johnny Depp and Amber Heard Case..

If Bitter Half is of a Woman or Trans-Women: http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines

If Bitter_Half is for a Man Helpline here: https://www.saveindianfamily.in/) All India# 08882498498.

4.(B) BITE-R Half (Bloody Red-Marriage(InfraRed-Hot): alias Battered_Half (Bonus _Bogus-CateGORY Subset of Bitter-Half) Theses are entities(pure evil in Human form) inspired by Twilight Vampire Movies, they are not Metaphorical Vampires but real who can kill people by Biting them to death.. (Female Biter-Half) see this recent news https://www.hindustantimes.com/cities/patna-news/woman-chokes-husband-to-death-with-teeth-in-rohtas-101650819276056.html

Biter & Eater Cannibsl Wives(Black Widows): eg Jill COITus killed 11 Men: https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/true-crime-series/10-notorious-real-life-black-widows/

Top 10 Most Cruel Wives who killed their husbands for rage

Also in case of a Male Biter-Half: https://www.timesnownews.com/ahmedabad/article/ahmedabad-drunk-man-bites-abuses-thrashes-wife-over-frivolous-issue-complaint-registered/760886

https://badmarriages.net/judy-buenoano-goodyear/

7. Buttered Halves (UltraViolet-Marriage): These are individuals/couples who are pampered due to access to contributing social systems and resources. Eg Ziona and his 39 wives: & For women in free Ultra-liberal communities coupling in few countries. This may not recommended as it may cause socio-biological(genetic) issues in long term with unhealthy genes downstream. Situation with higher Gender-Imbalance in Demographics.. Higher Male Ratio in population can tend to PolyAndrous-Maritals(Haryana) and Higher Female Ratio can tend towards Polygynous-Maritals(NE States).

8. Non-Halves or Full-Halves (Colorless-Marriage) i.e Singles married with Life/God, Singles with no need or opportunity to mingle: These are Celebate-souls or Celebrated-Souls who are wholesome & complete by themself, not needing any other half or quarter to complete their lives. They are free souls, unbound and unrestricted by Marital vows or voes and vices. They may be asexual or amaritals or renunciates, Eg. Vivekananda, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Modi, Rahul Gandhi, Kamaraj, Mother Theresa, Sister Nivedita, Monks, Nuns.. etc

They are Singles in a Relationship who have no need for halves but may marry for external/Family/societal pressures and not necessarily for internal/personal/Social pleasures.

There is a perceivable Normal Distribution curve in every group dynamics. Many in the popular media and literature may have been exposed to the brighter or darker side of things, knowing the spectrum of grey areas and dark risks can help one in their journey of relational life.

The spectrum can be a positively balanced or imbalanced depending on the Bitter to better halves ratio of our society. There is a need for *Relational Education* not only Sex or gender education which is to be upgraded in our humanities education systems. This education can reduce the civil mismatches & Marital Discords while it can prolong the Societies average marital success stories & marital/family happiness index of the nation.

The spousal relation is not static it has dynamic phases dependant on Internal-Factor of the Individual and External Factors of both spouses & families.

Like 1. Hitch (Stich-Hook), 2. Switch (Cheat-BigamySwap), 3. Snitch (Back-inform,Conspire, Fake Case), 4. Bitch (BackStab-Adulteries) & 5. Ditch (Betray-Deserter) or 6. Reach (Trusted-Successors).

Regards,

GRP

Unique Useful Resources:

1. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2021/01/12/why-many-top-at-gate-score-but-flunk-at-mate-score/

2. https://www.apaizersmensrights.com/2020/04/guide-to-quash-498a.html?m=1

3. Important Marital-Info for Bachelors:

If you are a bachelor looking for a bride or you are looking for a bride for your son , for God’s sake please be informed about IPC section 498a which can be used to loot you & your family. Please follow the below checklist to make sure you are not getting a 498a wife or daughter in law. It would be better if you can hire a detective to gather the informations mentioned below. This would save you from the huge humilation, harassment that you & your family may face in police custody/jail, Courts & Mental-Hospitals.

• Check whether someone from the girl’s father’s family or mother’s family has ditched her husband for trivial reasons and staying in her parent’s house. Separated and Alienating Pseudo-Single Parents.
• Know If the girl or entity that you are going to marry is currently having a full fledged relationship with someone who is a frequent visitor to the girl’s house – stay away
• If the girl is having a relationship affairs with her brother in law or her close relative or colleagues on tinder- stay away she is in union already wants you to just be a social-face so as to save here darker-face.
• Check whether the girl’s family is in deep debt (lot of home loans, car loans) and their income is less than their spending. They are morally-bankrupt.
• If both the girl’s parent are working , be double cautious , girls with lot of freedoms can really be troublesome
• Make sure there is not much difference in economic status between your family and girl’s family
• Make sure the girl is a good match to you physically. (example if she is fat and you are too thin, think again, do try Bi-change, wait see change and marry)
• If the girl starts saying things like “I love you ,etc.” before marriage trying to court and seduce you, just do not get melted or erected, 90% of the time she may be just acting as told by her parent to trap you, so check for true-deeper intentions to marry-YOU.
• if the girl has got a close lawyer relative and the lawyer is not earning much from his practice, be extra cautious. Verify whether the lawyer is ready to fight a fake 498a case against men.
• If the girl/fiancee is very hot(High Demand/Sexy+Risky) and hot tempered(Difficult-Emotional-Toxic), better to check & avoid if you don’t have resources to defend your home-family from marital-invaders.. eg. Of cases of Padmavati of Rajasthan, Sita of Ayodha, Royals of Troy, Prince of British Royal Family.
• If you believe in astrology , for God’s sake get both of your kundali matched by a good astrologer
• If you are not taking any dowry , better put in writing that “No dowry was exchanged in this marriage” in a stamp paper and get it signed by the girl and her parent
• Courtesy : http://498a.co.in/

4. Marital-Rape Risk (mis-Solutions for help of Abused-Women, at hands of Narc-women can be turned as Problems for Abused-Men) if clauses of conswquences for Misuse undefined & unimplemented: https://youtu.be/2PFwCMOMmvk

5. Tools for Spouse-Checklist: https://www.boundless.org/relationships/the-spouse-checklist/

6. Marrier Protection Act: https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/05/05/s130-marrier-protection-act-2030-proposed-act-for-safer-indian-marriages-as-per-ucc/

7. 2 Headed-Coin/Snake, Marital Rape on one side & other side the Rape of Marital-Systems. Wedding Gift Movie: https://youtu.be/16lFtP3CMpY

8. Duluth Model:

Redources-References:

1. An Open Rakhsha-Bandhan-Letter to all our dear Indian BROiSters. https://grpvcare2dare.design.blog/2022/08/12/s183-an-open-letter-to-my-dear-indian-sisters-brothers-on-rakshabandhan-2022-remembering-a-sisters-love/